Tips for deescalating it
In some cases, you may have no choice but to approach the neighbors yourself. If you think they may be the type who won’t respond in kind, it’s very important to take these tips from Peterman. “It depends on how we are defining retaliate and the nature of the issue. If you have weighed all of your options and have decided that you still want to approach your neighbor to discuss the issue that is bothering you, then you should consider three steps: 1) separate the person from the problem, 2) identify positions and interests, and 3) look for shared interests,” she says.