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The first time I ever heard of a “push present” was when Tamar Braxton was shading hubby Vincent Herbert on “The Real” after he neglected to give her one after birthing baby Logan. He later made up for his oversight by gifting her with a huge diamond ring. Then there’s the rumored $770,000 tiger-striped diamond ring Kanye blew on wife, Kim after delivering North West in addition to sparing no expense on a birthing suite complete with leather sofas, mani/pedis and blow outs at Kim’s command in between breastfeeding and burping (which I am going to assume she did herself).
After I gave birth to my daughter last fall, I barely got an Edible Arrangement let alone a tiger diamond, but the idea of getting a “push present” after having a lavish baby shower and having the world wait on you hand and foot for nine months just screams excessive greed to me. It makes a sad statement on a culture I feel is no longer appreciating moments for that sentimental value and using them as mere opportunities to “turn up and get stuff”.
Don’t get me wrong, milestones in life such as weddings, births, graduations should be celebrated. The problem for me is when people think these times are an excuse to have their hand out, especially when a side-eye is given to any gift that someone didn’t have to invest a whole year’s salary into. People are expecting more and more for less and less energy and effort. Don’t get me wrong, I feel like any woman who can endure pregnancy and birth deserves all the respect and love in the world, but at the end of the day you aren’t doing anything your body wasn’t already designed to do. You didn’t colonize another planet for humans to live on or invent an alternative energy source, you gave birth and women have been doing it for millions of years without a “push present” to look forward to.
I won’t feed you some Hallmark BS about how a beautiful, healthy baby should be all the gift you need after giving birth. After having a c-section I was nursing a mean set of staples and hadn’t bathed for at least two days. Not only was I being harassed by a nurse about if I had passed gas yet, but also by an annoying photographer that wanted to take pics of me and my newborn while I sat in a satin bonnet looking anything but “glowing”. Trust me, a push present may have took my self-esteem up a few notches (but I didn’t actually have to “push” so I guess that’s why my present wasn’t in sight). So I totally understand how a woman wants to feel appreciated and rewarded for getting that mini human into the world safely after a labor that might make you feel like you’re going to meet your maker. But if what Tiffany locket you’re going to get to makes or breaks your priorities as a new mom, I’m going to need you to get it together. And it’s one thing if you’re child’s father is Vincent Herbert who is worth a reported $10 million, but if you are parading a flashy push present and wondering how you are going to afford formula: Get your priorities straight, ASAP. This also applies if you’re hype about a getting a Birkin diaper bag from a guy who also impregnated his side chick at the same time.
The Today Show recently asked viewers how they felt about push presents with 45% saying they weren’t fans, 28% responding that they were great and the remaining 27% who were clueless about the whole process like me thinking, “Does you partner pop up with a Tiffany bracelet before or after cutting the cord?”.
Look, I’m not hard to please. After 8 months of motherhood , I’ll take a good six hours of sleep and a bottle of Yellowtail Big Bold Red as push presents. But in all honesty I must say there are sweet simple moments in motherhood that money just can’t buy. And if your partner wants to get you a little something for harboring another human being over your bladder for almost a whole year, that’s awesome. But it matters not if that same person is pulling a no show during every 3 AM feeding. At the same time if he blanks on the push present, but spends the next year covered in spit up and swaddling mid REM, you’ve probably got a winner even if you don’t have a new piece of jewelry to show for it.
Most importantly, giving birth should your first and most important lesson in motherhood: It’s no longer only about you. If you’re more concerned about flossing your gifts for the ‘Gram and getting a pat on the back, you might need to nip that narcissism in the bud before baby takes his first steps.
How do you feel about “push presents”? Here’s how other women felt about the business of getting gifts for giving life:
“I have no idea what that is. I’ve never heard of it. But in regards to presents, I think that American culture is constantly inventing new reason to receive presents and it’s shallow and unnecessary.”
