The Seven Deadly Sins of Dating

2.  Abuse

It’s obvious that when a relationship includes physical violence or deliberate emotional and mental belittlement, it’s time to serve those walking papers.  Unfortunately, I’ve witnessed many situations where partners are oblivious to the fact that they bring out the worst in each other and too many times their interactions escalate until irreparable damage occurs.  Anyone who takes your temper to a point where it’s unrecognizable is probably not your match made in heaven and until you can control your emotions in a healthy way, a relationship is probably one of the last things that you need. When personalities conflict, sometimes there’s no one to blame.  And any relationship that

is harmful isn’t worth the tears spent on it.

What people sometimes don’t take into account is how dangerous it can be to get involved with someone who is also abusive to themselves.  When someone is actively engaged in drug or alcohol abuse, it can be difficult for their partner to see that they’re not really in a relationship at all.  They’re playing the side chick while the main girl is the substance.  Someone who doesn’t love themselves or has unhealthy personal issues is  definitely not equipped to offer someone else what they need in a relationship.