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My partner doesn’t have a very high sex drive. He takes a medication that nearly kills his libido and, while I may have some pull in this relationship, I cannot tell him to stop taking useful medication. That being said, while I understand why he needs to take his medication, that doesn’t eliminate the effects I feel from being with a man who rarely wants to have sex. I can empathize with him, while still acknowledging my own experience. As any woman knows, you’re used to turning men down. You’re used to spending half of your day (unfortunately) dodging advances from men you’re not interested in. So to find a man you love and want to have sex with, and to be the one who is dodged, is confusing, and a little painful. Here’s what it’s like to be with a man with a low libido.


You can feel less-than-feminine

It doesn’t feel very feminine to always have to be the one initiating sex. Whether it’s wrong or right, women are used to men constantly pursuing sex. We’re not used to having to be the aggressors. There is a difference between initiating sex because you feel like being the boss that night, and always initiating it because if you don’t, nobody else will. So much for feeling dainty and girly.






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