“I never heard about ‘push presents’ until a friend asked was my child’s father getting me one when I was pregnant earlier this year. I knew he wasn’t, so she ended up getting him one to give it to me. Apparently, I definitely deserved one.”
“It’s cute. Like a ‘thank you for sacrificing your abs to bring my baby into the world.'”
“People hype about a ‘push gift’ and got a trifling behind baby’s dad. Explain how that makes sense?”
“I thought gifts were just for the baby. Damn, the mom gets a gift too? Does dad get anything? I mean he showed up at least once for this whole process.”
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.
Terrence Howard is about to be a father, again!
The actor and his wife Miranda, are expecting their first child together! Terrence announced the couple’s good news during a New Year’s Eve Party in California. After performing onstage, Howard brought his wife onstage and told the crowd “Terrence and Mira are expecting their first baby!”
Both Miranda and Terrence were photographed rubbing her belly on stage.
Terrence is already a father of three children, shared with his ex-wife Lori McCommas. He was also married to Michelle Ghent, making Miranda his third wife. Terrence has been in the headlines for the last few months thanks to his nasty divorce from Ghent. Thankfully, the two finalized things a few weeks ago.
It looks like Terrence will finally be able to focus his attention on his new wife and baby.
Congratulations to the happy couple.
2014 was definitely the year of the celebrity baby! And in honor of all of the mini celebs born this year, check out some of the most adorable celebrity pregnancy announcements of 2014.
This year’s ALS Ice Bucket Challenge was full of surprises, but actress Zoe Saldana took “shocking” another level when she avoided the ice by announcing that she and her husband Marco Perego were pregnant with their first baby!
Two Philadelphia transit officers helped a woman deliver a beautiful baby while on a train!
According to reports, the delivery happened while on the Market-Frankford subway train in Philadelphia. Sgt. Daniel Caban and Officer Darrell James responded to a call that a woman needed help. When they arrived separately, the officers each realized the woman was giving birth! The two helped the woman successfully deliver her beautiful baby boy. The mother and child were both okay after the delivery and transported to the hospital.
The surprise delivery brought out the best in the Philadelphia cops. Sgt. Daniel Caban told reporters, “I had already opened all my presents. I didn’t know I had another one waiting for me around 5:53 this afternoon,”
As for James he said, “They tell us there will be crazy days. They never told me it would be on Christmas Day now, but all in all, this is a blessing,
It’s beautiful to see the good in police officers. In the current state of our community, it serves as a reminder that there are good cops out there.
Thank you to the officers and congratulations to the mother!
Amina Buddafly, wife to veteran rapper Peter Gunz, is officially a mother. The “Love and Hip Hop New York” star gave birth to a daughter on July 29.
Personally, I’m still in a bit of shock. When Amina announced that she was carrying Peter Gunz’ baby, I thought the whole thing was a sham. I didn’t place too much faith in their relationship either, considering Peter Gunz himself admitted that he only behaved so scandalously on television so he could make money for his family.
But I guess he took that acting thing pretty seriously because now there’s a new life in the world and based on recent interviews from both Peter and Amina, it seems like they’re trying to make things work in their marriage. Peter says he’s in therapy trying to become a better man and husband and Amina who’s always been down to ride says that she would die for him and is seeing things that are giving her more hope in their relationship.
Either way, their daughter, who was born on Tuesday, hasn’t made a social media appearance yet but Amina did release a statement via her Facebook and Instagram accounts.
No word yet on whether Peter was there for the delivery or not. His last tweet was sent out on July 25, where he detailed the sunburn he was getting from vacationing in the islands, apparently with the two sons he and Tara have together. On Instagram, he posted a shot of his sons the day of his daughter’s birth and even an “inspirational” quote and funny meme but no word about his baby girl yet.
Hopefully, he didn’t miss the birth and just wants to keep things private and under wraps for right now. You never know.
Either way, a baby is always cause for celebration so congratulations to Peter and Amina and we’ll be sure to keep you updated on their story and their new bundle of joy.
