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If you’re a woman who isn’t sure whether or not she wants children, you’ll probably be faced with some frustrating and confusing conversations. When you state, at dinner with your friends or family, that you don’t know if you want kids, people might stop talking and put down their forks for a moment. Without realizing it, your friends and family subconsciously always assumed that one day you’d be a mother. They only realize it now, when your announcement takes them back. And when people are taken by surprise, they can say some pretty dumb things. But, you have plenty of your own questions and confusing thoughts, so you really don’t need anyone adding to those. Too bad; they will. Here are some words for women who aren’t sure if motherhood is for them.
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People will say you’ll change your mind
Some people will dismiss your uncertainty around motherhood, give a little wave of the hand in your direction (as if they just sent the maternal instinct your way) and say, “Meh. You’ll change your mind.” This will be annoying, since you didn’t even make up your mind yet, and because this person is assuming all women, at some point, must want children.
