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I had a funny “Ah-ha!” moment recently when thinking back on some of the almost-boyfriends I’ve had. At the time, when things erupted…dissolved…or exploded, I thought it was the guys’ fault. That’s just sort of a rule of being young—everything is everyone else’s fault. I didn’t struggle with some of the self-love or insecurity issues many of my friends did, but perhaps my problem was on the opposite spectrum—I was unwavering in my demands and I had an uncompromising idea of what it meant for a man to respect me. I didn’t really think about where he could have been coming from or what he may have needed. If something struck me as the least bit unsettling, I cut bait. In retrospect, I realize that, while most of those men weren’t right for me anyways, it was my high expectations that ultimately sent those relationships to their graves. Here is why having high expectations can ruin your dating experience.


You expect instant conversation flow

You believe that, like in the movies, you should have easy, witty, electric banter, right out the gates. If you struggle to get the conversation going, then you think you two just aren’t meant to be.

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