8 Dynamics That Should Never Exist In A Relationship

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January 12, 2012 ‐ By Julia Austin

"Couple yelling"

“I’m sure other couples do this.” That’s what goes through a lot of men and women’s heads when there is a dynamic in their relationship that they sometimes wonder, “Is this bad?” when they already know the answer to the question. But when you don’t want to be out on the singles scene again, you would be surprised what people will allow themselves to deal with in a relationship. You can tell yourself, “this is normal, but there are some things that should never be justified: like the following.

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  • Alexander Peraza

    If you are not attracting the right people it’s because you are not being honest with yourself.
    How can you expect honest, good people if you are not honest and good to yourself first?

    Ask yourself….

    “Am I going in the direction I want to?”
    “Do I enjoy my job?”
    “Do I want to go to college or pursue something else?”

    “Do I go after the girls I WANT to go after?”
    “Do I feel happy with myself?”
    “Am I being honest and good with myself and my life?”

    Be honest. You may be good at accounting but if that’s not what you value then you are being DISHONEST with yourself.

    If you value painting over accounting then the choice is clear. Be a painter.

    You will start attracting the people you want, once you become honest about yourself.

  • Crake

    The pictures and ads on this site are hilariously tacky. 

  • Tjscott87

    This is such a ridiculous article. From a mans perspective, I’m not staying in a relationship if it doesn’t involve sex. Sorry, but you’re delusional if you think it doesn’t matter. You want me to do all this baby boo-boo BS and then you get frigid and don’t put out? We’re done.

  • guest

    Give me a break,  I have been with the same man for 40 years and all of the things on your list (except for the royal mentality) have happened.  And they have happened more than once.  I am married to a great man, but when you spend so many years with the same person these things will happen.  What is wrong with people now days is that they think everything will always be rosy.   This list is why so many people are divorced.  Except for any kind of abuse, you should put on your big girl pants and work it out.

  • billybear3

    And when she holds out on sex for 2 years at a time should you just accept that? ( She wasn’t tired because she didn’t work,  I took care of the kids needs like practice, meetings, mall trips etc.) Not me after my kids were 18 I divorced her. Her sisters and 2 marriage counselors warned her I would leave. And that fools still wants to get back together and hasn’t grasped that on top of other issue not sleeping with your spouse will lead to an end of the relationship. When you dated you had sex all the time, when you marry the expectations are the same if you can’t put out in a marriage GET OUT…

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Mike-Gieser/100002432277953 Mike Gieser

     The one who wants less is being selfish”.  BALONEY.  First of all, the one who stays in the relationship even tho they are unsatisfied with it is a true hypocrite.  Some people just love to complain and try to degrade the other person by claiming that they aren’t doing enough for the relationship.  They’re gutless, and would rather entertain ideas about the greener grass elsewhere, they stay in the relationship they “claim” isn’t what they want, but in all probability, they are actually less apt to commit than the other person who at least knows what they want at this place in time.  The uncommitted one is actually very committed to being true to oneself.  The one who wants more is probably incapable of a deeper relationship, so staying in the present one is a perfect arrangement for them.

  • knowwhatittakes

    Good article and there is a white guy in at least two pictures by the way.  The key to a great relationship is respect and kindness and this includes self respect.  If your waitstaff is absent you or your SO either flags another or gets up and goes to the bar, register, entry and asks for help from one of them.  There is NEVER any excuse for rudeness but being assertive and firm are required any time another person is disrespectful or rude.  Regarding sex – if either partner is not in the mood – DEAL WITH IT.  Do you really want to have sex with some who doesn’t want it just as much as you do?  YUKK.  If you insist when your partner is not interested, at least you better at least leave a nice tip because that’s what you’re expecting – sex in return for pay, staying faithful and married or monogamous, not because the person finds you so attractive they can’t keep their hands off your. And if you can’t deal with it, don’t get married or claim to be in a monogamous relationship.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/4B42SP7UOPFPBGJB4DJJYEMN4M Caer Cariad

