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Ashanti is making the rounds, looking rather fabulous with this new razor sharp bob. And recently she sat down with Bethenny to chit and chat about a few things. As we’ve seen time and time again, whenever folks get a chance to talk to Ashanti, Nelly’s name often comes up. And Bethenny has interviewed enough black people at this point to know what’s up. So she asked her…in a roundabout way.
Bethenny: So you were rumored to dating Nelly, another big hip hop artist but you never confirmed it which is very sly and stealth and I kind of like your gangster. So are you secretive? Do you like to keep your private life private?Ashanti: I think for me personally there are certain things that you want to keep to yourself, you give little hints here and there and whatever but being in the public eye you get judged on everything you do so you kind of have to have a little bit to yourself and when you feel comfortable you let little things out as they come out.Bethenny: It’s very true and once you open pandora’s box you can’t close it.
And then Bethenny asked her about dating in general. Whether Ashanti is a happy single and how dating affects other areas of her life.
Bethenny: Are you happily single?Ashanti: I am, I am happy because there is so much going on and now I can focus on what I need to focus on which is my career, my music and speaking to women very powerfully.Bethenny: Do you feel when you’re with a man it’s different. You’re working differently and your message is different.Ashanti: It’s a distraction. It’s kind of a distraction because it’s like, ‘Where are you? What time are you coming home?’ Alright, but I have to go to studio. Okay, but I’m going to. You know what I mean?Bethenny: But you’re not working on anything? You don’t have a couple of things [i.e. men] on the burner? I don’t mean serious but don’t you always have something cooking?Ashanti: Come on there is always something brewing.
Yesterday, I wrote about Nelly’s Huff Post interview with Marc Lamont Hill. Though he talked about a variety of things, the conversation didn’t get juicy until Hill brought up the Spelman/”Tip Drill” controversy. Naturally, since it concerned his sister Jacqueline’s life, Nelly was still very passionate about that event. I noticed that some of you said Nelly should be over this by now. Umm… his sister died. That’s not something you don’t ever fully get over. But I digress. Yesterday, after watching Nelly’s interview I understood his point. I understood his frustrations and outrage, (with the exception of wanting to kick someone’s, presumably a woman’s, a$$), over the perception that the women of Spelman’s Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance were putting their protest over the life of Nelly’s sister. It seemed that the women of this group were so hellbent on calling out a black man that they were less concerned about the life of this black woman. And if Nelly’s interview were the only account of the incident, I would be happy to stand by that stance, my original stance.
But yesterday, one of our commenters let me know that the women of Spelman did indeed conduct another bone marrow drive. And when I asked her for a link to corroborate that statement, she directed me to an open letter written by Moya Bailey, one of the members of the feminist group, addressed to Nelly. In the letter, which was published on the Black Youth Project she answered all of the questions I had about the incident, after Nelly’s interview, and exposed some of the holes in his argument. Here are the highlights from the letter below and you can read the entire thing on the next page.
What the organization originally hoped to do
My group raised questions about the misogynoir in the video and lyrics, and when we heard that you were invited to campus by our Student Government Association, it seemed fair to us that we could ask you about the dehumanizing treatment of black women while you were asking us for our help. You declined our offer to talk about your music and lyrics. Instead, you chose to go to the press, which made our alleged threat of a protest an international news story.
Who canceled the bone marrow drive
Let’s be clear: No student or faculty member of Spelman College canceled your bone marrow registration drive. In fact, we held our own drive after you and your people chose to cancel the bone marrow registration drive for fear that there might have been a protest.
People railed against censorship as if our efforts were an attempt to get you banned from the airwaves, when all we really wanted was to have a conversation about the representations you produce and their potential impact on our communities.
Often Black feminists are represented as advocates for censorship. People often portray us as sex-hating, stick-in-the-mud conservatives concerned with respectability. That couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, we like sex so much (NSFW) we dare to think that women should enjoy it and not be subjugated to images that define our sexuality in limited ways. Music videos and lyrics, including yours, often portray women as silent partners and objects of male attention. This silence, Nelly, is not unlike the silence you expected from us regarding your visit.
On Nelly blaming Spelman’s feminist group for his sister’s death
You continue to not so subtly blame us for the transition of your sister even though Spelman still had a bone marrow registration drive–one that actually had more attendees than were initially signed up for your event. All of the “protesters” made the decision to register to ensure that the goals of the drive were honored. A few of us were already on the registry. If after all this we are still to blame for your sister’s passing, can we blame you then for the misogynoir that we face daily?
