Be adamant about alone time
You naturally need to put your kids first most of the time or else they possibly wouldn’t survive, or they’d grow up feeling neglected. But be adamant about having special, one-on-one time with your partner at least…twice a month. And set boundaries around the home like, not allowing the kids to sleep in your bed past a certain age or enter your room unless it’s an emergency after a certain hour. These rules won’t kill your kids, but not having them could kill your marriage.