    How about things that ARE common, but shouldn’t be, like women manipulating men?  To women, relationships are a game of manipulation.  It’s all about how much service she can get out of her man at the cost of the least amount of sex.  Women like to think they are the “honest” ones in a relationship, but they aren’t.  Relationship “issues” and drama are all just misdirection and manipulation for getting more attention or absolving women from responsibility.  Here’s another clue for women: you think we don’t know that you are manipulating us, but we do.  You really aren’t as clever as you think.  And when we break up with you, all that manipulation we’ve been through is the reason, but we know damn well you’ll never own up to it, so that’s why we don’t give you the real reason.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=552452789 Erin Hunter

    I hate these articles that have one paragraph per page and you have to keep clicking an arrow to get to the next page, wait for that page to pop up, etc. Just put all eight paragraphs and pictures on one page that I can scroll down and read! It shouldn’t take me that long to read 1 simple article. So annoying. I don’t see the point of these photo slide show articles. This format doesn’t seem to be innovative at all. If you have a useful message for readers, make it easy for the readers to get.

    (Pretty good article too.)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Tonya-Pralat/1075692739 Tonya Pralat

    Its a website for black women thats why.

  • slayerwulfe

    Is he cheating on you (girl) Who would a guy be cheating with? girls are the cheaters because it’s normal for them to. Girls have an obligation to the unborn life in them to do better, it’s not cheating it’s life. The loser guy beats the female because he can’t beat the dominant male.

  • dawg

    I see all African American coupled pictured here.  Where is the diversity in representing richly different relationships?  Where are the Asian men with black women, Native American women with black men, etc.?  And why privilege straight couples?  Madame Noire badly needs some diversity to show tolerance and respect for people who are different.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001298628518 Tony River

    This article is biased and dumb.  Things are not and never will be equal
    between the sexes. This article if from a females point of view, the “Sometimes
    you say you’re not in the mood and your boyfriend” part gives it all
    away.  The avg man craves sex way more
    than the avg female it’s a genetic thing. 

     

    As long as females continue to talk about “and he’s got
    a good job” and other stupid s**t like that women will continue to be
    money hungry people who use sex appeal to be lazy, to get an edge at the office
    and manipulate men all there lives.

     

    If your man wants sex he should get it. And if you disagree,
    stop using your sex appeal to get better jobs, have doors open for you,
    control social groups, stay a home raising your kids while your guys is out
    working hard, not kill the spider, and soo much more…. because if you don’t
    YOUR A DAMN HYPOCRITE and just because the nerdy beta males take your side
    publicly, don’t mean most desirable men don’t secretly agree with this.

     

    Oh, and just so you know. I came across this article because
    some girl posted in on her profile. This super hottie (5’9, long brown hair,
    white, super skinny/petite) who I picked up at a bar in Belmont Shore Long
    Beach a year ago, and have been having a secret relationship with this whole
    time while her hubby is out supporting her lazy a** and their baby. All while
    she saves me for later in case her marriage don’t work out.  If she ever dumps him for me, and it looks
    likely recently, I will expect her s@xy yet lazy a** to do me anytime I desire
    it or else she can pay her own damn bills.

  • Abuabraham2

    the article says:  “Never should someone resent you or attempt to make you insecure in order
    for you to sleep with them. That BS happens enough at single bars as it
    is. It should not be happening in a healthy relationship.”

    but…what if the person never wants to sleep with you?  what if you used to have sex all the time, but now she doesn’t anymore?  how can a man just sit there silently and suffer through that, when he himself wants to have sex?  does his feelings or desires not count for anything?  How can you NOT resent someone for not sleeping with you anymore?

  • Toncuz68

    The first one makes sense…if a guy doesn’t respect people, he will not respect you. Too many psychotic women date thugs and “bodyguards” that she thinks she can bully other people with who end up beating the crap out of HER. I have zero sympathy for women like that.

  • Awful

    This is the stupidest article I’ve read in a while. Really? Effective communication is important? Well, how about that. You should refund the money you got from me clicking on this s**t.

  • Appalled

    the advertising on this page was so deliberately distracting that I couldn’t read the article.  Videos that start automatically when you load the page, and don’t have a way to mute them until you wait for the very long ad to end.  Goofy little survey popup that covers the text so you can’t read it until you deal with the ad.  Horrible stuff, so intrusive that I never did get the article read.  I hope it was a good one.  