What she did agree with…
I will say that I did find something compelling in your interview. You are right: We should protest strip clubs, but not for the reasons you think. Any strip club or business that doesn’t provide benefits, unions, safe working conditions, paid sick leave, child care, etc., deserves our collective outrage.
I’m still a little fuzzy about a few things.
What is the distinction between strippers in the club and strippers in the video?
Is the degradation lessened, or does it even exist, if the women sign up and sign on?
And when exactly these women host their own bone marrow drive?
But all that being said, I do agree, like I mentioned yesterday, Nelly’s lyrics and the treatment for the video are demeaning. And whether the women agreed to be a part of this or not, we have to ask why Nelly himself thought this was ok. And not so much why he thought it was ok, because we know patriarchy is real, but why he was so hesitant to admit that he’d made a mistake.
Generally, Bailey’s letter explains her version of what happened during that time and I’m inclined to believe her. Her arguments illustrate that Nelly essentially just didn’t feel like answering questions about the video when he was attempting to do something noble for his sister. And because the women of Spelman’s feminist group were not willing to adhere to his terms, he decided not to show up. Which is certainly his right. But then he should stop presenting the story as if these women were the ones who prevented him from saving his sister’s life. If there is any blame to be placed for his sister’s life, and I don’t believe there is, it’s not unreasonable to assume Nelly’s pride and unwillingness to have a discussion may have been more to blame– if these women could have potentially saved her in the first place. After reading her letter, I certainly stand corrected.
You can read the full letter on the next page.
Most of us remember Nelly’s controversial “Tip Drill” video. I remember the first time I saw it. I was a sophomore in high school, watching it on BET’s now defunct “Uncut” series on the television my parents allowed me to have in my bedroom. (Side eye to my parents.) I would be lying if I said my first reaction was not awe. I was in awe of the way these women’s bodies moved. And as I laid in bed, I couldn’t help but bounce to the beat. “Where she at… dere she gooooo!” It was entertaining but I also knew it was a hot mess. Exploitative, degrading, entirely too much. Never outside of an adult video had I straight up seen a woman’s labia as she bent over.
And then there was the credit card swipe that single handedly ended “Uncut”…forever. And though I’m sure strip clubs across the country and the world feature scenes all too similar to the ones depicted in “Tip Drill,” the fact that Nelly brought that to the masses was too disrespectful and frankly, too embarrassing for the black women who felt they had enough sense to be embarrassed for the women who bounced, popped, dry humped and wiggled in the video.
Folks were outraged. The most expressive, were the women of the Spelman Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance. Ironically, right at the time where Nelly had black women bending over booty clapping, he was also attempting to get their help in a bone marrow drive for his sister, Jacqueline “Jackie” Donahue, who was battling leukemia. But word quickly spread that Spelman students were going to protest. And according to Spelman, Nelly’s foundation refused to hold the drive unless the university promised that students wouldn’t confront him about the song or video. But in a recent interview with Marc Lamont Hill for Huff Post Live, Nelly explains why he’s still angered by that whole controversy especially since his Jacqueline passed away just a year later.
“You approach me with this conversation while I’m doing that drive. Why do you want to talk about that now when I’m trying to save lives? That was my whole issue with that”
“And don’t get it twisted it wasn’t all of Spelman. It was a group of young ladies that decided the this was the time that they picked to make this move. And it just felt so wrong to me because here I am losing time trying to save someone special to me and you want to talk about a video. You spent hours and hours playing my video when we could have spent those hours getting people signed up on bone marrow registries and finding donors for people who needed these stem cell transplants.”
Then Marc Lamont Hill asks why Nelly just didn’t have the conversation first and then continue on with the bone marrow drive.
“So how can you compare that? You’re trying to tell me that I got to have a conversation about a video before we take care of bone marrow? What’s more important here? If anything you should have did it the other way around. What’s more important and I say that because you protested, are you still protesting that right now? Cuz I don’t have my sister now.
“So it don’t weigh. You’re not even probably protesting right now. And half of ya’ll that was protesting is probably in them clubs dancing to them songs on the weekend that you’re ‘protesting’ about.”
The conversation veers off and Nelly explains how rappers and Hip Hop takes so much heat for being immoral and then Marc Lamont Hill chimes in with a statistic that rappers are the artists that give back the most. Then he asks Nelly if there were anything he would do differently in his career, but specifically the Spelman incident.
