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What Would You Do? Woman Interrupts Wedding, “Is This What You Left My House For?”

March 9th, 2016 - By Veronica Wells
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Normally, if there’s going to be any drama at a wedding, it’ll come when the minister asks “if anyone knows of any reason why these two shouldn’t be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace.” But this woman, in an old YouTube video that has gone viral, couldn’t wait that long. After the minister prayed over this couple, (she did have the decency to wait until the prayer was over), the woman, in front of everyone, decided to make a scene.

She interrupted the ceremony to ask, “This is what you left my house for this morning…and the other night.”

Shortly after, someone said “You need to get out” as the crowd gasps, ooos and whispers among themselves. Interestingly enough, the YouTube user who uploaded the video said that after the incident, the woman was escorted out and the wedding proceeded. Needless to say, the guests were in a tizzy.

I’m sure this is every fiancé’s worst nightmare. But after watching, I have a few observations. One, this woman appears to be an invited guest…which is quite bold on both her part and the part of the groom. While we could doubt the validity of her claims, the fact that he looked over and looked back at his bride, not in shock or confusion, but simply trying to ignore the situation is pretty interesting. If I’m playing devil’s advocate, I could say that he was trying not to make a bad situation worse. But also, that’s not the look of a man who’s just been lied on on the most important day of his life. That’s not even the look of a man who’s pretending he’s being lied on. It’s more like a look of avoidance.

But forget about him. I’m concerned about the woman in this situation. She didn’t look all that surprised either. Or maybe she did and she just didn’t turn around and show us that face. Hell, maybe they had a conversation before they met at the altar. You never know. She might have already made the decision to forgive.

But my question is, if you were the woman how would you handle the situation? Would you stop the wedding and have a conversation with your soon-to-be husband, would you address the woman who decided to insert herself into your day or would you move like the woman in this video did, pretending like nothing happened and marry the man of your dreams.

Is This Petty? He Took Out A Second Phone Line To Ensure I Wasn’t Cheating

February 26th, 2016 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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Okay, okay, okay. I know there’s nothing petty about this situation. In fact, there’s something really terrible about someone going to such great lengths to spy on their girlfriend or boyfriend. Still, this story was too good not to share with my weekly “Is This Petty?” participants.

Remember the friend I told you about last week? The young woman who decided to return the Valentine’s Day gift she almost gave her partner after he totally overlooked the holiday? Well, she was able to work things out with the guy. They talked things out about Valentine’s Day and decided to move forward. A few days later, she rode with him as he ran errands, including a stop at T-Mobile where he opened a second phone line. She didn’t really understand why he needed it, and when she asked, he joked about being a drug dealer on the side.

Ha. Ha. Ha.

She left it alone, and he went on to have two lines, two phones.

A day or so after that, he asked my friend her whereabouts on a popular dating app they actually met on. “You don’t have an account anymore do you? Don’t lie to me” he said. Surprised by his insistence that she not lie, especially since she didn’t have anything to lie about, my friend responded with the truth: She had taken the app off of her phone and hadn’t bothered with it for almost two months. He seemed to believe her and they, again, moved forward.

The next day, she received a message from a random guy who claimed that the two had matched on the dating app in the past and he was checking in to say hello. She didn’t recall matching with anyone named “John” and asked if she could contact him later since he had caught her busy with work. When he replied claiming he had a tight schedule too, she politely told him, “Actually, I’m seeing someone now and I want to be respectful of that situation. Good luck, though!” To which he replied, “Whatever.” While she wasn’t phased by his response, she was suspicious of the number, since she couldn’t remember giving a guy named “John,” with such a number, her own digits in the past. She looked up the number and found out it was T-Mobile phone. She was immediately on high alert. Could it be who she thought it was?

Well, this past weekend, my friend met up with her boyfriend and ended up staying the night. The next morning, while he was asleep, she went to the bathroom. On the way, she ran across his second phone and took it with her to the toilet. There was no sign of her number or name in the second phone, but something told her to call the number of that so-called “John” in her cell. She did. Her boyfriend’s second phone rang, right there in the bathroom.

My friend left the bathroom, got dressed and told her boyfriend she was going to head out so he could sleep before work. He could tell something was off about her mood, but he let her go anyway. She met up with me and told me this crazy story later on that day, and she ended up saying that his spying tendencies were the last straw.

“I’m not going to go see him. I’m just going to let him know when I’m ready, that we’re done and that I never want to speak to him again.”

