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Family Matters: Would You Want To Be With A Man Like Your Father?

December 22nd, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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So there I was at damn near 2 a.m. trying to keep my eyes open to watch Love and Hip Hop New York. I had just come from a dinner and movie outing with one of my best friends from childhood and knew I needed to go to bed, but the ratchetry was calling me. So I listened here and there as my eyes opened and closed, sleep taking over. But one part of the show caught my attention, and I darted awake. It was the part where Rich Dollaz and his 16-year-old daughter, Ashley, were catching up in his living room, and he asked her about her love life. The man even asked her if she was a virgin, to which she hesitantly replied, “No…”

Feeling as though 16 is too young for sexual activity, Rich immediately worried that his child was going to be out here getting played and passed around left and right by men who only want one thing. You know, the way he does a lot of the women he’s featured alongside on Love and Hip Hop.

In an effort keep that from happening, Rich was honest and upfront with the teen and told her that he would never want her to fall for a man like him.

“You’re 16, so you’re still a baby,” Rich told her. “You’re still my baby. I would never want you to bump into guys like me. You understand? And I think you and me gotta always be here because ain’t no dude going to be able to run game on you that I haven’t tried to run or have run before. So you can always come to me, and I will always tell you the truth and be honest about what a ni–as intentions are.”

He continued in his confessional, “Maybe I haven’t set the best example when it comes to healthy relationships, but having this conversation with Ash right now, I’m hoping it helps her make better decisions with men. The last thing I want for my baby girl is to end up with a creep–like me.”

I think it does take a lot to admit that you’re a scumbag when it comes to how you treat the women who have come and gone in your life. But I think the next question is, what will you do about it?

I’ll never forget a conversation my sister and father were having during the holidays a few years ago. I’m not exactly sure how the conversation started or what the point of it was, but I do believe my dad made a comment about marriage and his hopes for the men who try to come into our lives. Out of nowhere my sister said, “Would you say you want us to marry someone like you?”

My father laughed a little and then said something to the effect of, “Well my daughter, I would say no.” The truth was that my dad hadn’t always treated my mom well, and to this day, things between them go up and down. He wants better for us, but his admission of that didn’t spur real change in his behaviors and choices. And I think that’s one of the reasons my mother was initially worried about my decision to be with and marry a Nigerian man (it wasn’t something I was trying to do, that’s just the way love goes).

But I never grew up wanting a man like my father. I even said I didn’t want to date Nigerian men ever. And to this day, Nigerian man or not, I don’t want what my mom has dealt with. I think I’ve gone out of my way in my own relationships to keep that from happening. The communication issues I saw growing up I try to avoid by hashing out issues immediately after they happen. And some of the similarities between my father and my fiance I’m often on alert about (being stubborn, blaming everything on culture, trying to start businesses abroad, etc.). But we have good communication, and we genuinely love one another. Still, whatever is meant to happen in my own relationships will happen, and my efforts, as well as the words and efforts of my father, won’t change that. Whatever mistakes I make are mine to make.

Same for Ashley. Rich might try and give her pep talks about “creeps” and hope that his efforts to have in-depth conversations with her about all the men she meets and dates will keep her from cavorting with the wrong ones. But whatever she is meant to do, she will do. Whomever Ashley is meant to be with, have her heart broken by or fall in love with, she inevitably will. Having a better example growing up would have been nice, but who has time for shoulda, coulda and woulda?

The best thing he can do for his daughter, and himself, is instead of living by a date-as-I-say-and-not-as-I-date rule, treat the women he encounters romantically better. They are someone’s daughter, too. But, as always, folks don’t care until they see the women they dupe and disrespect in their own “little girls”…

Mendeecees Sends Message To His Daughter Skylar After Being Sentenced

December 22nd, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Mendeecees Sends Message To His Daughter Skylar

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While some people seemed to have no sympathy for the fact that Mendeecees was going to have to spend eight years away from his family, the rest of us thought about the fact that he would have to spend so much time away from his young children and recognized the severity and tragedy of the situation. Specifically since he’ll have to be away from his daughter Skylar, who is still a baby and will have to spend the first bit of her young life away from her dad. Since Mendeecees is going to prison, he left a video message for his daughter to watch while he’s away.

Dear Skylar, 

I always wanted a girl first. I always prayed for you. I’m your protector. There’s no man, or nobody on earth going to love you more than I love you, protect you and just want the best for you. And I want to be everything you need me to be to you in your life. Your best friend, your dad. If you need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold, long as I’m alive, I’m going to always be there for you. 

