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The first lady of G-Unit, Olivia Longott, may no longer be a part of the cast of “Love & Hip-Hop New York” but she’s definitely still on the scene. The singer and former reality star stopped by the office last week to tell us about her new venture, a memoir she just released titled “Release Me: My Life, My Words,” and fans are already going hard for it.
If you watched LHHNY you know Olivia wasn’t the most forth-coming with her personal life, but it appears the new author had no reservations about putting it all out there in her book. Check out what she told us about the memoir and peacing out on reality TV in the video above. Will you check out her book?
I Sold Out People I Love On TV: Peter Gunz Talks Lessons Learned, Loving Tara & Marrying Amina Again
After “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta” managed to shock us every night, I was convinced that “Love and Hip Hop New York” would be completely unable to hold anyone’s attention. And then we met Peter Gunz. He was such a character, fathering children all over the place, deceiving women he had been with for years and worst of all marrying the side chick, Amina Buddafly. It was something even Stevie J had to top.
But, and I may be in the minority here, there seemed to be something about Peter that suggested he wasn’t apathetic about his actions. He was always very honest about doing “Love and Hip Hop” because he needed money. And during the reunion when he sent Amina off to apologize to Tara, those seemed like real tears. I mean homeboy said he was disgusted with himself. Now either he’s a really great actor or I’m getting naive to this reality tv game.
Either way, a recent interview with both Peter and Amina for Sister 2 Sister Magazine has me really believing that Peter is at least trying to be a better man. Check out a few highlights from the interview below.
S2s: So Peter, if you could pick one lesson that was the biggest lesson that you learned, what was that?
Peter: I guess the biggest thing would be to never lie to people that love you and respect you, especially when you have children with them. And to go then and stick a knife in them, that is worse. I sold out people I love, blindsided them on national TV and that will never happen again.
S2S: So other than being more honest and not lying to people, what other steps are you taking to make sure that history doesn’t repeat itself?
Peter: Right now, I’m actually taking some therapy and just trying to do better.
S2S: Are you guys in therapy together? Is it marriage counseling?
Peter: No, it’s me. Amina’s fine. I’m the one with the problem.
Amina: Wait. You’re in therapy?
Peter: Yeah. I’m doing something my man Jay set up for me. I always denied therapy, but finally I agreed to it.
Amina: You didn’t tell me.
Peter: That’s none of your business. [laughter] But yeah, that’s something that my friend Jay told me he thought I should do.
*MN Editor’s Note: Amina stays in the dark. So much so that I wonder if she and Peter are really even living as husband and wife. Where in the rules of matrimony does it say you shouldn’t tell your partner you’re seeking therapy, especially if it’s to help you to become a better person and subsequent husband? And if you’re not going to tell your wife, maybe you shouldn’t tell some random interviewer first. If there is one thing I’m skeptical about, it’s the validity of Peter and Amina’s union. Who knows they might have pulled a Stevie and Joseline and never gotten married in the first place. Whether they did or not, they certainly never acted like it. So backwards. Anyway…continuing on.
S2S: I read that your wedding ceremony was spontaneous. You’d been talking about it and then one morning you just jumped up and went to the justice of the peace. Are you going to have a larger ceremony and maybe renew your vows or anything like that?
Amina: I don’t know.
*MN editor’s note: Ugh
S2S: Wait. I got two different answers. [laughs]
Peter: Well, I say yes. If anybody knows about getting married at the justice of the peace, you have to file for a marriage license, take everything in and then plan a date.
Peter: So it’s not like we went to Vegas and just got married. But it’s definitely ghetto, the way it went. [laughter] She got on the train, we went and got a sandwich and hey. So now, yeah, I want to get married in Germany.
Amina: I want that. I’m so happy you’re saying that. Yes.
Peter: I would definitely get married in Germany. We might get a bomb threat at our wedding if we do it here. [laughter] Yeah, we might have to evacuate the ceremony; people hate the situation so bad.
Peter: But it’s down-the-road stuff because I love Tara, always will. She still loves me and always will. So trying to just do things at a respectful pace and not rub salt in the wounds—I already did enough to her. So to humiliate her like that was wrong, and I feel bad for it.
Peter: Her family don’t speak to me at all. At all. They’re done.
S2S: Wow. That’s kind of heavy.
Peter: True. True. These are people I was visiting in Mississippi and bringing my kids down. And the irony of the whole sh#@ is that some of these same men are worse than me.
Peter: But when it’s your kid and when it’s your daughter, it’s different. Hey, I guess that’s life.
