Things 20-Somethings Do That Drive 30-Somethings Nuts
Thirty-somethings and 20-somethings often mingle in the same places; they have similar ranks at their jobs, have some overlap in their friends’ groups, love the same bars, and even date each other. And while these two age groups are only a decade apart, they are light years apart when it comes to their values, their experiences, and their perspectives, which is why 20-somethings tend to drive 30-something’s a little crazy. If you’re in your twenties, hoping to make a good impression on your older colleagues so they’ll consider you for better positions, you should know about this list. If you’re in your thirties and think you might “accidentally” spill your coffee on your twenty-something-year-old coworker’s cell phone one of these days, you should know you’re not alone. Here are things 20-somethings do that drive 30-somethings crazy.
Talking more than listening
If you are in your twenties, then there is a good chance that everywhere you go, the people around you know more than you do, have more insight to offer to the conversation, and have more valuable stories. In the words of Jodeci, “Don’t talk; just listen.”
Talking more than doing
Put a few cocktails in a twenty-something, and they can talk for hours about the art gallery they are going to open one day or the book they’re going to write one day. How about this; get a side job to put aside money to put a down payment on that art gallery. Spend your Saturdays outlining your book rather than drinking mimosas.
Don’t ask your 30-something friend what they think this text thread (then you shove the text thread in their face) means. They know what it means, but that’s not the point—you shouldn’t bother yourself trying to figure out how people feel about you and what people think about you. Just do what you’re proud of in life, and the right people will like you.
You are almost never entitled to anything. There are always people who have been working longer and harder than you, are better-connected than you, and have done more favors than you can imagine, to have the opportunity or thing that you want. If someone could put those details in a document for you, you’d be embarrassed that you ever felt entitled to anything.
Idolizing the wrong people
Marilyn Monroe, for example. Twenty-something’s love her, and see her as some bad*ss, groundbreaking, devil-may-care female. Let’s take a balanced approach; she also had affairs with married men and was addicted to painkillers. Everyone is great in their way, and everyone is not so great in their way. Be aware of both sides of a person; don’t idolize.
Spending money the wrong way
It doesn’t matter what a good deal the booze cruise, the designer handbag, or the loft apartment is. When you cannot afford to put a down payment on a home, you will not be smiling about that good deal anymore.
Speaking poorly about people
If you dislike somebody so much that you have to talk poorly about them, then the mature thing to do is remove them from your life. If you don’t, people won’t feel sorry for you as that person continues to bother you.
Taking any relationship seriously before three months
Just…nah ah. No. Nobody wants to hear it. It doesn’t matter how much you laughed on the third date. It doesn’t matter what little detail he remembered on the fourth date. Nobody wants to invest in your “relationship” before it’s been three months so stop talking about it.
Trying to get turnt up everywhere
Baby showers, baptisms, kickball games, a day at the flea market—twenty-something’s see every activity as a chance to get drunk. Meanwhile, thirty-something’s want to know why twenty-something’s are hogging the one changing room at the flea market and GIGGLING in it!
Getting cliquey at work
Do not worry about who is cool or who is well-connected at work. Worry about doing a great job and being kind to people. The right people will take notice. Plus, you’d be surprised how often the important people actually can’t stand the cool people, so you may want to keep your distance there.
Blaming everyone else for their problems
Your dating life isn’t awful because men are awful and your job doesn’t suck because your boss doesn’t understand you. If things are awful, it’s because you haven’t done anything to change them, and you continue to make the same mistakes.
Obsessing over putting on three pounds
Thirty-something’s are just so not about that life. If we gain three pounds on vacation all we know is that we got to take a VACATION!!! In fact, we love those three pounds; they’re our little souveniers.
Failing to do research
Before you jump on a bandwagon to hate or love a person, policy or trend, do your research. Rarely in this life is one person 100 percent right and one person 100 percent wrong, so you should never follow someone who claims to be.
They don’t exist in the morning
Twenty year olds moan if you try to get them to show up to a 10:30 brunch on the weekends. In fact, they moan if brunch is at 1 pm. If you’re friends with one, you just can’t see them until the evenings.
Thinking babies and families are the end
Twenty-something’s can only see so far into the future; they know they want to find that special someone, but they think they’re immune to the things that come after finding that someone. You know, things like wanting to unite your lives and create something wonderful like a baby. They’ll feel it one day—they’ll see.
Fixating on what’s fair and isn’t fair
It probably isn’t fair that your boss is asking you to re-do work that you already did because he has now decided (after you did it!) that he wants it done a different way. But would you rather lose your job over this argument, or suck it up and keep your job?
Needing to be right
Twenty-somethings love to be social warriors, but in all the wrong places. They’ll pick a fight over someone cutting them in line at the grocery store. Where does that get them? In a bad mood all day and they didn’t adjust or change the jerk who cut them even an ounce.
Rushing their careers
If you think you’re ready for the next thing, you’re probably not ready. Anyone who puts real research into what an opportunity or task entails usually realizes that there is no such thing as being ready, and so they proceed with extra caution and care.
Complaining when a boss is mean
Your boss doesn’t have to be nice to you; your boss has to sign your checks. He doesn’t even need to couch his criticism of your work or sugar coat it. Human Resources is not going to care that your boss “took a tone” with you.
Squandering their reputation
Your reputation is invaluable, takes years to build, and can be broken in an instant. Never forget that (like when you’re considering making out with the intern at the company party because you’re heartbroken after a breakup.)