    • Verbena09

      Get AdBlock, dear.

  • DRJAMESWILLIAMSON

    What a waste this article is.

  • Jamar786

    I understand the issues at hand and concur with some of the findings. But it seems as this article really attacks men and place them in a bad light.

    • Alexander Peraza

      She did have stuff in there to defend men, such as “you shouldn’t be putting yourself in situations that you know he would not approve of”. At least she is saying that the women should take responsibility also.

  • Stacy

    Ok, so why does it say “8 things women think are normal in a relationship”? then when you click the link it says something else. Ugh… that is just sexist. of course any woman knows these things arent normal!!!

  • Stacy

    Ok, so why does it say “8 things women think are normal in a relationship”? then when you click the link it says something else. Ugh… that is just sexist. of course any woman knows these things arent normal!!!

    • Frank & Beans

      If you thought that the headline was sexist you should re-read the rest:

      “HE won’t go see HIS father in the hospital, HE is embezzling a little money from work, HE is lying to someone…” “Trust me, those behaviors are indicative of issues HE has that will eventually affect you. HE will lie, be rude to and hurt you one day, too.” “A lot of people justify this by saying “oh, HE just gets nervous about this or that. It’s better if I don’t tell HIM.””   “There is major insecurity on your partner’s part if you have to lie to HIM about harmless things you are doing.” “the more you indulge HIS insecurities and don’t make HIM face them, you’ll just keep having” to come up with more elaborate lies.” “…sarcasm is a major part of a MAN individual’s sense of humor.” <<That doesn't even make sense grammatically! "If your BOYFRIEND does something you find annoying" "you’re not in the mood and your BOYFRIEND sort of teases you,"

      All of those CAPITALIZED words could have been gender neutral. But it seems "jaustin", with all of their (her? if I may BE SO PRESUMPTUOUS) unlisted credentials wasn't trying to establish any sort of productive conversation between the sexes. Foe someone with a pair of testicles, any gleenable insight from this article is completely overshadowed by the chicked-headed, finger-snapping and lip-smacking tone of the author. You GO GIRL!

    • Frank & Beans

      If you thought that the headline was sexist you should re-read the rest:

      “HE won’t go see HIS father in the hospital, HE is embezzling a little money from work, HE is lying to someone…” “Trust me, those behaviors are indicative of issues HE has that will eventually affect you. HE will lie, be rude to and hurt you one day, too.” “A lot of people justify this by saying “oh, HE just gets nervous about this or that. It’s better if I don’t tell HIM.””   “There is major insecurity on your partner’s part if you have to lie to HIM about harmless things you are doing.” “the more you indulge HIS insecurities and don’t make HIM face them, you’ll just keep having” to come up with more elaborate lies.” “…sarcasm is a major part of a MAN individual’s sense of humor.” <<That doesn't even make sense grammatically! "If your BOYFRIEND does something you find annoying" "you’re not in the mood and your BOYFRIEND sort of teases you,"

      All of those CAPITALIZED words could have been gender neutral. But it seems "jaustin", with all of their (her? if I may BE SO PRESUMPTUOUS) unlisted credentials wasn't trying to establish any sort of productive conversation between the sexes. Foe someone with a pair of testicles, any gleenable insight from this article is completely overshadowed by the chicked-headed, finger-snapping and lip-smacking tone of the author. You GO GIRL!

  • Auro359

    Racist how there were no pictures of white people.

    • guest

      hahahaha I thought the same!

    • guest

      hahahaha I thought the same!

    • justsaying

      Madame Noire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, black entertainment news, parenting tips and beauty secrets that are specifically for black women. Black women seek information on a wide variety of topics including African-American hair care, health issues, relationship advice and career tips–and Madame Noire provides all of that.

      Please check out the above description of this venue…explains why there are no pictures of white people.  Please know what you are reading before you make racist remarks. Thank you.

      • Moo

        Just reverse it and say, “Madame Blanc is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives White American women the latest in fashion trends, white entertainment news, parenting tips and beauty secrets that are specifically for 
        white  women.  White  women seek information on a wide variety of topics including  White -American hair care, health issues, relationship advice and career tips–and Madame Blanc provides all of that.
        Please check out the above description of this venue…explains why there are no pictures of black people.  Please know what you are reading before you make racist remarks. Thank you.”
        Now is THAT racist enough?

