It doesn’t have to be terrible
For some reason, movies and shows have created this idea that a woman’s first time has to be painful and terrible, but that simply isn’t true. That just perpetuates the idea that men don’t have to perform foreplay, or learn to identify when a woman is properly lubricated. Whether she wants to hear it from you or read about it online, make sure your daughter knows that sex doesn’t have to be painful. Some women’s hymens remain intact their entire lives (if they don’t have kids).