Why You Might Regret A Shotgun Wedding
Planning and carrying out a wedding is no small feat. It’s stressful, time-consuming, emotionally draining, and can bring out the worst in people—it even breaks some couples up. So, it’s no surprise that some couples would just rather not have a big wedding. But, as far as wedding planning breaking couples up, can I just say that…those couples were headed for a split either way. Planning a wedding presents a couple with a challenge, to be sure, but it’s important that couples can overcome challenges together. I can promise you life will throw harder things at your relationship than wedding planning so at the very least, you should be able to survive that. Now, if your resistance to planning a wedding has nothing to do with fear that it will break you up but you just don’t want one…maybe reconsider. Not everyone has to have (or can even afford) a massive, $50,000 wedding. But even something small—all your friends in your yard for a BBQ and witnessing of the vows—can be very satisfying. Meanwhile, having a shotgun wedding can leave you feeling disappointed. Here are reasons you may regret having a shotgun wedding.
You deprive your parents of the joy
You will likely break your parents’ hearts. Even if you invite them and it’s just you, them, and the person ordaining the ceremony, they’ll still feel sad. Most parents dream of throwing a real wedding for their child. You just stole that from them. You may think this is my day and not theirs—but that won’t put off the deep sadness you may wind up feeling, when you see their sadness.