        • lolalogo

          Not at all. Plenty of those places exist  for white women. Those places are called Vogue, Vanity Fair, Cosmopolitan, Elle, etc… (Come on. Selective memory much? I mean when a blk person is on the cover of those mags it makes the NEWS.) PS. What wrong with targeted hair care tips? My hair is not like your hair.

          • Guest

            Hi LolaLogo:

            I’ve heard this argument from my black associates most of my life.. “everything is by default for white people.” Going through the magazines you listed and finding the many examples to counter your mindset would prove useless as you’d find other ways to argue your point. The individual who asked you to replace the words with “white american” does ask an important question you decided to reflect rather than address: would you be ok with we white people starting a publication just for white people and marketing it on that basis? I’m ok with it. What say you?

            • disgruntled

               Gee maybe you’d like to at least identify yourself.  Personally I understand exactly, because I’m a woman and although I’m white, I can see and I can count that there are proportionally a lot more commercial things marketed to white men than to any other group, and white women behind that.  How is that hard to see as unequal? There are actually more women than men, and more people of color than white people. If you are black, you have many needs that aren’t the same as whites’, as one person pointed out, our hair has different texture and as any woman can tell you, that is a matter requiring attention because it’s part of one’s everyday experience and women need to look good! We want our hair to look a certain way, and need to learn how to care for it in different ways. If a black gal has a question re: her hair, do you think she should pick up an Elle? or an Ebony? Hmmmm?

            • lolalogo

               Actually I wouldn’t care as long as they weren’t doing/saying racist things (btw they already exist regardless of if you want to accept it). You posed your question in a very condescending tone assuming I would be “just another black”, right? Guest, your tone proves helps prove my point. Are your “black associates” ambassadors of ALL black people? Maybe they keep saying because you don’t get it. Things do TEND to be default white. I grew up in mostly white communities, only white/Asian friends, 1 of a few blk girls if not only in most places. Yes whites are the majority; things naturally tend to skew to the majority. That’s a fact. Look at the Hunger Games race nonsense. Its internalized in many, that things are white until proven otherwise (in that case it was otherwise yet some readers brains refused to accept it). I’m black and when I read a book even I usually imagine a character as white unless given a reason to think otherwise. I didn’t even realize I did this until I was recently forced to think about it. If I said Ashley is a likeable girl of average height girl with big dark brown eyes, shoulder length dark brown black hair, wears glasses, is a bit insecure about her weight but is a fun girl. She lives in NJ with her mom, dad, and younger sister. Now cast Ashley. She would be overwhelmingly cast as white. Despite there are thousands of black (and Asian girls) who would fit that description and there’s no reason why she couldn’t be not white since nothing tells you she is white. It’s an old adage blacks/minorities will by things that are “white” but whites typically will not buy things that are seen as (too) black. For example Generic Brand is marketed mainly toward whites, Baby phat toward blacks. 2 plain t shirts 1 with a small GB in the corner, 1 with a small Baby Phat in the corner. You will get Blacks who will buy GB but whites will never buy BP. Same shirts, same price, same quality, different reference groups. From this you could conclude it makes more business sense to market to whites because it is more profitable. They are a bigger group and you can still attract non-whites without trying to hard to reach out to them. In many cases white is the least common denominator.

            • lolalogo

               

              Those publications I listed in a way were “forced” to “de-segregate” to
              varying degrees relatively recently (last 5-20 years), just because
              that’s the times we are in now. I’ll even give the benefit of the doubt
              that many try to do it earnestly but there is a level of PC involved.
              Like half those of the models are token. But they ALL did start out as
              you said “a publication for white people and marketed such”. “Many
              examples” as in 2 or 3 per mag? That hardly makes it a publication for
              the people. I recently looked at a teen vogue- about 2 blk models no
              other minorities that I noticed. Those “many examples” you supposedly
              found actually account for a small percentage of the total. This is
              often used in the high fashion world to justify not using “ethnic
              models”. “They aren’t the ones buying our products” “they just don’t
              sell” (which leads to the question why?) blah blah, amoung other things.
              I don’t read black mags or go out of my way to read ANY mags
              personally, but my first point was, I just don’t get why things
              specifically targeted to blacks gets SO much criticism when every other
              group (Asian, Indian, Hispanic, Arab, White, etc) have theirs too.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HYYNPVOGA5LQZVIGIZR5ZPPFJE Doggone it

    This whole thing sounds like my ex. 