That was the plan, but she ended up avoiding his phone calls for the rest of the day. That is until she worked up the nerve–and anger–to let homeboy know how she really felt around the fourth time he called and text, telling her to “call me back.” She told him that she knew what he had done. Of course, he tried to play crazy, and she read him for filth. He would eventually say that it was all just a joke, but she found nothing funny about it–especially since days had passed and he never filled her in on his “joke.” Despite having very strong feelings for the guy, she told him that his actions were “childish and not indicative of a man I want to be in a relationship with. I think it would be best if we weren’t in contact again.”

The guy tried to call, and call, and call afterward, but she let his calls go to voicemail. He would inevitably leave her a message admitting that his insecurities had gotten the best of him, and he learned a painful but valuable lesson.

Yeah, the lesson was that he tried it with the wrong one.

But cutting him off wasn’t easy for my friend to do. Still, for the sake of all that is right in the world, she had to put her feelings aside and just do it. It was the right move. Not only was such an action on his part so slimy, over the top, and a sign of possessive, insecure things to come, it also sounds like he didn’t trust that my friend was doing right by him all this time because he wasn’t doing right by her…

But as always, that’s just my opinion. What do you think? Should she have given him a second chance? Was he a petty Patty for opening a second line to spy on her? How would you handle such shenanigans? 

I Was A Wife, You Can’t Trick Me Into Being A Side Chick

February 23rd, 2016 - By MommyNoire Editor
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Maybe your twenties really are for exploring options romantically because, Lord knows, it doesn’t seem ideal to be out here dating as a woman in your thirties. Especially when you know what it feels like to be loved. It’s no secret — in most major cities, single women outnumber single men. Especially when they’re of color. There’s a meme on social media that reads, ‘Most single men live with their girl.’ It’s worth a chuckle, but yeah, since finding myself without a significant other at the end of my twenties, I’ve found this statement to ring true.

When you find love at a younger age and end up amongst the wolves in your thirties, it’s an entirely different ballgame. How many times have you heard men speaking about the side chick who’s been there through relationships? And about how loyal she is? This isn’t to say that side chicks don’t have a place in this mess of a dating world we’re in, affairs of the heart can be messy — look at the popularity of reality shows — but the more alarming trend in all this is how many men hope to trick you into side chick status. Making you a side piece before you even know it.

Here’s the scenario:

You meet a guy. He’s a pretty nice cat — smart, thoughtful, unassuming. He pursues you — even asks mutual friends for the ‘rundown’ — then you fall in. Cool. Then you find out he has a girlfriend. You. Find. Out. He doesn’t tell you when asked. Not cool. But he still wants to ‘be’ with you because you two have made a ‘connection.’

Drop him. Quickly. Apt advice right? The thing is that some women will be okay with sharing a man that they feel they’ve found something special in and that’s their prerogative but what about those who don’t want that type of relationship? Shouldn’t they be given the option to choose whether or not they want to be someone’s ‘other woman’? If that’s your thing and you want to hang in there and wait his main relationship out because you feel you’re the better match, it’s on you. You never know, maybe he’ll actually leave his wife or girlfriend and build a new life with you. But you’re better off, because it’s the option you chose.

Too often in the past few years, I’ve heard close girlfriends complain about this same scenario. Asking the guy about his relationship history and he happens to leave out the fact that he’s currently in one. “It would be fine,” one said one night, pouring a glass of Malbec in my living room. “If he would’ve let me know off top. But he was trying to be slick with it.”

Another one chimed in, “I mean, we’re all grown. He could’ve been of service in other ways and you would’ve known not to get your heart involved.” One had been married before and the other, in a long-term relationship, so both knew what that type of commitment entailed and neither was in a rush to get into another one.

Still, both women had a sliver of hope in finding love again — slowly — without having to relegate to being a side piece, most of whom, are waiting around for their certified position as the man’s significant other. His one and only.

Once you’ve been someone’s one and only though, you already know what it is, so it’s tough to settle for being secondary. Even on those days something really great happens and you want to share it with someone. Or when you’re feeling tired and want to vent. It’s like having the best red wine served in the finest glassware to drinking MD 20/20 out of Solo cups — it just doesn’t measure up. And the saddest part of it is that, it isn’t an ego thing, it’s just a matter of knowing your worth because once upon a time, you were treated as if you were worth something.

Things Every Side Chick Needs To Hear

February 12th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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What would you say to your significant other’s side chick if you could sit her down and talk to her? I know that sounds crazy, but hear me out.

No matter how many episodes of Scandal and Being Mary Jane we love, being the other woman will never be a cute thing. But those TV shows have shown a lot of people the other side of the cheating coin.