Your mother, she’s a perfect woman, a role model. And if you could turn out to be half of your mother, I would be so grateful because I love what your mother stands for. She’s a woman with class. I fell in love with her because she was so different than what I was used to. So hopefully, you’ll pick up the traits of your moms and carry out all the stuff she believe in, you’ll believe in. And it’s going to take you a long way. 

I might not be here with you at the moment, and it’s against my will. But you know, I just love and I always want the best for you. And hopefully one day i get to make it right. I love you. 

Love, 

Your Dad.

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“How Do You Not Tell Your Sister You’re Engaged” Brandy Shares Thoughts On Ray J Being On “Love and Hip Hop”

December 3rd, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Every time I consider the fact that Ray J is a very regular, very ratchet cast member on “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” I wonder what his sister Brandy thinks about his participation on the show. And that’s not even mentioning what his parents, his father with a background in the church, have to say about the situation. In a recent interview on “The Wendy Williams Show.” Brandy addressed that very topic as well as Ray J’s alleged engagement to Princess Love.

Check out the excerpts on her brother below. And for the rest of the interview, where she talks co-parenting with her daughter’s father, her new show on BET and more, watch the video below.

Wendy: What is going on with your ratchet brother?

(Makes sad face.) Awww… I love Ray J. I used to watch [“Love and Hip Hop] before Ray J was on it.

So why don’t you watch, because you’re embarrassed?

Not embarrassed but I’m his sister and I don’t know what he’s going to do.

What about Willie and Sonja, do they watch?

No, my mom and dad don’t watch.

Do they know what’s going on?

A little bit.

Is he really engaged to Princess Love?

Yes.

What do you call her Princess? Love? or Susan?

That’s her real name. That’s her real name.

What?! The ratchet…

Don’t…Wendy…Wendy, she’s like a sister to me.

So what do you call her?

Princess, that’s her name.

Are they really engaged?

They are really engaged. And I told him I was coming here–and I didn’t know. Like, I’m really mad about that. Like, how do you not tell you’re sister that you’re engaged.

How’d you find out?

I called him yesterday. I said, ‘Yo, Wendy’s going to ask me if you’re engaged or not and I need to know what it is.’ And he goes, ‘Yeah, tell her that I’m engaged.’ And I said, ‘So that means you’re engaged?’ And he says yes.

That’s not a real engagement, do Willie and Sonja know?

I think my mom is going to find out today, after watching the show.

Watch the rest of the interview in the video below.

Yandy And Mendeecees Explain Memorial Day Wedding Special

May 25th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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If you’re anything like us, you were probably a little thrown off by the announcement that Yandy and Mendeecees would be getting married Memorial Day Weekend, in front of live cameras no less. Of course we already knew the “Love & Hip-Hop couple” was engaged, but with Mendeecees’ criminal case still pending and Yandy having already changed her last name from Smith to Harris, when we found out the couple would be tying the knot during a two-hour live special on VH1 tonight we had to ask: why now?

Check out the response from the Harrises in the video above as they talk about being the first “Love & Hip-Hop” pair to actually officially make it down the aisle and how they make their relationship work as a blended family. Will you tune in to their wedding special on VH1 at 8p tonight?

Put Your Big Girl Panties On: 14 Times You Should Apologize

March 20th, 2015 - By Kendra Koger
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There is something inherently humbling about apologizing.  It’s the action of admitting that “I am wrong, and you were right.”  Maybe that’s why it’s so hard to do for some people.

However, after watching this year’s batch of reality television so far, I saw a few instances where people should have apologized, but they didn’t.

So let’s break down these times, and share any that you felt I missed.

Get Your Life: Rich Dollaz Arrested For Not Paying Child Support In 14 Years

February 23rd, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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Rich Dollaz Arrested For Not Paying Child Support

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Looks like “Love and Hip Hop New York” star, Rich Dollaz’s name might just be wishful thinking. Our sister site Bossip confirmed that the music industry executive has been arrested for owing hundreds of thousands of dollars in back child support.

Police picked Dollaz up near his North Bergen, New Jersey home last week and as of today, he’s still sitting in jail. A judge ordered that he would need to pay $82,000 in cash to get out on bail.

Richie Dollaz, whose legal name is Richard Trowers, was arrested for two different child support warrants, one for $188,000 and another $12,000.

Chaundrea Nicole, one of the mothers of Dollaz’s children said that he owes $188,000 for her 14-year-old daughter.

She told Bossip, “My caseworker called me last week and told me they had him. He’s never made one payment. He’s only seen my daughter one time. I do want them to develop a relationships, but it’s not right at all.”

