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Sometimes I think women can be a bit more demanding of their friends than men are. I feel like I never really hear my boyfriend talk about being upset with a friend. Maybe every two years he’ll mention being a little disappointed in a friend. But then, he’ll tell me the next day he’s hanging with that friend. When he gets home from that hangout, I presume the two men would have discussed what my boyfriend was upset about. That’s what women do. But nope—he says they’re all good now. They just are. Without discussion. What?! I don’t understand that. But I guess that’s a part of how women are just more particular about female friendships. We have more rigid guidelines on how friends need to behave—towards us and towards others. I mean, I had one ex who had friends that were just basketball friends. He only saw them for basketball. That makes no sense to me. But maybe there’s beauty in that simplicity. Here is how women can be hard on their friends.
We have to love your boyfriend
If the whole crew doesn’t love one woman’s boyfriend, she’s going to hear about it. We’re going to get together and discuss. What will we do about this? What do we say to her? It has to be addressed. I think men just let their friends date and marry whomever and don’t really say anything unless their friend states he is unhappy. Not women. It’s hard on us if a friend marries someone we don’t like.