A lot of thoughts go through someone’s head when they’re the other woman. Maybe he’s just really unhappy, and maybe I’m special. But we bet if the other woman could sit down and have a conversation with the main woman in his life, those thoughts would change. And it might get ugly.

If you found yourself with a man who cheated and you encountered the other woman, what would you say to them? Would you even bother to say anything at all considering it was your partner who was disloyal?

 

An Open Letter To My Bestie: Happy Valentine’s Day, Your Man Is Cheating

February 11th, 2016 - By Tanvier Peart
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My Dear Bestie,

I guess you’re probably wondering why the heck I’m sending you a letter when we mostly email or text each other. The truth is, we have had conversations in person and on the phone regarding what I am about to say, and I felt like this was appropriate. There is something about seeing words on paper that help make them a bit more real and easier to process – you can go back to what was written as many times as you’d like.

You have been my girl for many years now.  We’ve shared a lot of laughs, tears and everything in between. At the end of the day, you know I am not about throwing shade but coming to you honestly and out of love because I want nothing but the best for you. There’s no easy way to say this so I am not going to sugarcoat things (you know that’s not even my style).

It’s happening…again.

Now, I can’t confirm exactly what’s going on but hear me out…I want to give you a heads up on your husband’s questionable nature since I know it’s been a problem in the past. While on Facebook recently, I noticed his face pop up in the “People You May Know” section. At first I thought this was odd because we were already friends, and then I thought he deleted me because his team didn’t make it into the Super Bowl and I was talking smack. Well, much to my surprise, after clicking on the profile I noticed some of his wall was public where I saw conversations he had with a few women. It wasn’t his profile with photos of you and his children because I was able to pull that one up separately.

I have been going back and forth about whether or not I should tell you this because I don’t want anyone to feel like I am spying on them. You also made the decision to stay with him after finding out he was having inappropriate conversations with other women on Facebook while y’all were engaged. I was there for you then and will be here for you now. Honestly speaking, I have no clue why he would make another profile but as plain as day, it’s him. It actually kinda surprises me that you haven’t seen this as you guys are linked as married – I would have thought it would pop up on your news feed by now…

You know I’d never tell you what to do with your life because at the end of the day it’s yours. You two have a child together and you are stepmother to his children. Only you know what’s best for your family and what you will and will not handle in your marriage. With that said, I wanted to give you a heads up because these days you just don’t know what interactions stay online and manifest in real life. The best way to protect yourself is to have all the cards in front of you so you don’t get blindsided down the road.

Now that you know what I know, I will let this resonate with you. I’m not saying that he’s cheating. I won’t bring this up again and if you want to talk about it, of course I am always here for you.

Love,

Your girl

15 Stars Who Got A Pass For Being Unfaithful

January 28th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Stars like Tiger Woods have to be wondering: why do some cheating celebrities get a pass for being unfaithful while others go right under the bus? Well we don’t exactly have the answer to that but we do know there are plenty of entertainers whose philandering ways some didn’t even bat an eye at. Did you forgive these unfaithful celebs like most of us did?

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Donald Trump

How come we never hear this coming up in the presidential debates? Donald Trump not only cheated on his wife, but married the mistress!

The Most Embarrassing Celebrity Cheating Scandals Ever

January 8th, 2016 - By Meg Butler
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Question: Are some celebrity scandals too big to live down? Mama June has found herself back in the headlines, and Future and Ciara’s drama is still in the news. Those are just some of the celebrity cheating scandals we’ll never forget.

Can Victims Be In The Wrong? Cheating Revenge That Went Way Too Far

December 7th, 2015 - By Meg Butler
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They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but did these cases of cheating revenge go too far?

Good Boys Gone Bad: Alleged Cheaters We Never Would’ve Suspected

October 16th, 2015 - By M A
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While the old adage “you can’t judge a book by its cover” usually means not to think the worst of a person, we have some great examples of the exact opposite. Sure they are good-looking, successful and charismatic on the outside and seemingly head over heels in love with the women in their lives. But looks can be deceiving. Here we take a look at some good boys who got caught with their pants down.

The 8 Types Of Cheating Women Do

October 7th, 2015 - By Julia Austin
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There is so much to cheating that goes beyond the physical. In fact, women generally need a lot of emotional and mental stimulation to even get to the point of sex. And if a woman does have a physical affair, it’s likely she’s been having an emotional one long before that. The bottom line is when it comes to women and cheating, it’s complicated. Here are the 8 types of cheating women do.