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Your friends will tell you that with each waking day after a breakup, the pain will get a little smaller. And they’re right…unless you’re doing these 7 things and basically prolonging your own heartache!
Jayson and I dated about four years ago and we were a glorified fling at best. Many of our dates consisted of takeout, me cooking up a plate of his favorites, movies and lots and lots of affection. But I wasn’t mad at the limitations to our hangouts. Jayson made me laugh, he was great to look at (I’m admittedly shallow) and he treated me with respect. He definitely had a soft spot in my heart. He was special. I was the one who approached him initially when we first met.
He was working at The Art Of Shaving and I walked by with a friend of mine. I spotted him immediately. He was immaculately dressed. I’m talking, a sharp suit, tie, complete with a silky pocket square. This brother was debonair enough to make Billy Dee Williams insecure. I stopped in my tracks, walked back to the store with my girl hot on my heels, calling my name, “Danielle!”
“Girl, did you see him?” I asked strutting back to the store. “I’m just gonna go say hi.”
She laughed, “I fully support this movement,” my friend said as she walked in the store behind me.
His smile lit up the entire store, “Hi, my name is Jayson. Welcome to The Art of Shaving. How may I help you?”
It took everything in me not to say a corny line you’d hear in a silly romantic comedy, “I’m looking for a gift for my dad,” I lied and grinned from ear to ear. My homegirl shot me a look of approval and kept pretending to browse the store.
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My own limited research has shown me that women tend to take texting far more seriously than men do. We’ll agonize over word choice, the intention behind our tone, how the recipient might perceive our tone and even where to place punctuation. I know I could be exposing my own neuroses, but I’d bet good money that I’m not alone. In fact, I’m guessing that quite a few of you are starting to get a little anxious right now, debating about whether or not you should send a “Happy New Year” text to your ex. It’s a loaded question right? Well, when in doubt my momma always told me to make a pros and cons list. So check out the reasons why you should and should not text your ex.
You wouldn’t mind reconnecting
If you feel like homeboy might be the one that got away, by all means go ahead and reach out. Striking up a conversation with a man from the past and the fear of rejection can sometimes make you nervous but holidays have a way of softening people. This would be the perfect time to put your feelers out there. If you’re lucky his response will shed some light on whether or not he’s still interested.
You’re truly over it and you want to be friends now
If you know that you know that you know you’re over your ex romantically and would like to keep that person as a friend, then by all means go ahead and wish him a Happy New Year. But don’t be surprised if he interprets your reaching out to mean something else. Which brings me to my next point…
You know how to say no
The Happy New Year text opens up some floodgates. And you have to really know what you hope to gain from this exchange before the waters come rushing in. So, if you just meant to be friendly and he’s asking you what you’re wearing right now, you have to know, beforehand, that you’re strong enough to shut the flirting down…immediately. If even a tiny part of you entertains telling him what color your panties are, then you probably aren’t over him. And shouldn’t text. If, on the other hand, you’re confident in your shut down skills, text away.
You genuinely want to wish that person good luck and good fortune in the new year
If you’re still cool with this person and you know 2013 was a rough year for him or her, there’s nothing wrong with letting that person know you care about their happiness and are hoping things start looking up.
Apparently people were looking forward to seeing Chilli and Usher’s love story play out in VH1 biopic, CrazyS*xyCool: The TLC Story. However, unsurprisingly (well, maybe surprisingly to some), Usher was not even mentioned in the film. But if you ask Chilli why her “first real love” was excluded from the movie, she’ll tell you that it’s simply because their relationship had no real relevance to the story of TLC.
“It just didn’t fit into the part of the film because you got to understand when we did this – telling our story – it’s from the beginning. The people in our lives in the beginning were the people that you saw. So as time went along, Usher didn’t have – I don’t know our relationship wasn’t so significant when it came to my group,” Chilli said during an interview with The Jasmine Brand.
She went on to say that the romantic relationships that were referenced in the movie were only highlighted because of their relevance to TLC.
“That [Dallas Austin] was a different story because he was our producer. Tionne got married – and really we didn’t even go on her marriage because the fact that she was told that she could never have kids and she had Chase – then it made sense for you to kind of touch on that a bit. So with more so, what we were really dealing with was the most important part that we wanted people to see. All the other little things, who we dated here and all the other loves in our lives, to me it just didn’t make sense to put in there; so it wasn’t like it’s intentional, it just wasn’t necessary,” she continued.
The 42-year-old beauty added that she’s not really sure why people are still so caught up on their relationship—especially since they aren’t.
”I don’t want to – I’m going to be honest with you. The whole – I still to this day don’t understand – don’t get me wrong, Usher and I are friends. We’re cool. People are so caught up in that whole Chili-Usher thing and it’s just like everybody’s just caught up in but we’re not. So it’s like the movie was about the TLC story, it’s our thing. It doesn’t mean it’s everybody and it wasn’t about having a conversation with anybody to tell them they’re in it or not.”
As for the ongoing drama involving the group’s former manager, Pebbles Reid, and her displeasure with the way that she was portrayed in the film, Chilli says they actually held back some things that could’ve been included in the movie.
“Personally, all I know is that she knew from the beginning that we were going to do the film – I told her myself. At the end of the day, when it comes to legal matters, there’s no way Viacom would have did this movie with us and risked getting sued by anybody including Lisa. So basically everything we put in there was true – it was not a lie. We actually softened a bit of some of the situations – we didn’t even go in for real. But it’s like I’m not keeping up what’s going on with her, what she said because it doesn’t matter to me. It doesn’t matter to my group member. At the end of the day, we told our story and I’m happy that we’re able to tell our story because it’s something that I’ve wanted to do for a very very long time.”
