I didn’t always understand why couples went to pre-marital counseling. I believed that counseling, of any kind, was only necessary when there was a problem. So when a friend would tell me that she and her fiancé were going to premarital counseling, I have to admit that I thought to myself, “Well, they’re in trouble. They don’t even have real problems yet and they already need to see a therapist. How are they going to handle real problems later?” Since then I’ve learned that that’s the exact reason couples go to premarital counseling: to avoid large problems taking them by surprise later in life. Couples counseling helps you go into marriage with your eyes wide open, so you don’t feel blindsided by your partner’s expectations later. Here is what you can expect to discuss in premarital counseling.
How you believe married life will change
Do you believe your relationship will change once you’re married? Does your partner? It’s pretty important you discuss that. If your partner has certain expectations regarding your investment in the relationship and your behavior after you tie the knot, you should know what those are, and tell him whether or not you can fulfill them.