I’m reaching an age when a few of my friends or family members are moving onto their second marriages. I’ve noticed a pattern: they often marry someone that was already in their life, when they were still married to the first spouse. Perhaps it can seem deceitful or a little controversial. Was there some sort of affair going on there previously? Even just an emotional one? Did they always have this person as a backup plan, should the first marriage fall through? Well, it’s rarely anything exactly like that. There are actually a lot of good reasons that people look to their inner circle—or close outer circle—for a second spouse rather than turning to the thousands of strangers on dating apps and offered through matchmaking services. Even just hearing that prospect, can’t you see why a friend is more appealing? Here is why the second marriage is often to a friend.
He was there during the divorce
This friend may have been a support system during the actual divorce. He was a shoulder to cry on. He provided a couch to sleep on during the bad fights. He was there during your most vulnerable time, and that creates a very deep connection.