10 Black Men Discuss Red Flags That Turn Them Off When Dating You

Ahkiel White| 30 | IG @ahkielwhite| 

For me the level and depth of consistency remains the core warning sign for a waning relationship, the development of one, or lack thereof. However, this is layered. Is there a comfortable pacing and frequency in interaction? Is there an evolution in communication methods? As in, we sparked this via DM, moved to text, we now chat it up on FT, and link for dates? But most importantly is the discourse of substance? Meaning, are you allowing yourself to be vulnerable, truly seen, and open with your incumbent shorty and vice versa? The goal of intentionally dating ought to be a relationship, one exercising substantive dialogue inclusive of open and vulnerable dives into the wounds of yesterday and dreams of tomorrow. I try to lean on discernment within this courting phase as signals are loud and clear from an interested party but equally as loud from a disinterested one. So a lack of consistency in message, presentation, and growth in vulnerability comprises the sirens I believe to be most prevalent while dating today.