“The Spelman thing the only thing I feel I woulda did different is kick somebody’s A$$. That’s just how it felt to me, Pimp. I don’t have my sister. You robbed me of an opportunity, unfairly my brother. That was unfairly because we could have still had your conversation after I got my opportunity. It could have been somebody that was coming to that bone marrow drive that day that was possibly a match for my sister that didn’t come because of that.”
Marc Lamont suggests Nelly and Spelman still have the conversation in the near future.
“Aww man that conversation is easy. They don’t want to have that conversation because the truth of the matter is, Spelman is within a six block ratio of about 3 or 4 strip clubs that I don’t see them protesting at one time.”
Then Marc Lamont Hill countered by saying that the women of Spelman would probably argue that the strip clubs down the street weren’t asking for these women’s bone marrow. Nelly counters and Lamont Hill moves on, saying that the two agree to disagree.
At the end of the conversation my only thought was umph. I can see both men’s arguments. Like Lamont- Hill said, it really is time out for black men publicly disrespecting black women and then running back to us when they need us. It’s played out. We’re tired. And most of all it hurts. And while I would love for black men to really get that. I agree with Nelly in the sense that this bone marrow drive wasn’t the right time to deliver that message.
I know black women are always told to hold our rage, be patient, this is not the time. And it ain’t right. But in this instance, the women of that Spelman group sought to highlight the inequities and injustices of life instead of save one. And I can’t support that.
I know that these feminist issues are more than just “issues,” “talking points” or gripes. They really affect our everyday lives in very real, very tangible very painful ways. But getting Nelly, a black man, to understand that should not have come at the expense of the life of a black woman.
What do you think about Nelly’s arguments and Marc Lamont Hill’s?
You can watch Nelly’s whole interview on the next page.
We all have a stretch of time in our past where we were on some other stuff or trying to find ourselves. We talked different, dressed odd, and everyone told us it was just a phase, and thankfully they were right. The same can be said of these celebs. While individuality and creativity should be applauded, many people were scratching their heads and raising their eyebrows when these stars went through their weird phases.
Christina Aguilera always knew she would be a star. Getting her start early on the “Mickey Mouse Club,” Aguilera’s career began along the same time as fellow pop diva Britney Spears. Trying to differentiate herself from her rival, Aguilera decided to be edgy and played up her sexuality and bad girl image to help sell records. Catching a lot of negative criticism for her overly sexual image, Aguilera eventually toned things down after a brief hiatus to start a family and retool her image. Most recently, Aguilera has rejoined her red seat on NBC’s hit singing reality competition show “The Voice.”
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In a recent interview for Necole Bitchie, the very handsome Nelly spoke about a little bit of everything, including the prospect of possibly doing a T.I. & Tiny: The Family Hustle type show with his family. But what really stood out from his interview was his statements about his current relationship status, and his thoughts on marriage. If you’ll recall, we did a post earlier in the week about Nelly and his new boo Tae Heckard getting cutesy in a photo booth and showing their lovey-dovey relationship status to the world; this despite years of him and Ashanti playing hella coy after a relationship that allegedly lasted 10 years. But in the recent interview, he showed that he’s back to playing coy. The rapper says that he’s single and only committed to his music.
His Thoughts On Marriage:
“Relationships are tough period. I don’t think people give other people the benefit of the doubt as far as trying to work within that situation and try to be the best person that they can. I only know two ways of marriage; my parents, and it didn’t work at all, and my grandparents did 61 years. So that for me is that serious. If you’re talking about doing that, then that means FOR LIFE! I’m one of those people, if I get married, it’s one time and one time only. It’s no redos, no do-overs, this is it! Do you understand what you’re saying? The rest of your life you want to wake up and see me. If that’s the person you’re with then that will be it but right now I just think marriage should be when it happens. I don’t think it should be dictated by society. Society shouldn’t be able to dictate your relationship, your heart or tell you when you should be married or by when you should be married or how your marriage should be. That ain’t a marriage, that’s a contract. For real, because only a contract tells you what you can do, what you can’t do, when you should do it. Your heart don’t tell you that, your heart is your heart.”
On His Relationship Status:
“Yeah, yeah, yeah. I’m married to the game right now. This album is my chick. I’m taking her everywhere with me. I’m spoiling her to death and I’m introducing her to everybody I meet, so we wide open.”
