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If you want to get technical, I’ve had roommates all of my life. I went from living with my parents, then off to college where I had roommates. I’ve lived with my boyfriend, and as a single woman, I have lived in shared apartments with other women. There are some upsides to having a roommate, like splitting the cost of utilities, cable, Internet, and most importantly, rent. There’s an abundance of shared food unless you buy your absolute favorite things and make them off limits to others. There’s never a lonely moment because you always have someone to talk to, and it makes for a more lively environment. All these things sound good, but now that I’m in my mid-20s and not far from 30, I feel I am too old for roommates. Why? For the simple reason that there’s never a moment where I am truly alone. I am sharing space, which means that I have to compromise. I can’t decorate how I want, and I always have to consider someone else before I make household decisions. I’ve realized that there are a plethora of reasons why I am too old for flatmates, roomies, and/or bedfellows. Here’s why I need to ride solo.
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
I’m young, and I am on the market for dating, as is my roommate. Still, I respect my space enough not to bring men back with me. If things don’t work out, I don’t want them to know where I live. However, some people are a bit more free than others. Imagine waking up early in the morning to make a cup of coffee or tea. You still have crust in your eyes and last night’s makeup is smeared all over your face because you were either too lazy or too tired to wash it off. You only have a T-shirt on, and as you’re making your way down the stairs to the kitchen, you see a strange man sitting on the couch staring at you. He doesn’t speak or anything, and it is the most awkward five seconds of silence ever. You hurry up and make your tea, running back in your room where you stay for the remainder of the day.
Yes, this really happened.
I mean, we’re grown, we date, it’s a part of life. But it’s also common courtesy to let your roommate know when you will have a guest over who will be occupying public spaces. It would also help so you’ll know whether to wear headphones to prevent yourself from hearing the morning delights taking place in the adjacent room. Having a roommate, you have to consider these things. It’s liberating living away from your parents, but when you have a roommate, there are still a few restrictions. Same goes for walking around in your birthday suit. Even in terms of dating and getting serious with someone, you want to be able to navigate those intimate spaces with that person, but you have to keep in mind that you aren’t the only person occupying your place of residence.
The Weakest Link
We joke about how we always have that one broke friend who always want to go out and do stuff. Well, it’s funny until they become that broke roommate who can never pay their expenses on time. And depending on whose name these bills are in, it could mean some pretty hostile situations. Again, the upside to having a roommate is supposed to be the splitting of utilities, cable, Internet and most importantly, rent. But the downside is splitting these expenses with people who are struggling financially. My landlord once told me that if for some reason you feel like you can’t afford something then you shouldn’t get it. And I know that it’s time for me to go after having to continuously get utilities and other apartment expenses put in my name. I figure if I can afford to pay my rent and pick up someone else’s slack then why not just live alone?
When having a roommate, there are just shared responsibilities that people need to be aware of. For example, washing the dishes or taking out the garbage and cleaning the public spaces are just things you should both do. I’ve learned that everyone has a different cleaning style. Some clean as they go, some pick a day or time to devote to cleaning and some just don’t clean at all. I realized I was too old for a roommate when I started to clash with one because of our different cleaning styles.
I also like having and entertaining guests, but I also love my alone time, which involves peace and quiet. I can’t always get that, and I can’t really get too mad about it because that’s what happens when you live with someone. And just as I have the freedom and choice to be quiet, my former roommate had the choice and freedom to be loud.
All in all, I could go on for days sharing nightmare stories about living with people, but these are the things that helped me realize I am too old for this s–t and better off living on my own. What did it take for you to get proactive and move out on your own? Do you have any nightmare roommate stories?
While you may have already done your spring and summer cleaning, now just about weeks into the season you may notice it’s time to get a little more organized. Does company come over and you can’t find the remote? Are you feeling a little overwhelmed with the amount of clutter building? Get your abode in order with these super quick tips that will help you organize any room in just a matter of minutes. Yes, minutes, not hours!
7 Ways To Organize Any Room In 15 Minutes (Yes, Really!)
You don’t always have to call the repairman when things go awry in your home. With just a few tools and a little know-how, anyone can do these home repairs on their own.
Are you ready to kick off the first major barbecue holiday of the year? Memorial Day is a time to celebrate those we lost in the armed forces. It’s also a much needed vacation from work that unites us with loved ones. Here are some yummy recipes and decorating ideas for your pre-summer party.