It seems like the back and forth between Pebbles and TLC could drag on and on forever.
Turn the page for audio from her interview. What do you think of Chilli’s explanation for excluding Usher from the movie?
Just yesterday we told you that the wife of famed producer Timbaland filed for divorce after just five years of marriage. Unfortunately, it looks like Master P’s wife, Sonya Miiller is singing a similar tune.
According to TMZ, Sonya is petitioning for a divorce from her music mogul hubby after twenty-four years of marriage. Court documents reveal that Sonya is claiming that the marriage is broken due to “irreconcilable differences.” She is requesting full custody of their four underage children. In addition to full custody, Sonya is requesting spousal support.
What’s interesting though, is back in 2011 many thought that the couple had already divorced because Sonya took her estranged husband to court for child support. It turns out that the former couple has been separated for a very long time, but up until recently, neither made steps towards actually filing for divorce. In addition to their four minor children, they also share 24-year-old son, Romeo Miller. The pair have yet to publicly comment on the split.
They’ve been together for a very long time, hopefully they can find a way to handle the divorce amicably.
Unfortunately, K.Michelle’s hot and steamy romance with Indiana Pacers shooting guard, Lance Stephenson, was a short-lived one. The “I Just Wanna” singer regretfully announced the split on Twitter.
I’m single. Ill explain later. I have to do what’s best for me. ❤
— K.Michelle (@kmichelle) October 2, 2013
If it doesn’t make you smile, know when to walk away. There’s only so much a heart can take. No one deserves to be lied to and cheated on.
— K.Michelle (@kmichelle) October 2, 2013
Determined not to waste any time sulking, the Love & Hip Hop star was sure to let fans (and most likely Lance) know that she was going to be out and about enjoying herself.
Only pain Im with is champagne ! J’s on my feet in these NY streets! http://t.co/jnUKm7ypHk
— K.Michelle (@kmichelle) October 2, 2013
Just a few weeks ago, the Memphis reality TV personality spoke about helping her gal pal Ellle Varner through a tough breakup with her Knicks-playing ex, Iman Shumpert.
“I mean, I’ve known about the breakup for a minute now… I’ve known about this breakup and yes, we have been talking and spending time together,” she said.“I mean, I’ve known about the breakup for a minute now. I just haven’t been on Twitter. I’ve known about this breakup and yes, we have been talking and spending time together.” – See more at: http://madamenoire.com/305235/k-michelle-talks-coaching-gal-pal-elle-varner-breakup-iman-shumpert/#sthash.kO4CDpwf.dpuf
Though it sucks that she has to endure another heartbreak, something tells me she’s already written or at least thought of an album worth of songs inspired by their relationship. In other words, she’ll be turning this negative into a positive by exchanging her pain for album sales—Taylor Swift style.
‘You’re Guilty Until You Prove Your Innocence:’ Nelly Talks Pregnancy Rumors And Sort Of Addresses His Split From Ashanti
Nelly recently stopped by Power 105.1′s The Breakfast Club to discuss his new business projects, lay a few rumors to rest and of course, dance around questions regarding his on-again, off-again relationship with Ashanti. The 38-year-old St. Louis native also addressed Irv Gotti’s claims that all is well between them. Peep some of his interview highlights below.
On if “Here I Am” was a shot at Irv Gotti:
“Nah, nah, nah. I wouldn’t say that I was going at Irv. “
On his rumored beef with Irv:
“Me and Irv ain’t never had a problem. We’ve always talked, you see what I’m saying? In that situation, you gotta be able to talk. We were able to speak, dead a**.”
On if he and Ashanti are cool:
“Yeah, we always good, man. We always good. I’m not an ill willed person, daddy.”
On if Ashanti’s “Never Should Have” was about him:
“That song was done a year before. I have the original version of it. I picked that song. It can’t be [about me]. That song was done a year before it came out.”
On Ashanti seeming heartbroken:
“Oh, I don’t think [she seems heartbroken]. Again, relationships are tough.”
On men always being made out to be the bad guy when relationships end:
“Of course we do. You’re guilty until you prove your innocence in them situations. It just like, ‘Yo! What do you?!’ Why can’t it be, ‘What she do?’
Catch Nelly’s full interview on the next page.
Wale said it best when he rapped, “Breaking up is hard, to move along, it’s even harder…” He’s right. Breakups aren’t fun. But once your mind is clear of the emotions that once clouded it, you’ll wake up one day and ask yourself, “What was I thinking?!” Clearly, that man (in these cases) was not for me. It’s happened to us and it’s certainly been the case for these celebs as well. Check out the list of women who probably aren’t pining over their lost loves.
No one ever goes into a marriage hoping or knowing that the relationship will one day end with a divorce. Going through a separation with someone you once knew and were in love with is an extremely hard task, and the process becomes even harder if children are caught up on the mix. If you are going through a divorce or considering one, you’ll want all the help and advice you can get. Here are 14 things that no one tells you about divorce.
You’ve done a proper amount of wallowing, maybe even hit the single bars, forced yourself t go on a few dates and even slept with someone new. But you just can’t get your ex out of your system. You feel you need him back. And, guess what: he’s open to the possibility. So, how do you go about this without instantly crashing and burning—again? Follow these rules.