  • Bturner44k

    What a bunch of s**t. One person in the relationship refusing to have sex with the other SHOULD feel guilty. If you’re in a relationship the agreement is that you will only have sex with that one person, so they damn well better make sure they are available for it.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Halimah-Jedani/863880412 Halimah Jedani

       Yep:  because its a starving dog that turns to the trash.

  • Prmetalman

    Already I have a problem with this article right from the starting gate via the use of a bad example: “Your partner makes a decision you find unethical—he won’t go see his father in the hospital . . .” ANY child, particularly if the child is grown, who has a problem visiting a parent in a situation of illness even to near death, makes me circumspect to first examine what was it THAT THE PARENT DID TO CREATE SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES, and less, lastly, though not always necessarily, the other way around. From birth, normal children are relentlessly in a quest to find ways to have their parents love them more. It is usually the parents who find ways to push their children away, thus the reason why a lot of parents have no business having kids. What is it with society that has most believing that just because someone brought you into the world, you owe them to such a degree to overlook whatever transgressions the parent may have committed that you are obliged to put them aside to visit them in the hospital even though they may have mistreated you to such a state that makes a visit undeserving? Furthermore, what is it with society that makes the adult child look that they are the ones with the ethical breach by not wanting to have anything to do with that parent, even after the parent’s death? In most situations, a child unwilling to visit a parent in the hospital makes me believe that it was the parent, not the child, that did something to such a state that makes the child unwilling to visit his/her parent(s). And to connect this issue into a relationship in the same breath as stealing from work, makes this article disingenuous at best. There is a time and place for forgiveness, but each example requires careful consideration, but to broad stroke it as a first example in this article makes it not only unfair, but quite frankly, poorly written.

    • Shorty

      I totally agree with you! If my father was in the hospital, I would absolutely not visit him. When he dies, I will not go to his funeral.  He did everything possible to destroy his relationship with his 5 children and wife. We finally got the message that he did not want to be a father and broke off all communications with him 20 years ago. I feel nothing but relief that I do not have to deal with that abusive jerk.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/X5MWNRUMO7JF5BP3YDF7V7CPEU Pam

    My ex (a vet) put a perfectly healthy dog to sleep because the wife wanted to get rid of it but the husband refused.  So she wanted it murdered.  And my ex obliged. 

  • Danielleoliver57

    my husband has an wondering eye it realy gets under my skin is this something i should be worried about?

    • Bill

       Danielle, What does his eye Wonder about?

    • Meganball59

      I don’t think so to much i mean you know where he lays his head every night right??

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_XN5DUFOUA5RSZAK42SJWC2B3LQ Robert

      Yes

  • JayAch

    These observations are accurate for either female or male. Take heed . . .
    The first time you become aware of the “red flag” … talk about it then.
    Look for healthy examples.
    Talk and keep on talking.
    j

  • mplo

    What a great llst, Dana.  One thing that should be added to the list of abnormalities in a relationship is if one’s partner is extremely controlling.

  • Ebenflow

    Fine – if she’s your girlfriend – and she doesnt’ want to give you sex – thats fine.  If she’s your Wife – then she’s ignoring her obligation and responsibility.  Its BS that women should be free from sexual obligations especially in a marriage.  Some women are just as needy as guys in terms of sex – but if you happen to have get a girl with a low sex drive – does she expect the guy to just masterbate?  How does that contribute to a healthy marriage?  Guys if you are married and your girl uses sex as a playing chip or leverage let her know your relationship is going to be screw – no pun intended. 

    • Branwren

      Humm, as an x-wife, there were times I wish my husband would go find a mistress. He was absolutely clueless in how to satisfy a woman. Talk to him you say. Yeah, that really worked. A suggestion to all men (and women). If your partner is refusing or making excuses not to have sex with you, you’re doing it wrong. If he/she enjoyed it there isn’t much of anything that could keep him/her out of the bed with you. Having had MANY partners in my 60 years on this earth, most of ya’ll need some help. Please search it out and then see if you have to beg for it.

