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Never have we covered Bow Wow so much on this site. But the man-child’s name is hot in the streets this week…for all the wrong reasons.
Remember last week, we wrote about Bow Wow saying he was tired of making women famous? He also said that he wouldn’t put his girlfriends on Instagram until he knew they were serious about him. Well, the woman he was subliminally referencing, video vixen Ayisha Diaz, clapped back and we are here for it.
She posted this note on Instagram:
It’s more than time that someone called Bow Wow out on his nonsense. Their little relationship was so quick and kept so far under wraps that had he not posted that messy Instagram message, no one would have ever known that their situation ended. But being the kiss and tell type that he is, he posted on the gram knowing the blogs would pick it up.
And it is interesting that she is the first of Bow Wow’s string of girlfriends to speak out on his messiness, especially in light of him talking about both Ciara and Angela Simmons’ sex skills. I’m sure he might not take too kindly to the message or even receive it but I certainly wish he would learn to stop being so immature.
What do you think about Ayisha’s message to Bow Wow?
Breaking up might be hard to do but isn’t impossible. Everyone is bound to call it quits with someone on the romantic front — it’s a part of life we have to experience. While it can be painful, there is a silver lining in separating from a flame. Did you know it can actually be beneficial to your worklife? Check out these reasons why breakups can be good for business.
You know what they say. Art imitates life and we all know the best inspiration for love songs is love stories both good and bad. And as much as we love a happy love song, the messy ones tend to catch our attention even more. So let’s jump in shall we.
Relationships are hard. In fact, starting and maintaining them may very well be one of the most difficult things to do in life. Why you ask? Because while involved with someone, no matter how old or new the relationship is, you are vulnerable, and there’s always a chance that your heart may get broken.
For the past few years, I decided to take a brief hiatus from dating because of a massive heart break I experienced with a man I was involved with for quite some time. I said to myself that I wouldn’t have any interaction with men because I needed time to heal and mend the pieces of not only my shattered heart, but my self-esteem and trust.
While on this vacation from dating, I realized that during my healing process, I’d become mentally and emotionally closed off from the idea of having a new relationship. I remember that I kept telling myself, ‘I’m good being single’, ‘I’m more than happy without a man in my life.’ In so many words, I talked myself out of even wanting a relationship. Truth be told, I was borderline boycotting them!
And while I still am happy with my own company, I had to take some time and ask myself why was I so hesitant about getting out there and trying to meet someone new. Of course, the answer was obvious–I didn’t want my heart crumbled again. I know this may seem like the typical answer for most of us who’ve had our hearts broken, but it’s true that no one enjoys being hurt, especially when it involves matters of the heart. So after careful consideration and several pep talks, I decided that it was time for me to take a step out into the dating world and open myself up to the idea of letting someone new in. However, I’ve learned how to do this while guarding my heart. If you’re looking to do the same, keep these simple things in mind:
Keep things on the surface.
How did I do this? By not allowing myself (and my feelings) to get deeply involved in things too fast. And most importantly, by being clear about the nature of the relationship from the start.
Don’t have expectations for a new guy.
I can’t expect anything from someone that I’m in the process of getting to know. Why? Because this is the fastest way for me to be disappointed in who they may or may not be according to who I want them to be. Also, it’s not fair for me to have preconceived notions and expectations set, so I had to learn to let a person show me who they are and take them or leave them from there.
Enjoy the time you spend together but don’t make more of it than what it is.
So many times we overlook and overanalyze time spent with someone we enjoy being around because we want to know what each moment means, or what the future will hold. Learning not to overevaluate things saved me a lot of time and allowed me to enjoy the moment, which is ultimately what matters.
I understand that I’m the only person who can prevent or allow my heart to be broken.
This was a lesson hard learned but well-appreciated, because it allowed me to see the mistakes I’ve made and how I can prevent them from happening again.
Time is not of the essence.
I had to learn to take my time with a new “love” interest and get to know as much about him as I can without placing pressure on myself to get him down the aisle!
Keeping my heart open to love while protecting it is a hard task, but it’s something that is a must in order for me to move forward with relationships. The more I keep these simple things in mind, the better off I’ll be.Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
It’s been nearly ten years since Eric Benét and ex-wife, Halle Berry split. However, unsurpisingly, such a high-profile relationship is difficult for the public to forget. Their divorce was plagued with rumors of cheating and conflicting reports that pegged Benét as a sex addict. The “Sometimes I Cry” singer has since moved on and found love in Prince’s ex-wife, Manuela Testolini, but he admits that the Halle chapter is still very much a part of his story.
