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I understand that in the time of Tinder, DMs, and ghosting, it’s taboo for me to suggest anyone limit themselves to only dating one person at a time. Aren’t we in a time of sexual awakening? Shouldn’t women be free to consider their options? Shouldn’t no man feel he has a claim over a woman? Yes, yes, and sort of—your husband has some claim over you, I would hope. That’s how fidelity exists. But just because we can do something (like date five guys at once) doesn’t mean we should do it. Part of being an adult is analyzing all the things you can do and deciding what’s best for you, personally. Just because all of your friends are dating more men than they can keep track of, and have a few on-again-off-again things in the rotation as well as casual hookups, doesn’t mean that’s the formula for you. To be honest, I don’t know if that’s the formula for anyone. Call me old fashioned, but these are reasons I believe dating multiple people ruins your chances at finding love.
You’ll be too picky
Kind of like you can’t make a decision when online shopping because you’re aware of all the other options out there, when you date multiple men, you won’t be decisive, either. In fact, you’ll likely be very picky, and write a man off at the first sign he isn’t perfect, all because you think, “It’s okay. I have three other dudes to choose from.” But what happens when you write them all off for not being perfect?
