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Over the weekend, my fiancé and I began premarital counseling with my Pastor. For some reason, I was extremely nervous about sitting down with him. Thankfully, all went well; however, there was one part of our conversation that left me with questions.

“Marriage? Why now? Don’t you want to see the world, girl?” my Pastor joked when we first walked into his office and sat down.

Although it was a joke, I know just as well as anyone that every joke has a hint of truth in it. So towards the end of the meeting, I decided to revisit his comments about travel.

“Can’t I travel once I’m married as well? I can still see the world,” I said.

“Yeah, we can see the world together,” my fiancé said.

“Yes, you two travel together,” my Pastor advised. “Traveling with your friends only leads to trouble. You think they’re your friends, but they will set you up so fast.”

This was news to me. Last spring, we also went to counseling sessions with a licensed therapist. While the therapist recommended that we travel together, he never advised against traveling alone. I love my pastor, and I’m sure that he’s seen a lot in his day and knows what he’s talking about. I’d also like to think that I know my friends pretty well. And well, I’m torn. I definitely look forward to seeing the world with my future husband, but I can’t imagine never going on another all-girls trip for the rest of my life. Perhaps not as often, but never again?

When I returned to work this week, my co-worker and co-author of this column, Victoria, who will also be getting married soon, asked me how counseling went. I shared how amazing it was, and then I told her about my Pastor’s views on traveling. Surprisingly, she shared that she has been dealing with something similar lately. Apparently, her sister, with whom she frequently travels, is reluctant to speak to her about future plans for all-girls trips because she assumed that Victoria wouldn’t be able to travel with her anymore. Needless to say, Victoria is feeling kind of weird about that.

We’re new to the whole marriage thing, so we’d love to hear from you all. Ladies, did you stop going on all-girls trips once you got married? Why or why not?

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