As you can see Amina had quite a bit to say. Lol Check out the full interview over at Sister 2 Sister. What do you think, does this interview show that Peter is growing up a bit? What do you think is going to happen between him and Amina? Should she be scared that he still speaks about his love for Tara so frequently?
“You DM Him You Might Be Talking To Me”: Yandy Smith Checks Women Inappropriately Messaging Mandeecees Online
If you have to walk around with your eye on your partner’s social media, look in his phone, or through his emails, chances are, you don’t trust him. And while some people would say that’s a sign that you need to walk away, for others, like Yandy Smith, it’s reason to start checking thirsty women for doing what they do–being thirsty. And that’s exactly what the Love and Hip Hop New York star did when a few girls decided to make a play for Mandeecees’ affections on the low (or what they thought was the low). Seems that Yandy has access to Mandeecees’ Instagram account, and she has been calling out young ladies who decide to send risque (and weird) photos to her man. She posted some examples on her Instagram recently to put people on blast, and then decided to take the pictures down from her page. These images were snapped just in time by UrbanBelleMag. We all know that Yandy rides for her man like no other (she did wait for this man to get his legal situation together, and bailed him out with a $200,000 bond after he was in jail for more than a year), still, I don’t know if proudly telling the public #yeahIcheckthattoo is a good look. But hey, to each their own.
If you caught the season premiere of Iyanla: Fix My Life Saturday night on OWN you already know during the episode Iyanla Vanzant laid into Love and Hip-Hop’s Erica Jean something terrible. Questioning the logic of sleeping with a man (Saigon) who didn’t even know her address, much less having a child with him, Iyanla gave her some straight “mommy talk” which some thought was a bit too harsh. When we had the chance to chat with the life coach about the explosive confrontation, she not only stood by her words during that episode, but also her previous commentary about Black women being out of order and needing to do better when it comes to their partner and parenting choices.
Check out the interview above, as well as Iyanla’s thoughts on the #BringBackOurGirls movement and the influx of domestic violence plaguing Hollywood headlines these days.
“You Slept With A Man Who Doesn’t Know Your Address” Iyanla With Saigon And Erica Of Love And Hip Hop
If you’ve watched just one scene with Saigon and Erica from the last season of “Love and Hip Hop New York,” you know their relationship is strained to say the least. One minute they aren’t speaking to each other. The next they’re moving in together trying to work on co-parenting their son and then next thing you know he’s cussing her out, calling her all type of obscenities on one of the VH1 reunion couches. If you didn’t see it…you can watch it here. It was quite terrible.
But judging by the way their relationship began, it’s not really surprising that they find themselves here today. On the show, Saigon and Erica revealed that they weren’t really in a relationship when she got pregnant. Instead, they were sleeping with one another casually when she decided she wanted to have a baby and for one reason or another Saigon agreed. The issue, of course, is that neither one of them knew each other but they’ll be in each other’s lives forever now because of their son.
I don’t know, at this point, what they want from one another, whether they’re working toward a romantic relationship or just want to be more amicable so they can co-parent their son. Whatever it is, they called in Iyanla Vanzant to help them deal with their situation. Saigon loves to turn up for the camera, so I’m sure their episode will make for some heated exchanges. But judging by this clip, Saigon and Erica won’t be the only ones bringing the drama.
In the video below Iyanla scolds both Saigon and Erica (but mostly Erica) about the actions that led to this very messy situation they find themselves in today. Here’s the transcript.
Iyanla: This is what happens when you have a baby with somebody that you don’t have a relationship with.
Erica: He’s saying he didn’t know where I lived, it’s a lie
Iyanla: Instead of saying that, you should be saying ‘Oh my God, what have I done here.’ That’s what you should be saying.
Erica: You’re absolutely right. But he…
Iyanla: But don’t make it about him! Own your stuff little girl, own it!
Iyanla: The shame of it, the embarrassment of it, that you slept with a man who doesn’t know your address and had his baby. Own that. Now, that’s some mommy talk for you. ‘Cause as long as you pointing at him, you ain’t cleaning up your stuff.”
Take a look at the video and let us know what you think.
Do you think Iyanla was too hard on Erica? Will you tune in for this episode? Saigon and Erica’s episode, “Fix My Celebrity Parenting Nightmare” airs on Saturday, May 10 at 9pm on OWN.
Three months ago we covered an update on Erica Jean and Saigon’s relationship post-”Love and Hip-Hop New York.” As we saw on the VH1 reality show, the couple had a tumultuous relationship. Instead of allowing their drama to infiltrate co-parenting their son, Brian, the couple enlisted the help Iyanla Vanzant. Both Erica Jean and Saigon will appear in the premiere of OWN’s newest season of”Fix My Life” May 10. In the preview Saigon notes:
“Ya’ll know I couldn’t let the story end like that. Check out both sides of the story on ‘Iyanla: Fix My Life.’ This show isn’t about yelling and screaming. It’s about the facts.”