“You’re never able to take the players out of the story, but in anybody’s life, there are personal hurdles that’ll make you wonder ‘How did I get here?’” he told theGrio about his split from Berry. “But on the other side of that, if you stay positive, if you keep moving, if you stay still and try to observe, absorb and learn as much as you’re supposed to learn in that pain, there’s a whole lot of evolution and light on the other side.”
While the divorce was clearly a challenging time in his life, the 47-year-old father says the experience taught him a lot.
“One of the great things about that time was learning to shut out the noise … Realizing what’s important to me is my family, my daughter and my career. It was a way to learn how to shut everything and it doesn’t really matter what you think and I know what the truth is. I’ll keep moving forward, ” he added.
As for whether or not he still speaks to his Academy Award-winning ex-wife, Benét says:
“No we haven’t stayed in touch. I just keep moving forward and being happy.”
And speaking of difficult times, he also opened up about losing his daughter’s mother in 1993 following a tragic car accident.
“My daughter, India, for most of her life I was a single father,” he explained. “Her mother passed away in a car accident when she was 15 months old. As you can imagine, there’s really no way to describe how [that feels]. There was so much loss and fear and trepidation about the future. Am I going to be able to do this. I mean, I had this amazing partner to parent this beautiful person with me. At the end of the day, I had my family, I had God and I had this amazing little baby.”
Thankfully, Benét says life is certainly looking up these days.
When you’re on the receiving end of being broken up with, it can be a pretty tough pill to swallow, especially if the breakup came out of left field. Despite all of the hurt and frustration, you’ll want to do everything in your power to not go off the chains. Here is how to avoid being the crazy ex-girlfriend that becomes infamous for being straight up nutty, embarrassing herself, and eliminating all traces of self-dignity.
‘What Lie Y’all Gon’ Tell Him When His Daddy Ain’t There?’ Tiffney Cambridge Files Restraining Order Against The Game
Last week we told you that rapper Jayceon “The Game” Taylor has been accused of breaking ex-fiancée, Tiffney Cambridge’s, nose in a vicious attack. With the exception of a few cryptic Instagram posts, Tiffney has remained pretty quiet regarding the alleged attacked. The Game, however, spoke out about the allegations. While he admits that there was an incident that took place, he insists that he never laid a finger on Tiffney.
We’ve recently learned that Tiffney obtained a protective order against the rapper-turned-reality-star on Apr. 2, which according to TMZ, prohibits him from coming within 100 yards of her. The order also prohibits him from having any contact with Tiffney whatsoever. The former couple is scheduled to appear in court later this month. Until then, The Game has reportedly been granted weekend visitation to see the children.
Interestingly, the “My Life” rapper recently took to Instagram with claims that Tiffney is not allowing him to see his children. His heartfelt post reads:
“Doing the best I can not to break.. But it’s funny how someone you’ve done so much for can be so ugly & cruel as to keep my children away from me vindictively because I’ve decided to move on with my life. I love all 3 of my kids more than life itself & it’s one thing to keep me away from them.. & them away from me but @harlemcarontaylor hasn’t seen his younger brother or sister in a month & just texted me ‘Dad, how come Justice can’t come to my house’ & I have to lie to him because he’s to young to understand the real reason why.
I know they ask about me, I know they love me & I know they miss me as much as I miss them but were not allowed to see each other & for what ??? As if I haven’t been there for them everyday since the day they were born…. They are the only reason I care about breathing another day on earth… They are the sole reason I have become a better person… They are the reason I give back, the reason I help people & the reason I wake up everyday with a smile on my face. Most importantly… They are MY CHILDREN & we deserve to be in each other’s lives forever.
What kind of person would get in the middle of someone’s devoted fatherhood when there are countless women out here that are raising there children on their own with no one to help. You would think a father that loves his children the way I do would be the least bit appreciated & not have to beg someone to see his own children. I have worked so hard at being a good parent only to have it taken away by someone who cares not about me, nor the welfare of our children but only about themselves. All of this just so you can keep me away from Justice on his birthday. What lie y’all gone tell em’ when his Daddy ain’t there ? Like I have been the past 6 birthdays ? The past 6 Christmas’s ? The past 6 years of a son’s life whom got his name from a father that patiently awaited his arrival here into this world ??? & Cali….. I’m not gone even start.. I will end this by saying…. Daddy loves you…. Misses you… & will always be here no matter what happens !!!! I am a REAL FATHER.”
We’re not 100% sure what’s going on here, but we can only hope that these two can amicably work things out for the sake of their children.