      • Johnc

         Communication is the key on this subject. And he was clueles because of your own doing. Blaming the other person is too easy

      • billybear3

        Well with my ex wife she was clueless. She was fantastic in bed as a girlfriend. One week after our marriage suddenly she was sick daily with mysterious ailments. Once that lie no longer worked she claimed to be tired. Hmm, she didn’t work, then it became I take to long, then it became it’s too big it hurts. Hmm, we dated for 4 years and I never heard that before. Then it became the children are going to hear. Well we lived in a 6K square foot house. The children couldn’t hear us if they tried to. Then the neighbors might hear really? the nearest neighbor was at least 50 yards away. Finally it became I don’t like touching it or kissing it. Hmm, When we dated you were the freak from another planet. I divorced her 5 years ago and have had 2 serious relationships and each woman was immensely satisfied sexually as was I. Both relationships ended because I have absolutely no interest in getting married again. Because I feel women will do anything and everything to get you down the aisle. Once that’s accomplished their true personalities arise.

        • munchysmom

          LOL “women will do anything and everything to get you down the aisle??”  And what, pray tell, would be the reason for that?

      • Greatace01

        Its sad to admit that men will always have affairs. Its unfair to get involved with an individual and not considering their needs… No woman deserves to be cheated on, and no man deserves convienent sex..

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_NSBI7RF7ROSMIMSCGYQFI6SQNI DTE

    more psychobabble for the clueless, the world is full of it these days.

  • Greydog

    Regarding the first one:  If he’s nice to you and rude to the waitress, he’s not a nice guy.

    • Branwren

      Not so, I myself will be rude to a waiter/waitress when they are incompetent. This can be because I didn’t get my food the way I wanted it to the server threw off the pace of the meal by bringing appetizers, salad and entree within minutes of each other. Pet peeve, don’t ignore me. If you leave me sitting for 15 minutes or more without checking on me…I’m most likely going to be rude.

      • kpg

         Maybe, but being rude right off for no reason is unacceptable.

      • guitardude

        Agreed. Just went on a date and was polite until the meal came almost 30 minutes after we ordered it, and then I said “I was wondering if maybe someone forgot about us.” I mean, there is also the converse of not standing up for yourself because you are afraid of seeming like a jerk. 

        • VTick

          After that long, I would have walked out. No need to be rude.

      • VTick

        If the service is poor, by all means, say something to management. However, rudeness is not necessary.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_JEHDV7HTOEEBT2MGQEHXCZBFSY S

    One thing that is normal is swallowing, so if you want to be normal, swallow baby.

  • Emekah

    This was an excellent list. Very astute. 

  • L-Boogie

    Relationships can be difficult at times.  Seek counseling if you want to work it out with that person if not simply part and go your separate ways.  

  • BeBe

    There are several things that should not be in relationships, but one of my biggest pet peeve is childishness (on both parts), I mean really are most people even mentally / emotionally prepared to be relationships? When your significant other is unable to bring some level of poise with them it is almost as if you have to wait (hope for) for them to eventually mature during the course of the relationship. This can cause a strain on any relationship. I personally tired of playing silly little mind games with grown-ass people. I believe that once you are willing to date someone you should approach it with decency, respect, integrity, class and maturity. I also am tired of the expectations of me living the urban area that I am supposed to lack the very same things I just mentioned. For example, I tried (all caps on TRIED) to date someone who I assumed was an adult (because he had adult children) but low and behold I was amazed and very disappointed. For one I initially told him I was currently working on my Ph.D in psychology, but he had no respect for my time and again I am studying psychology, what part of that info leads someone to believe I can’t see their game? Of course I broke up with him but I keep meeting the same type of jack-asses, I can go on and on but I sincerely believe it is way past time that people that the initiative to just GROW-UP!