It should be noted though that in the video (watch below), Nelly looked somewhat uncomfortable saying “Yeah” to being single. Maybe because he thought homegirl was going to pop up out the back and set him straight. But can we get serious? I get that men in Hip-Hop like to make their female fans think they’re available, because having an emotional connection with the same woman for years is so not gangsta (*insert sarcasm here*), but how long are folks going to pretend they’re not in committed relationships when they totally are? But hey, if Ms. Heckard is okay with it (because Ashanti sure was), then I guess it’s all good. Check out his interview below to hear what he had to say.
Look at what we have here. It’s Missouri rapper, Nelly with his new girlfriend, LaShontae Heckard, (also known as Tae Heckard.) You might recognize her from a few episodes from BET’s “The Game,” as Jazz, Jasmine or Shelia. Earlier this morning Tae posted this adorable picture of she and Nelly canoodling in a photo booth. And she captioned it like this:
Him mad cuz I’m a beast in bowling. #cookienomilk #imlying #ialmostsliddownthelanewiththeball #hehadtosaveme #ibeatblueanddeemarietho
I’m not gon’ lie, they’re cute. But I would be lying if I said I only felt happiness looking at this picture.
Honestly, the first thing that came to mind was, “It’s a shame this new girl gets to publicly express her love when Ashanti had to repeatedly deny the true nature of her relationship with Nelly… for nearly a decade.”
I don’t consider myself an Ashanti fan, but I can’t help feeling sorry for the girl, she was always in the shadows. And then when the two started alluding to the fact that they really were together the whole time, Nelly was talking about how he couldn’t be forced into a marriage. Sigh…
Who knows, it may have been Ashanti’s idea to keep their relationship on the low but all of this looks suspect or at least shady doesn’t it?
Anyway, best of luck to Nelly and Tae.
“Because, you know, paying taxes is supposed to pay for the government, which in turn is not working. So if they’re not working, I shouldn’t have to pay taxes,” he jokingly told Vh1. ”Being in the upper echelon of the tax bracket, [I] feel the the money I could be saving over these next couple of days could be very vital to my survival.”
While he’s being silly (clip below) there are those who agree with him.
“Republican or Democrat, it seems hard to argue with this logic,” says Forbes. “But high or low, everyone is a little tired of theatrics, of no service at the IRS and elsewhere. And yet taxes and filings are coming due like a freight train.”
The article also notes some past Nelly tax shenanigans, saying in 2006 he tried to deduct his “jewel-encrusted teeth” after he made the song “Grillz.”
Nelly’s latest album “M.O.” was released last week and, so far, sales have stalled. It debuted at number 14 on the Billboard 200.
‘You’re Guilty Until You Prove Your Innocence:’ Nelly Talks Pregnancy Rumors And Sort Of Addresses His Split From Ashanti
Nelly recently stopped by Power 105.1′s The Breakfast Club to discuss his new business projects, lay a few rumors to rest and of course, dance around questions regarding his on-again, off-again relationship with Ashanti. The 38-year-old St. Louis native also addressed Irv Gotti’s claims that all is well between them. Peep some of his interview highlights below.
On if “Here I Am” was a shot at Irv Gotti:
“Nah, nah, nah. I wouldn’t say that I was going at Irv. “
On his rumored beef with Irv:
“Me and Irv ain’t never had a problem. We’ve always talked, you see what I’m saying? In that situation, you gotta be able to talk. We were able to speak, dead a**.”
On if he and Ashanti are cool:
“Yeah, we always good, man. We always good. I’m not an ill willed person, daddy.”
On if Ashanti’s “Never Should Have” was about him:
“That song was done a year before. I have the original version of it. I picked that song. It can’t be [about me]. That song was done a year before it came out.”
On Ashanti seeming heartbroken:
“Oh, I don’t think [she seems heartbroken]. Again, relationships are tough.”
On men always being made out to be the bad guy when relationships end:
“Of course we do. You’re guilty until you prove your innocence in them situations. It just like, ‘Yo! What do you?!’ Why can’t it be, ‘What she do?’
Catch Nelly’s full interview on the next page.
Controversy and music videos seem to go hand in hand. From musicians exploring the dark side of human nature or pushing the envelope when it comes to religion, these 14 music videos certainly had us questioning their “artistic” elements, but we’ll let you be the judge.
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The Midwest is a special place. Unlike other regions of the country, like the south or East Coast, there’s a bit more variety in every day living when you talk about an area that spans metropolitan life like in Chicago and rural living in Wisconsin. But yet and still, there are some behaviors that are undeniably Midwestern and if you do any of these, people will surely know that’s where you come from.