Should You Get Dressed Up? Zoom Wedding Etiquette That’s Still Unclear - Page 2

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Do you RSVP?

For a real wedding, you receive a physical invitation in the mail. It’s made of high-quality card stock, the envelope flaps look like little golden gates, and there is a smaller card within it on which you use to RSVP. When it’s a Zoom wedding, all you get is an email with a link to copy, meeting ID, and password. So do you RSVP? Do you let the bride and groom know if you’re coming? How early? As someone who got married on Zoom, I can say this: guest list drama is still a thing. We had our A list and our B list, and there are some estranged family members whose relationships are so bad, we wouldn’t dare even have them on the same screen together. So, we invited our favorites first. If they said no, we knew it was safe to invite the family they were beefing with. This is just one of the reasons the bride and groom might appreciate knowing if you’ll be “attending.” If you can’t, at least drop a note stating why rather than ghosting them. They didn’t send the invite to everyone, so you should feel honored to be on the “guest” list.