Saigon seemed especially excited to meet with the 60-year-old life coach to resolve the issues he has with Erica Jean. Their episode will debut on May 10 at 9 p.m. est.
Check out the clip of Erica Jean And Saigon On “Iyanla: Fix My Life” below. Will you be tuning in?
Being that Yandy seems to have the most sense on “Love and Hip Hop New York,” it was really difficult to see her go through the devastating experience of seeing Mendeecees Harris being carted off to jail, especially since the two had just gotten their love life together and welcomed their son Omere into the world.
So were excited to learn that Yandy had bailed Mendeecees out of jail. And we have to admit, it’s precious to see how the two are celebrating now that he’s a free man…at least for the time being.
Yandy and Mendeecees posted some pretty adorable pictures and a video.
Take a look.
Mandeeces Harris has been battling some pretty tough charges of drug trafficking since early last year, and if you watched this season of Love and Hip Hop New York, it almost seemed like the reality star and his family, Yandy Smith especially, had no idea if and when he was going to get out of jail. But rumors swirled earlier this month that Harris may have found a way to be released, especially after he (or someone) took to his Instagram a couple days ago to post a picture of Harris drinking a large glass of wine with the caption, “Having a drink…ya’ll missed me?”
Since the rumors started, Smith hasn’t said anything about them on social media. This could possibly be because she’s not allowed to talk about it, or maybe because he hasn’t actually been released.
However, she took to Instagram yesterday to post a picture of Mandeecees’ friends and to respond to rumors that her man is a free man.
“Now that I have a free second…if it doesn’t come from me. It’s probably not true. You know they love to speculate and exaggerate. @2thejew you got Instagram in a frenzy over that old pic! @babyjunior_stp, Preme…y’all go hard! He sends his love #rorolife #freethatman #nowbacktoworkIgo #filmlife #2daysinharlem”
Some of her followers are still not buying it though, wondering why he would mislead people on his Instagram page, and thinking that he possibly is “free,” as in, on bail, and that she just can’t talk too much about his case because it’s still pending. Whatever is going on, we just hope for the best for his kids at this point.
What do you think? Could he be free?
In today’s societal relationships it seems as though love triangles are prevalent and the accepted norm. As we recall the relationship and love triangles of Love and Hip Hop New York‘s Tara, Amina, Peter Gunz, and of course, the ongoing saga of a relationship that is Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union, or Ludacris and Eudoxie, one can’t help but wonder if infidelity is the new faithful?
If you look at each relationship mentioned, the common denominator with the two situations include men who were openly unfaithful and each woman they are (or were) involved with forgiving them. When Tara boldly told Amina about her sexual encounters with Peter, Amina’s immediate reaction was what is to be expected from reality TV… tears, yelling and storming out. But then, shortly after her performance, she entered back in the room and kindly asked Tara, the woman her “husband” admitted to sleeping with, if she could have a moment alone to snap on him. From there, they talked, she ignored him for a few days, Peter apologized, and then the two kissed and made up for the time being; but we all know Peter has a special place in his mind, heart and pants for Tara. Not to mention, she is the mother of his children (though Amina is allegedly about to be the mother of his child as well…).
What is it about a man that makes it okay for him to be untrue to a woman he claims to love or have deep feelings for? To take things further, what makes the woman forgive him? It is my belief that a woman forgives her lover’s transgressions because she thinks she’ll change him; she’s comfortable with him and doesn’t want to start over, and in other cases, some women are prone to push monogamy on men when they aren’t ready. While there may be a plethora of other reasons why some women stay with philandering partners, these three top my list. Many women who are with men with wandering eyes have the tendency to think they are the answer to their infidelity, and she has the ability to change the cheating ways with what she does or who she is. But the hard truth of the matter is you can’t. The only thing you can change on a man is his diaper, and even then he’ll be resistant.
Complacency is something that becomes common with lovers. This happens when a person is comfortable with someone and they are comfortable with who they’ve shown themselves to be, so the connection instantly becomes a part of who they are; plus, the thought of starting over can be hard to deal with. You have to get accustomed to another person’s habits, and in turn, they have to do the same for you, and the truth is, they may not like who you are. So rather than stepping out and starting over, a number of women choose to stay where they are most comfortable, even if that means they stay wholeheartedly with someone who isn’t all the way there with them.
