Signs She Desperately Needs You To Be More Romantic
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together; you don’t get to just stop being romantic. This is a romantic relationship, is it not? Romance is what differentiates your girlfriend from your platonic friends, so it’s pretty darn important that you keep it up. And look, you aren’t a bad boyfriend if you’ve let the romance fall by the wayside—you’re actually a pretty standard one. Naturally, once you get comfortable with somebody and know that they know you love them, you start devoting a little more attention to other areas of your life again, and a little less attention to planning little surprises and thinking of cute gifts to get your boo. But don’t let things get so off balance that you neglect the romance entirely. Here are signs she desperately needs you to be more romantic.
She sends you flyers and e-vites every day
It seems that you get an email from her every day, and attached to it is an e-vite to some yoga-on-the-beach class, new restaurant opening, wine tasting in your area or quirky, fun activity.
She always wants the shareable item at the restaurant
She wants the two of you to split things, she wants to know what the specials are, she wants to share a bottle of wine, and she wants dessert! That’s right; she doesn’t just want you both to get your own, separate entrees, eat quick and get out of there.
She always asks, “What’s the rush?”
If you’ve heard this question a lot, then you probably aren’t taking the time to enjoy moments with her. She might ask it when you’re eating breakfast on a Sunday morning and you’re rushing to get to the gym, or when you’re snuggling in bed and you hop out after 30 seconds.
She is over your regular restaurant
When she asks where you want to eat on date night, and you suggest the same place you always do, her face noticeably drops in disappointment. When you ask, “Is something wrong with that place?” she says, “No. It’s fine.” Just FINE.
She wants “a view” and “ambiance!”
What does she want from a restaurant? She wouldn’t mind a view, she really wants ambiance, and she’s wondering which restaurants have live music tonight.
She tells you how romantic her friend’s partner is
She tells you about every romantic thing the partners of her friends have been doing lately. Oh, and if she finds a story online about something romantic somebody did, she shows it to you.
She brings up road trips and vacations a lot
She has been pushing for some sort of getaway for the two of you. She constantly sends you links to resort deals and cheap flights.
She buys herself flowers
This is getting painful.
She lights candles for casual Tuesday night dinner
She adds romantic touches to otherwise casual evenings. She lights candles and plays romantic music for Tuesday night dinner. She even picked up a fancy little dessert-for-two to have after.
She’s been buying lingerie and showing it to you
She is putting on little fashion shows at home, desperately hoping that you’ll take your eyes off of your laptop and drop your jaw.
Her movie choice is always a love story
It seems like her movie choices are becoming more romantic and dramatic each week. And she wants to snuggle very closely while you watch them.
She keeps talking about when you met
You know—back when you were always romantic and still putting in an effort? She isn’t talking about this for her health!
She is trying to drag out foreplay
When you try to get things moving in the bedroom, she slows you down. She is purposefully prolonging intercourse because she just wants a little more time with you.
She says, “Can we not talk about work?” a lot
This means much more than it sounds like. This also means, “Can we not talk about what the plumber said about the toilet?” and “Can we not talk about calling our landlord to make sure he repaints the numbers on our parking spots?” She doesn’t want to talk about practical matters.
She’s been pushing for a staycation
Most weekday mornings she tries to pull you back into bed and convince you to play hooky with her. And she is really keen on the idea of you two taking a staycation, where you do nothing but lay in bed, order delivery, have sex and watch movies.
She is trying to bring back make out sessions
When you go in for a quick kiss, she grabs your face and tries to turn it into a make out session.
She wants to run errands together
When you’re leaving for the pharmacy or grocery store she says, “Wait! I’ll come with you! It’ll be fun!”
She wants to exercise together (and somewhere pretty)
She also wants to exercise together, and rather than hit the boring old gym, she keeps looking up new, pretty places to go for a hike or jog.
She sits on your side of the booth
At restaurants, she sits on your side of the table or your side of the booth. When you watch a movie, she wants the two of you to snuggle up on one couch even though you have two couches.
She is bailing on your boring, non-romantic plans
It seems like, when you suggest doing the same old thing you always do, she ends up bailing. This is because she’s starting to give up, and would rather hang out by herself than have another unromantic night with you.