Ask The Luv Coach: My Husband’s Obesity Is Ruining Our Love Life

December 12, 2011  |  

This week on The Luv Coach, Coach Brody helps a woman who is struggling with her sex life in light of her husband’s obesity and his lack of interest. Read on and weigh in:

Dear Luv Coach,

I am a 46 year old, recently re-married woman who has a problem. My husband has recently gained so much weight that he’s unable to perform sexually. Even before the weight gain, our sex life was less than satisfying to me, but I dealt with it because it was part of the package. To top things off, his daughter and grand-daughter recently moved in with us, so there isn’t much chance of us having a romantic evening together. I was single for so long, it is very hard for me to want to stay married to him. Right now I am the only one in the house working, so that adds another layer of frustration on this situation.

In all honesty, I am not physically attracted to him. I am not aroused by him, but one reason I got married was to be able to enjoy a healthy sexual relationship. I have asked him to work out with me, or even go walking with me. Nothing. I have encouraged him to have surgery to begin the weight loss process, nothing. The last time we tried to be intimate, his stomach got in the way, if you know what I mean?

I just want some suggestions about what I can do to keep myself from going crazy and perhaps some ways to find relief from this situation. Thank you.
-Lauri

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