10 Black Men Discuss Red Flags That Turn Them Off When Dating You
Matthew Figueroa|28|@matt_figgz
The main red flags I look for are related to how they treat or talk about other people; specifically in regards to empathy. In this age of social media, people are losing that human connection. I need a partner who is mindful of the struggles different types of people experience (due to race, class, gender, etc) and an objective awareness of self. This is a good indicator of the types/depth of conversation we can have (ain’t nothing like that mental attraction), and us being able to communicate our opposing viewpoints in the event of an argument or fight. Are we able to step away from the ego to listen to the other’s point of view, working on understanding vs being right. If I have doubts that I can weather the storm with you, then how could we build anything worthwhile?