    • Sashamona

      you crack me up with your hybris! “I was currently working on my Ph.D in psychology, but he had no respect
      for my time and again I am studying psychology, what part of that info
      leads someone to believe I can’t see their game?” Most of the people studying psychology are nut cases themselves, that’s why they THINK they see people’s games. Good thing that man was relieved of the burden he had to carry by dating you.

      • Guest

        Do you mean “hubris”? Sorry, I had to clarify.

        • Nestafan2

          “Hybris” is also correct.  Anyway, the article didn’t mention physical abuse.  For some reason, some women think that abuse is par for the course in realtionships.  And they are dead wrong, but how do you undo years of conditioning?  Convincing them otherwise is like pulling teeth with tweezers.

          • Dontbedumb

            “Hybris” is not a word. But that’s not my point. Studying psychology is a far cry from working on a Ph.D in psychology. Conflating the two is just as much game-playing as any other distortion of the facts for personal gain.

            Before you make remarks regarding a subject, be sure you know something about it. Clearly, you are either threatened by psychology or think it isn’t necessary to understand a topic before casting negative opinions.

            • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=588957788 LittleFlower DeFlowers

               You need a time out!

            • Word

              You might wanna, you know, google some thing before you declare that it’s not a word.  Juss sayin’

            • S77

              “hybris” is an alternative spelling, depending upon the source of ancient Greek
              being translated.

            • S77

              “hybris” is an alternative spelling, depending upon the source of ancient Greek
              being translated.

            • Esthergv

              Glad to inform you that hubris and hybris are interchangeable. Both mean approximately the same things…arrogance, haughtiness, pride.

              • Verbena09

                This little argument about hubris and hybris was highly entertaining.  Thanks to all who participated in such an educational session.  Sincerely.

          • Guest

            “Hybris” is a word, but it’s not a substitute for “hubris.”

      • Branwren

        Didn’t you just love the post? Their studying Psychology and want people to grow up but then degrades them personally by calling them derogatory names. Yeah, that makes sense. I went to a Psychiatrist once. I was 16. Having had them do exactly what I told them not to do, causing me to be beaten when I got home, I will never trust another one and will never, ever go to one. Voodoo doctors each and every one of them. NO ONE knows how the mind works from one person to the next. All they can do is speculate based on the most common results of an action or thought, but, to know whats going to happen for certain…Nah, can’t be done.

        • BludBaut

          There are something like 17 different bases for psychological theory, so, from the get go, “psychology” is practically meaningless. Some of the theories are so different, one could call them opposite in some regard. It’s not nearly as sound as too many suppose.

          The high rate of suicide among psychologists is probably related to their guilt for deceiving people while taking their money to do so.

      • Girliepie Player

         Not that you need to teach anyone how to use the dictionary!
        World English Dictionary
        hubris or hybris  (ˈhjuːbrɪs)
        — n

        1.     pride or arrogance
        2.     (in Greek tragedy) an excess of ambition, pride, etc, ultimately causing the transgressor’s ruin
         [C19: from Greek]
         hybris or hybris
         — n
         [C19: from Greek]
         hu’bristic or hybris
         — adj
         hy’bristic or hybris
         — adj
        hybris  (ˈhaɪbrɪs)
         — n    a variant of hubris
         hy’bristic
         — adj

        Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition
        2009 © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd. 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins
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        The Response was Hilarious!
        ..There is a guest that isn’t invited to the spelling bee!

      • Jahblessiani

        Lol ahhhhhh, so true .

    • http://www.facebook.com/DirtyBelgian Zach Stone

      BEBE,

       Since your getting your Ph.D. in Pysch I am surprised you missed a little piece of undergraduate level (hopefully) required reading called “Irritating the ones you love,” by Dr.Jeff Auerbach.  It gives excellent insights into why human beings choose “the same type of jack-asses.”  Check it out. It may benefit your work in the future with couples.  

    • http://profiles.yahoo.com/u/MLSJPD7HVS2XLAG5A3V2U3CTAA obama_tar.baby

      wtf is hybris sasha? is that some kind of new vaginal infection? Where is it exactly that you are studying Phychology (no i didnt misspell it…)

  • Moonraker

    Wow, Art, you are a terrifying individual.  I feel sorry for any female in your life.  You will end up alone.

  • slyboots2

    it’s a troll. Flag and move on.