Relationships are a funny thing. When two people meet, they go through the phases of dating, courting (maybe) and then commitment with hopes and expectations of maybe spending the remainder of their natural lives together. They spend endless days, years and even decades getting to know each other in order to be sure that they’ve found the right one.
But what happens when after all that time, you haven’t found the right one? All of a sudden, everything you’ve put into that person and the life you thought you would have comes to an abrupt end when the relationship too comes to an abrupt end.
For whatever reason you and your former lover decided to part ways, you now find yourself with the task of starting again with someone new. Why is this a task? Why is it so difficult for people to gather the strength to begin something new with a different person? Or better yet, why is it that people are afraid of starting over when a long-term relationship has ended? There are three simple reasons people are afraid to start anew when a long-term relationship has ended: 1. they’re afraid to remove themselves from their comfort zone. How many of us are all too familiar with falling in love with complacency by being comfortable with our mates to the point where we may slightly let ourselves go and where modesty and mystery become secondhand? This is the point in the relationship where we become so comfortable with our mate that we often become too relaxed and think that we are secure and don’t put forth the same effort to keep our mates as we did when we were chasing them. While it is good to be comfortable in your relationship and with your loved one, you must not forget that you’re not the only one that wants them and that getting them was the easy part.
The second reason starting over scares people is that they may fear a new person won’t accept them for who they truly are. Learning the habits, likes, dislikes and the ins and outs of someone and in turn having them do the same for you can be a daunting task because it will take a lot of time for people to get to know each other. Not only that, but there’s a certain level of pressure people often place on themselves when meeting someone new to make a good impression on them, and the fear of them not being impressed at all is something no one likes to face.
The last reason people don’t want to take the plunge into a new love affair is that they are afraid that no one else is out there. There are a number of people who believe all good men and women are already involved with someone so they’d rather stay in the comforts of singlehood, rather than taking a chance at new love.
Whether or not a woman is required to give back the ring following a broken engagement is a debate that has always garnered mixed feelings. While some feel that a woman should absolutely give the ring back if the couple never makes it down the aisle, others disagree. But if you ask former “Name That Tune” producer, Sandy Frank, he’ll tell you that the woman is totally obligated to hand the ring back over.
According to the New York Daily News, the 84-year-old producer is suing his 66-year-old ex-fiancée, Patricia Berg, for the $300,000 engagement ring that he proposed to her with in April of 2009. In the lawsuit, Frank says that the 7.23 carat, cushion-cut diamond ring was never returned when the couple broke off their engagement just four months after his proposal. His attorney Suzanne Bracker argues that Berg and Frank had “a very short-term relationship and he was extremely generous to her;” however, the ring was “conditional gift” that should have been returned.
“He was a gentleman and she should behave as a lady,” Bracker continued. “A lady does not keep what does not belong to her.”
It’s not really clear why Frank waited so long to sue over the ring, but since his broken engagement he married another woman. That relationship, however, didn’t seem to work out either. In 2010 the former couple found themselves in criminal court in relation to an incident where they threw drinking glasses at one another. Unsurprisingly, they later divorced.
Do you believe the engagement ring should be returned if a couple never makes it down the aisle?
Last month we told you that Hollywood “It” couple Robin Thicke and Paula Patton announced that they were separating after nine years of marriage. Since their initial announcement, Robin has made it clear that he refuses to let his marriage go without a fight and has been carrying on a rather public campaign to “win” his wife’s heart back. Just yesterday footage surfaced of Robin at yet another concert, sending what is being perceived as a subliminal message to his estranged wife about family and forgiveness.
“We gotta learn to forgive each other, learn to love each other,” he said to his audience. No matter who it is in your family or relationship … ’cause you’re always gonna need your friends and family.”
According to TMZ, Robin’s pleas haven’t fallen on deaf ears because multiple sources who are close to the situation now claim that Paula is open to giving the 37-year-old singer another chance. Interestingly, sources go on to say that it’s not Robin’s public declarations of love that have Paula reconsidering the split, but more so what he’s been doing behind closed doors that has really captured her attention. For one, insiders say that the “Lost Without You” singer has been spending a lot more time with the estranged couple’s 3-year-old son, Julian. It has also helped that he’s been keeping in touch more while he’s out on the road. As a result, their conversations have shifted from divorce talk to what changes Robin needs to make to improve their marriage. Sources add that their phone conversations are now productive, “smooth and cordial” and that Paula has no plans of hiring a divorce attorney.
While we’d love to see Paula and Robin back together, we won’t get our hopes up until they confirm their reconciliation.
Would you like to see these two get back together?