If you’re going to get back with an ex, you better make damned sure he is the one. Aside from the fact that if things don’t work out again the second breakup will be even harder than the first one, and aside from the fact that, well, it’s a little embarrassing to fail at the same relationship twice, you have to consider how hard the whole situation is on your friends. You know—the ones who woke up at 3 am to your drunken calls when you were crying about this guy? You know—those friends who got in trouble at work for texting you when you were feeling incredibly sad and needy and they knew you needed constant contact during that breakup? Yes. Those friends. You put them through a lot when you broke up with this man. So when you tell them you’re giving it another go with him, they aren’t just going to embrace the situation with open arms. Here is why it’s hard for your friends when you get back with an ex.
You’ve told them the worst
When the relationship ended the first time, you finally felt free to confess to your friends about all of the terrible things your partner did. You told them the worst things he ever said—you really made him out to be a monster. Now they’re just supposed to forget that?