Chaundrea continued, “He’s on the show, he’s got all these different cars but when my daughter asks for some tennis shoes, he won’t respond.”

Preach!

Judging by all the money Rich claims to have on the show, there is absolutely no reason he hasn’t made a single payment in 14 years. Even if he had some type of off-the-book agreement with Nicole, he should have been smart enough to get the law involved.

What’s particularly interesting is Rich’s inmate profile form. In the occupation section, he told authorities that he was unemployed.

Rich Dollaz Arrested For Not Paying Child Support

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Seeing that the judge wants $82,000 in cash, Dollaz might be in that cell for a little while longer.

He’s set to appear in court again in March.

“I’ve Never Had Someone To Fully Accept Me” Erica Mena Opens Up About Love And Sex With Bow Wow

January 30th, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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 Erica Mena Opens Up About Love And Sex With Bow Wow

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Honestly, I’m still waiting to see what’s going to happen with this Erica Mena and Bow Wow engagement. There is quite a bit of skepticism surrounding these two. One minute Erica, (Whenever I say Erica Mena’s name, I always hear Cyn’s whiny voice in my ear.), was with Rich Dollaz, then Cyn Santana and then, seemingly overnight, she was not only dating Bow Wow, the two were engaged to be married.

Life comes at you fast, huh?

We never know how the cookie will crumble in Hollywood relationships, so I’m not going to damn them or their love, I’ll just say it’s interesting.

In this day of social media proclamation, Erica and Bow Wow are forever making their love known all over each other’s social media pages. There are photos of the two in bed together, cute videos with sexual innuendos and gushing comments about who and what they are to each other. And in a recent interview with Rolling Out, the “Love and Hip Hop New York” star opened up about her relationship, talking about how Bow Wow tamed her, what real men like in a woman and what she wants her legacy to be as a woman, wife and mother.

Check out the highlights.

How can she be ready to get married when she was just with Cyn?

People have misconceptions about everyone I’ve dated. Last year, it’s like “oh, all of sudden, she’s gay.” No, I’ve been bisexual. In the past, I’ve been very open and affectionate towards females. It’s definitely no secret. At that point, I was dating a woman and brought her on the show.

How she and Bow fell in love

When that whole “106 & Park” kiss happened, we were both seeing other people and that kiss put us in the doghouse. So we were kind of confiding in each other. I realized that he is a man who really knows me and I’ve never had someone to fully accept me for who I am, flaws and all. I think it just happened naturally with us. We were at that point of really wanting to settle down, but the people that we were with at the time just weren’t fitting us. So it just happened and I discovered that this was the person that I was really supposed to be with.

What does she say to people who think this is a publicity stunt?

I think people are trying to put pieces together in other people’s lives so much that they are not living their own life. Cyn and I have been broken up for a while, I just hadn’t publicly come out about it because I’m on reality television. So to keep you tuned in, I had to keep things under wraps. So in this season of “Love & Hip Hop,”  there’s a lot of catching up for the fans to do. And I think they will see how everything transpired and will get a better understanding.

Bow Wow’s sex game

Being with Bow [Wow], he’s so dominating and that just turns me on because I’m usually the dominating one. I’m a Scorpio, so I call the shots. It’s different to have someone that you can finally be submissive to. So dealing with a woman like me, it’s kind of like, ‘can she be tamed?’ It’s all a matter of, are you man enough to tame the woman. And there’s a way to be assertive, but still give that embraceable nature that makes a woman kind of be submissive to you, that’s very powerful. But in order for a man to feel like a man, a woman has to give him the most respect. But in order for the woman to give you that respect, you kind of have to demand it and make her embrace you for what you are doing to her for her to respect you. So it’s a catch-22. I think men are scared of being men these days.

A little Rich Dollaz jab

From my last relationship with ‘B—- Dollaz’ [Rich Dollaz], he was just one of those dudes who would always run home to his mama. You know, it just shows that you’re a punk at that point. And that also goes for respect. You can still be a man and have authority and get your point across without being disrespectful. I think a man should “think like a man.

What do men respect about women?

Men love women who aren’t babies, who don’t nag and you don’t have to stroke their egos. You just kind of have to be sure of yourself. If you feel good, I’m telling you every man in America will know you’re feeling good.

