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Being an alpha female can be a very good thing. Alpha females usually don’t wait long to order drinks, they don’t hesitate to ask for raises, they speak up when somebody wrongs them, and they walk through life with a vibe that demands respect. There are only a few instances in life when there is such thing as being too bold and too assertive, and one of them is in a relationship. Communication is key, but alpha females sometimes accidentally bulldoze their partners. There’s a reason for that; alpha females often choose more demure men to balance them out! It’s a very healthy case of opposites attracting, but sometimes, the alpha female can dominate her partner without even knowing it. If this sounds like you, don’t get mad that your partner can’t rise to the challenge that is you sometimes—you fell for him because he’s patient and even keel—but be aware of these common relationship pitfalls of alpha females.

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Pushing for your restaurant

You have to know that your partner will tell you he’s fine going to the restaurant you want to go to, just because he wants the conversation to be over. He knows that you love “winning” and won’t stop until you get your way, and he’s really fine eating anywhere, so he just goes where you want to go. But is that how you want to make him feel?

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Arguing that your movie is better

Alpha females tend to enjoy being authorities on subjects. So when it’s time to pick a movie, you may have 12 articles about how great your choice is, and 12 articles about how crappy his choice is. To avoid this entire experience, your guy just lets you pick the movie every time. You didn’t win—you just wore him down.

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Talking him into your friend’s party

When it’s time to choose between seeing your friends or his, you relentlessly explain why going to your friend’s party makes more sense. It’s closer. The alcohol at the bar is cheaper. Your guy likes your friends whereas you are lukewarm on his. You make good points, but maybe you shouldn’t try to make good points and just go to his friend’s events sometimes, without complaining.

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Being argumentative with his friends

So he has a few friends that you, quite frankly, think are dumb-sses. You always pick arguments with them, sitting in the room waiting to pounce on the first stupid thing they say. But perhaps you should remember that you love your man, and he loves his friends, so there must be something redeeming about them. You should just get along with them for his sake.

Criticizing him with his parents

When you and your guy visit his parents, his parents will inevitably criticize him about something—from his clothes to his career path. They may make some points that you agree with. As an alpha female, you love the chance to have people on your side! But you should be on your partner’s side, and sit this criticism session out.

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Always talking about your career

Your partner would let you talk about your career for three hours if you didn’t stop yourself. But maybe you should stop yourself and ask him how his work is going.

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Always, well, talking

Alpha females are chatty! They can dominate the conversation in social settings, failing to let other people get a word in. Including their partner, who sits silently on your double date because he doesn’t want to interrupt you.

Failing to notice when he’s ready to go

If you’re an alpha female, then your partner knows you like parties. You shine at them! So he probably won’t tell you that he’s exhausted or bored. You have to learn to look for those signs yourself.

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Dragging him out when he’s tired

Speaking of your partner being exhausted, know when your partner needs a night in. You probably always want him to come along with you wherever you go! But that desire shouldn’t always overpower his need for some down time.

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Never letting him be sad

One of the great things about alpha females is that they always look for solutions, next steps, and silver linings. But sometimes, your partner needs to say, “This situation sucks” and he just wants you to empathize, not strategize.

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Never letting him see you sad

Because alpha females like to keep their heads up, they often don’t let themselves become sad. But it’s important for your personal health, and the health of your relationship, to sit in some sadness sometimes.

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Believing sex is always the answer

You’re an alpha female, so you’re probably very confident in the bedroom. And you like to help people have fun! So, it might be hard for you to accept when your partner isn’t in the mood to have sex—you’re certain he can get in the mood if you push hard enough. And, you’re probably right, but that doesn’t mean you should push for it every time.

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Pushing him in his work

It’s wonderful that you believe in your partner and want him to succeed! But, just because you do things full speed ahead doesn’t mean your partner wants to. If he’s happy with the way his career is going, don’t shove seminars and networking event tickets down his throat. He’ll do things in his own time.

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Giving too much advice

Alpha females are often smart and generous, so when they hear somebody has a problem, they want to fix it! But your partner might, sometimes, want to figure something out on his own.

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Picking every battle

There’s a difference between having open communication and literally never letting even one fight go. Alpha females can mistake picking every battle for having an open dialogue.

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