Nobody’s relationship with their parents is perfect. We’ve all bumped heads with our parents a lot. We’ve all struggled with boundary issues with our parents. There have been times we wish our parents had been there more for us, and times we wish they’d butted out. There have been things we wanted our parents to give us that they wouldn’t, and plenty of advice that they did give us that we didn’t want. But, at the end of the day, for most women, when their wedding day arrives, it feels right to have their dad give them away. No matter what happened in the past, that’s their dad—their one and only. But some women don’t even have the luxury of contending with past drama or complicated feelings about their father before their wedding day because some brides don’t have fathers. Here’s a look at what it’s like for brides who don’t have dads to walk them down the aisle.
That moment with the planner
There’s that moment when you meet with your wedding planner to discuss the choreography of the event—which bridesmaid will walk with which groomsman and who will stand where under the gazebo. You have to tell her you don’t have a dad, and she has to at once rejigger her whole vision while trying to show sympathy.