Naomi Campbell is 43 and just getting serious about having kids. That’s a long time to miss the tick.
Could your biological clock be going off? Time to recognize the signs.
Someone pass me a thermometer, I need to see how high my baby fever has risen since seeing these pictures.
Actress Yaya Alafia (formerly DaCosta) and her director/producer husband Joshua recently shared pictures of their three month old son, Sankara Mamadou Bee Alafia. In the picture, Sankara, which means “Creator, Bliss Giver, Introspection, Remover of Doubt, King of Unity” in different languages, is clearly a happy baby who is full of life.
In the caption of one of the pictures, posted on both Facebook and Instagram, Yaya said, “Best three months of my life!!! Thank you for choosing us, little prince!”
Yaya has been having a great couple of years. She married Joshua in 2012, gave birth to that beautiful baby just a few months ago and she had a great role in Lee Daniels’ The Butler. We’re sure she’s going to keep it going for 2014, especially with that positivity that always seems to shine right through her personality.
So after much speculation and murmuring, Evelyn Lozada has admitted that her child’s father is Los Angeles Dodgers star Carl Crawford.
Lozada seems to be on the media circuit to discuss her pregnancy. She first admitted she was pregnant to PEOPLE, then she spoke a bit more in detail about how she’s feeling to Hollywood Life, and now she’s discussing what’s next with OMG! Insider.
In an interview airing this Monday, Lozada told host Nina Parker that Crawford is her child’s father and says she’s in love with him. But, don’t expect them to be exchanging vows anytime soon.
“I definitely would get married again. I still believe in love … I’m not one of those people that’s like ‘we need to get engaged, we need to get married.’ No, absolutely not. I feel like that’s going to come, just like with the baby, let it come. I’m not forcing anything, so if it happens, it happens.”
Somehow, this isn’t very surprising. First of all, Lozada and Crawford haven’t been together that long and further, Evelyn not too long ago finalized her divorce from Chad Johnson.
Well, now we know she’s pregnant, she’s happy and who the father is…from three different interviews with three different sources. We should expect to hear the sex of the baby from another source within the next couple of months.
Oh and in case you’re wondering, Evelyn Lozada absolutely would do a reality show chronicling her “new life” if the right opportunity presented itself.
Looks like Jesse Williams is going from doctor to Daddy. US Weekly reports that Williams, who is best known for his role as Dr. Avery on ABC’s hit show “Grey’s Anatomy,” is expecting his first child with wife Aryn Drake-Lee.
Williams, 32, and Drake-Lee met when Jesse was working as a teacher in New York. The couple, who dated five years before tying the knot, got married last September. Drake-Lee, 33, is a real estate broker.
A source told US Weekly that the baby is due in December. Which looks like the couple did a great job keeping this one under wraps. Not like Williams has been super open about his private life or their relationship. Drake-Lee celebrated the pending arrival of her little one with a baby show in Brooklyn last Sunday, September 29.
Even though I’m sure some of you were still holding out hope for Jesse, this is great news! Congratulations to the couple!
Dear Dr. Sherry,
My boyfriend of four years is adamant about us having a baby right now. He has a child from a previous relationship, but I do not have any children yet. I attend university part time and I’m in my last year of school. I have a full time job but my salary is not enough to support both of us and a child. We live separately so that means already have two sets of bills. Plus, he works as a painter, and his job is inconsistent, so he would be out of work for an extensive period of time if we went there.
We have an accumulated debt of approximately $100K, and three quarters of which is his. I am gravely concerned about having children right now, whereas he is very nonchalant about it. Our financial situation is the number one reason why I am not ready for a child, but he thinks that it is an insignificant issue. I am tired of defending myself and I do not know how else to explain it to him. I suggested that he talk to a good friend of his, but he said that he doesn’t need anyone’s input in his life.
What should I do?
Read Dr. Sherry’s response at Essence.com