I always like to play devil’s advocate when I can, so even though I have written a bit about why some couples regret eloping, I do need to say that I totally see the benefits of skipping the whole long engagement thing and just tying the knot, spontaneously, with your boo. I can see how for some, the pros far outweigh the cons and even if they face some disappointed family members later, it’s all worth it to skip the engagement. When was the last time you met a bride-to-be that wasn’t incredibly stressed out? The whole to-be part has a way of really interfering with one’s regular life. I often look at my partner and say, “I wish we could just be married now. Like, I wish we could just snap our fingers, and be husband and wife.” And he agrees. All of the stuff that has to happen between having that desire and making it a reality is a headache. Here are some serious perks of skipping the engagement and just tying the knot.
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No proposal anxiety
My partner and I, personally, aren’t the type who would do the whole highly orchestrated, surprise proposal thing. It’s not our style, but furthermore, we feel the proposal is a bit antiquated. He doesn’t need to formally ask me to marry him. I’ve already told him a hundred times I’d like to marry him. I am not going to make him get down on one knee. This is an agreement between equals. And a lot of people agree that a proposal just feels…condescending.
