Find common ground
“Once you have separated positions from interests, you should look for shared interests,” Peterman suggests. Even if you’re very different people, you probably value some of the same things – it’s why you moved to the same neighborhood.
“What do you have in common regarding this topic? Are you both interested in a certain standard for your living environment? Do you both appreciate quiet enjoyment of your space? Is having a civil relationship with your neighbor important to you? Is having a good reputation in your building/neighborhood important to you? These are just some questions to ask to get the ball rolling.”