The last reason mentioned above is what I believe is one of the most common reasons men are unfaithful to women: They are forced into monogamy without being ready! So many men are involved with women whose biological clocks are ticking that they often pressure a man/men into commitment. How do you ask? By giving ultimatums, slightly mentioning marriage every chance they get, threatening to walk away with their kids, and so on and so on. And when a man knows he has a good woman but is not quite ready to fully commit, he does what he thinks she wants in an effort to sustain the relationship, but he also does what he wants with other women because he wants his cake and to eat it too.
While betrayal in relationships is nothing new, the cycle can be easily broken if women keep these simple things in mind: If a man wants to be with you he’ll be with you; if a man wants to be faithful to you he will, and if he doesn’t he won’t; and you’re worth more single than you are with a cheating man. Ladies, don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve in life and in relationships. If you know your mate is stepping out on you, know that the option to step out on him and walk into something new with someone better is always there…but it’s up to you to take advantage of it or not.
How many times has your lover, spouse or significant other cheated on you? How many times have you forgiven them? What is something you deem a dealbreaker?Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her in Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
Love and Hip Hop New York is of course a reality show based on the behind-the-scenes lives of men and women in the world of hip-hop, and their day-to-day challenges with love. Every week, with each episode, we expected to see the typical reality TV drama that entertained and kept us intrigued from beginning to end, but along with the drama (and there was a lot), there were also lessons to be learned from each lady who struggled to deal with balancing her career and her relationship issues. I know many of you may be thinking, ‘What is it that we could possibly learn about relationships from the women of this show when it seems as though their love lives are filled with antics and theatrics beyond belief?’ Well, believe it or not, the relationships that have the most turmoil and dramatics are the ones you can learn the most from…if you observe carefully.
When recalling the relationship of Yandy Smith and Mendecees, the first two words that come to mind are patience and endurance. Well, at least for me. We all know the dynamics of this relationship, and we’ve seen how Yandy tries to keep it together through loneliness, single motherhood and juggling her many tasks as a career woman all while waiting patiently to reunite with her man, who faces an uncertain future. Many people would say she’s a fool for waiting for Mendecees to be released from jail, however, this is a prime example of patience and endurance with love at its best. The lesson that can be learned here is that if you think someone is worth it, you will wait patiently for them and endure what you deem necessary for the good of the relationship. Not everyone is up for the task, but she’s not the first woman to do it.
Sticking to your guns is the lesson women should have taken away from Tahiry Jose. Walking away from the man she loved and their more than a decade-long relationship was a bold move. It may have hurt her to her soul to end things, but she knew she deserved better than what Joe was giving. And she stuck with it. When he decided to propose to her in lavish fashion, Tahiry stuck to her guns and told him that she would not marry him until he could prove to her that he was worth her hand in marriage. By doing this, Tahiry set a new tone for the dynamics of their relationship and now he knows there is a higher standard to be met. Whether or not he is up to the challenge is up to Joe.
The name of the show is Love and Hip Hop, not Love and Hop Scotch, right? This is the question that comes to mind when observing Erica Jean and Saigon. Why do I say this? Because if you noticed the pattern at all between them, it seems as though they missed a few steps on their way to couple-hood. Let’s think about it…one minute they’re at each others throats, next they’re trying to function as parents for the sake of their child, then all of a sudden they’re moving in together so they can get to know each other and make an attempt to live happily ever after! Did I miss something, or did they? There are stages people should go through to build a successful love connection, and while each couples’ situation may vary, there’s still a certain protocol that should be followed. Ladies, if you can help it, take the time to actually be your potential mate’s friend first, allow him to court you, then make a mutual decision to move forward from there.
Healing is fundamental. That’s what I got from watching the antics of Tara Wallace and Erica Mena. Both of these young ladies failed to take time out for themselves to reflect back on their failed relationships, refocus and allow time for healing before they started dating someone new. This is a mistake that is made far too often with women and the results are yet another failed love connection. Why? Because they’re not over the previous mate, and those lingering feelings can affect progress with someone new. Ladies, if you do nothing else for yourselves after a relationship has ended, be sure to take a brief hiatus from the dating scene to fill the void in your heart and work towards moving past your previous love interest. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and your future partner.
While there are other lessons to be learned from these and other women on the show, the lessons above are some of the most valuable because many women can relate to each circumstance in some way (I can’t relate to Amina and her secret marriage, that’s just crazy). Everyone has their own definition of love and we all experience different struggles, but the one thing we must remember is that the lessons love teaches us should be cherished and applied throughout life because they make us who we are or they break us so we can rebuild and become the people we were meant to be. What lessons did you learn from the ladies this season? Can you relate to any of them?
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are you a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.