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When you really love someone, your emotions are strongly linked together. You feel what your partner feels. It’s part of being best friends. His victories are yours, but his disappointments are also yours. It’s one of the beautiful things about feeling very connected to someone—you’re never alone in your sorrows and you always have someone to celebrate your wins with you. But, because this is true, that also means things get awkward when one of you gets some really great news on the same day the other one gets some bad news. It can feel like an episode of “Curb Your Enthusiasm”—you’re just bending over backwards to spare your partner’s feelings, and hide the fact that you’re actually really happy on a day that he’s miserable. And, on a selfish level, you can’t help but think, “Couldn’t this have happened to you on another day?” (Hey, you’re only human). Here are the funny realities of times you have a great day on his really bad day.


You have to do a quick 180

You bound up the stairs with pep in your step and a huge smile on your face, ready to scream the good news from the rooftop. You got a promotion. Your short story got published. You got the part in a commercial. Whatever it is, you’re bursting at the seams with the information. Then, you see that your partner is crying or deeply upset, and you have to do a total 180 and wipe that smile off your face. It’s not appropriate.

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