How she wants to be remembered

In my career, I want to be known as the girl who was crazy enough to go for it and brave enough to get it done. In my personal life, I want to be the one who takes care of everybody. And in my marriage, I want to be that wife that my husband can really rely on for everything. I don’t want it to ever get to a point where my husband can’t be honest with me, or that he isn’t sexually into me. As a mom, I want to be that mother that steers her children to be whatever they want to be, but also lets them know that the world will never give them anything. So when they grow up, they can come back and say, “mom, you were right.”

You can read the rest of Erica Mena’s interview here.

So It Seems That Love And Hip Hop’s Moniece Slaughter And Rich Dollaz Are An Item…

January 27th, 2015 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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In yet another installment of ‘Things That Make You Go Hmm…,” it seems that two “Love and Hip Hop” stars, from different installments, are getting pretty close. Either that, or someone is hoping for a come-up and is going to desperate measures to get it.

The rumors started flying when Moniece, who is the mother of Lil Fizz’s son, Kameron, went on a couples vacation and tagged Rich Dollaz in one of her photos. Then there was the time when someone congratulated her on Rich allegedly being her man, and she sent back a kiss emoji. And now, there’s actual evidence on Twitter and IG of Moniece pretty much telling anyone who will listen that she’s in like with Rich:

 

Ballerific Comment Creepin —–🌾👀🌾 #moniece #lhhh #lhh #richdollaz #commentcreepin

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#RichDollaz #MonieceSlaughter #LHHH ❤️ #LHHNY

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As for Rich, he hasn’t gone to the same lengths to confirm that they are involved. But the pair have been seen out together recently, promoting his drink, 79 Gold, and hanging out:

 

 

Definitely an interesting pair if this is all true. But if Rich thought that Erica Mena was a handful, one season of “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood” definitely taught us that Moniece isn’t necessarily cool, calm and collected either. Nevertheless, good luck to them…

Diamond Strawberry Does Not Regret Not Introducing Her Daughter To Cisco

January 27th, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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Diamond Strawberry quickly became one of the biggest villains on Love & Hip-Hop New York when, instead of telling her temporary boo Cisco she had a daughter, she pretended the noise he’d hear in the background when they were on the phone was a dog.

Yeah.

Fast forward a few weeks and that doomed-from-the-start relationship is now over. So does Diamond Strawberry have any regrets? Not really. We chatted with the reality star about her antics so far and she actually said she’s glad she never introduced her daughter to Cisco, who now seems to be in some sort of relationship with Jennifer Williams. Check out what Diamond had to say about that in the interview above too. What do you think? Does Diamond deserve another chance or will her character forever be in question?

Soulja Boy, Nia Riley & Why You Can’t Date Men Who Call Themselves Boys

January 23rd, 2015 - By Veronica Wells
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The saga between Soulja Boy and Nia Riley has been long and drawn out. We witnessed it on “Love and Hip Hop New York” and then again on various social media sites. In case you missed it, here are a few key moments from what we’ve seen of their relationship.

– Nia knows that Soulja Boy has cheated in the past but sees the potential in him and wants to make it work.

– Soulja Boy is still young and wants to have fun. He throws a birthday party for himself at the house and Nia gets mad that he didn’t tell her he was doing so. She thinks he’s still behaving as if he doesn’t want to mature and be active in helping her raise her daughter.

– Nia had a miscarriage and, on camera, Soulja Boy offered absolutely no support.

– Nia was in a car accident and Soulja Boy realizes he doesn’t want to lose her.

– On the reunion, Nia says she’s not stupid and realizes that Soulja Boy is still probably still sleeping with other women.

And even though the two have broken up a time or two, as recently as this past Christmas, they were all booed up.

Source: Instagram

Source: Instagram

But today, Soulja Boy and Nia are definitely on the outs. How do I know? The same way I know when any celebrity breaks up, they put it on social media.

Here’s what Soulja Boy tweeted early this morning.

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Source: Twitter

 

Wompity, womp womp. I really wish I were making this up.

I see Soulja Boy is on his Chris Brown steez…but a bit worse.

Listen, I empathize with Nia, quite a few of us have a story about dating a man who was not only immature but was downright disrespectful at times. But even with that being said, I still want to shake the hell out of her whilst screaming “Leave him alone!” And that’s the short, expletive free version.

Soulja Boy’s name literally says it all. He is a child…a very young child. A toddler perhaps.

Yeah, Soulja Boy deleted the tweets but every celebrity knows the screenshot is real…and swift. Anyone who would disrespect someone he claimed to love is just not someone you want in your life or your child’s, for that matter.

I don’t condone violence or anything but I wouldn’t fault Teddy Riley for “reaching out” to this clown and letting him know what he will and won’t do as it refers to his daughter.