Memorial Day Guide: Party Ideas And Recipes
One of the best gifts you can give someone this holiday season is something for your home. If you think about it, items like home decor and essentials are practical, taking away worries if the right size will fit. Hopefully you have spent a little time in the intended recipient’s home so you can peep out their style prior to making any purchases. Here are the top holiday gifts for the home.
20 Top Holiday Gifts For The Home
There’s no better time like the summer to get outdoors and enjoy your deck or patio. But you don’t need thousands of dollars to create a relaxing retreat. Need inspiration or great colorful themes to get you going? Take a look at some of our favorite images that we found around the ‘net that inspire a true outdoor living space makeover.
Great Outdoors: 15 Outstanding Outdoor Rooms
Nearly a year being in this home I am still often haunted at the process it took to get here. Selling and purchasing a new home in last year’s market was not for the weak. Outside of the market dictating some of our issues I thought I would give those of you considering the leap a few tips.
1. Decide What To Do With Your Current Home: If you currently own a home, don’t assume you have to sell it. If you would like to keep it as an income property speak with a mortgage specialist before starting your search. We found out months later into our process that we could’ve kept our home. Had we known earlier we may have put the search off a few months to save the additional monies needed to keep it as a rental property.
2. Know Your Financing Options: FHA, VA, Conventional etc. It can all get very confusing. They all have their own set of requirements, as well as pros and cons. Research them and have an idea of which way you are leaning so that no one can sway you into something that ultimately is in their best interest and not yours.
3. Be Your Own Advocate. Do Your Research: We had the best agent but I was still online looking at houses daily. If you have the time, look for yourself. Agents are busy, you are likely a number in their client roster. You would hate to miss the perfect house because she was out with another client. I’m sure mine was sick of me, but I found our first house that way. She had somehow overlooked it in her search. Zillow, and your local real estate agencies websites are great places to start. Georgia has a free MLS system that can be searched, see if your state has one.
4. Narrow Down Your Search Area: Know where you want to be and the pricing associated with that area. Decide whether size trumps area, commute etc. Gas is expensive, and no one wants to drive you around for you to get to the property and say this is too far! I did it…a few times. Then I realized it was a waste of our time. We set 2 distinct areas and searched those areas.
5. Consider all the Minute Details: Once you’ve narrowed down the area and start really looking, remember your budget. The house is perfect and it’s in your price range but the schools are poor and will require private education, there is an HOA, the commute will be 2 hours and the yard will require maintenance. All of these are additional monies outside of your mortgage that can strain your budget . Being house poor is not the move.
6. Look Past the Esthetics: Some houses are not so attractive but their structure is sound. Like mine. After watching multiple episodes of anything HGTV airs I still had a no moment when we walked up to this house. I couldn’t see past the overgrown exterior and the ugly paint colors. I saw dollar signs. While it may be expensive to make cosmetic changes they can be done over time. Look at the roof, room size and the things that matter that cost waaaaayyyyyyyy more than a few gallons of paint and a some elbow grease
7. Have Your Paperwork in Order: Buying a house requires lots and lots and lots and lots of paperwork. They will ask for 3 months of bank statements, paystubs and whatever else they make up. Prior to starting the process watch the swipes on your debit card, and transfers in and out of your account. They are nosey and will ask about them. Save yourself the drama. If you do, document right then so if it comes up you don’t have to think too hard. Try to avoid transferring to other people, they’ll want their bank statement too. We encountered this and it was a nightmare.
8. If You See it Move on It: No house will have everything you want unless you custom build it. If it’s good enough, in the right area and for the right price put in an offer. I missed 3 houses being indecisive. If you keep thinking something better is out there you will be looking forever!
If you’re a mom like us, you like to have the party at your house so you can keep an eye on your little one and the action that ensues, so why not bring the fun to your house this holiday weekend with a Memorial Day party? Add parents to the mix and it’ll be an event our friends will talk about for the rest of the summer. We help you celebrate outside with these tips, tricks and just great ideas.
Party Over Here: 8 Amazing Memorial Day Party Ideas
Having a guy over for the first time? If you really want to give him an accurate impression of who you are, leave your home exactly as it is OR…keep in mind what he thinks when he sees these things. It could be nice to at least start with a good impression.
Hanging your child’s artwork doesn’t have to be a painful, cluttered chore. Discover ways to stop stuffing your kids art work in corners of desks and in the crevices of folders. Their are a ton of solutions that will actually compliment your interior space and actually become a part of the art and design. Frames, blackboards, hangers, string, printed wall paper, cardboard boxes, vintage lights and tin cans are just a few of the items used to creatively hang your child’s “stuff”.
Hanging Your Childs Artwork: 12 Clutter-Free Ideas