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If you’re lucky, life will be pretty long and so, too, will your marriage. I don’t think many people really think about what it will mean to spend forever with somebody when they exchange vows. Sure, they have cute ideas in their heads about being very, very old together, rolling their walkers side by side in a retirement community. But becoming old should be the least of one’s worries when it comes to the challenges that face a marriage. Most likely, when a couple marries, times are pretty good. Some go through a bit of hardship before tying the knot, but surviving one short bout of hardship and going through dozens, that can last months (or years) and still finding ways to maintain your bond are very different challenges. If you aren’t in your marriage for the right reasons, and then don’t do the work to keep your values in sight, it’s easy to let a marriage fall apart. Here are life changes that cause weak couples to divorce.
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Having children
Even though having and raising children is supposed to be a beautiful event in a couple’s life (and, it is) it’s also an experience that greatly strains the bond between the parents. Suddenly, all of the focus is on the kids. The children’s needs always go before the needs of the parent—of the romantic partners. Before the kids arrived, the exact opposite was true—the partners put each other before all else.
