An apology is a powerful thing. Apologies have brought long-lost, estranged family members back together. Apologies have reunited childhood friends who were only separated by an age-old dispute that really doesn’t matter anymore. An apology can smooth over a lot. Meanwhile, failing to apologize can make the offense even worse. Usually, when you wrong someone (unless you did something truly unforgivable), they just want you to acknowledge you hurt them, to feel guilty, and to state all of that. Nobody is perfect. People make mistakes and other people get that. But when you aren’t willing to admit that you’ve messed up, then you put your pride in front of the feelings of others. It’s really silly when you think about it that way, right? That being said, not all apologies are created equal. How and when you apologize determine whether or not you’re forgiven. Here are the wrong ways to apologize.
Point out when they did the same thing
It doesn’t matter if this person once did the same thing to you. I mean…do we need to say it…two wrongs don’t make a right. All of the terrible things other people have done don’t justify you doing something bad. They don’t remove the pain you cause when you mess up.