Every week there is an article written about where to find and how to meet men; and, oftentimes, what we are looking for is already there disguised as a friend. He’s handsome, smart, fun…and overlooked. It may be that he’s not your typical type or you feel like he is too much of a player to ever be interested in simmering down for you.
And, you’re missing out.
Many of the greatest love stories begin with friendship. It is the universal foundation for happy, long-lasting relationships. If you have a guy bestie that puts you on a pedestal, he may be in the market for your love.
Here are 10 signs he wants to be more than plain ‘ole friends:
He calls you very regularly.
By very, I mean every day—often before bedtime. Flirty conversation because he just wants to hear your voice.
He wants you to know about his childhood, family, plans, hopes, dreams, etc.
Guys don’t willingly spill the beans to any old girl. They are usually careful about with whom they make themselves emotionally vulnerable. The level of trust speaks volumes and letting you in on his future plans could be because he wants you to be a part of them.
When you met his mom she had already heard “…so much about you!”
Most men don’t bring every woman home to meet their mother. Only the ladies that mean something.
Can you say sexual tension?
You have noticed him checking you out and experienced the awkwardness of him getting lost in your eyes mid-conversation. And, the tickling sessions turned play wrestling matches are really just alternative forms of dry-humping.
He would rather hang out at your place than kick it with his boys.
Bros before you knows but not girlfriend-material.
He tells you he feels grateful to have you in his life.
Translation: You have helped make me a better person. In his mind, you are near perfect for the long-haul. That’s why you all are such great “friends.”
If you don’t like his girlfriends, they don’t stay around for long.
This is usually because they are just female bodies taking up space until he is ready to pursue a long-term, committed relationship with you. Hence, why your opinion carries so much weight.
He holds your hand.
Public displays of affection scream “This is my girl.” It is a demonstration of both intimacy and ownership.
He remembers your birthday.
Most people barely remember their parents’ birthdays. This is an indicator that you’re a significant figure in his world and he looks forward to celebrating special occasions with you.
He calls you a pet name.
It could be something as unintentional and simple as “Hey, Baby” when he greets you or “See you later, Babe” when he’s leaving. Terms of endearment are an indication that things are more than friendly.
LaShaun Williams is a Madame Noire contributor and columnist whose work has appeared in the New York Times and across several popular sites, such as HuffPost Black Voices and the Grio. Visit her blog Politically Unapologetic for more on love, life and culture, or follow her on Twitter @itsmelashaun and Facebook.