From my understanding, being a groomsman is pretty simple. The groom just calls you up (or more likely texts you), asks you to be in his wedding party, you say yes, and get ready to rage your b*lls off at the bachelor party, and rent a tux at some point. Any woman who has ever been in a wedding party probably feels pretty jealous hearing that, right? It doesn’t seem like grooms make their groomsmen come over and arrange the guest gift bags with them. Grooms don’t make their best men attend not one but multiple tux fittings with them. Being a groomsman is a pretty sweet, hands-off deal. Being a bridesmaid is another story. It can be stressful on both the bridal party and the bride. You have women who wished they were bridesmaids who aren’t and women who are who don’t want to be. You have a bride trying to make everyone happy. And during all of this, everyone must appear cheery and positive so the bride doesn’t have a meltdown. Here are bridesmaid politics nobody talks about.
No dress flatters everyone
Look: the bride will try very, very hard to find a dress that can at least come close to flattering everyone. Those wrap-type dresses that can be adjusted into many styles are quite popular for bridesmaids dresses. But ultimately, she has one bridesmaid who is six feet tall, another who is five foot one, one who is as svelte as a ballerina and one who just had a baby so, no, they won’t all look phenomenal in the same dress.