“This Is Not A Cute Lifestyle” Social Media Maven Supa Talks Having A Boyfriend In Prison, “Hall Passes,” & More

“I don’t. If they tell me that I encourage them to stay by their man’s side, then I’ll say to ‘hold him down.’ I feel like my definition of holding a man down and theirs may be totally different. I don’t’ tell women because your boyfriend’s in jail you should hold him down. All women ain’t built like that. And not only that, some men ain’t even deserving. Some men ain’t even worth it.

My thing is, don’t be with a man 3 whole years and he cheated on you and you stayed with him for 3 whole years. But when he go to jail you say, ‘Oh, I’m not going to f–k with him because he cheated on me.’ You knew that 3 years ago. Right now is critical for him. Right now is going to change his whole life. For you to leave him now, when he needs you the most and you stayed all the other times.

But no, I don’t encourage women to do it because nobody should motivate you to be with somebody you love. That’s stupid. It has to be in your heart. If you really love somebody, that go without being said. So I’m not telling you…because if you really love him, you’re going to do that regardless. Even if you’re only doing it because I’m talking about it and you do it, you’re not going to do it for too long. I don’t encourage them to do it. It’s just me sharing my love. And if you start back josing your boyfriend because of me, you stupid! This is not a cute lifestyle. It’s hard. I just make it look easy. It’s horrible. It’s a nightmare. It’s really hard to go through. I’m just being open about it because it helps me.”

Even though she takes solace in the stories of those in a situation similar to hers, it doesn’t mean that she’s been without her doubts these past ten years.

“[I have doubts] all the time, especially when we’re together, together, like now (relationship wise). Of course, I feel like when he comes home, he’s not going to be with me or when he comes home, he might play on me or he might change. We all have those feelings. But it’s no different from being with a free man. It’s the same thing. Your man could be at home sick, out of work and you’re just taking care of everything and you fear that as soon as he get on his feet, he’s just going to leave you. You fear that once a man gets right and gets on his feet, he’s just going to dash on you.

I had the same fear with my baby daddy. I had the same fear with my exes. I feared them leaving me after I done so much for them. The same things I do for my boyfriend now, I’ve done with boyfriends before. He not the only one that I gave money to, or helped out or cooked for. I get that fear with any man I deal with, I fear that you’re going to leave me when I need you the most.”

So we had to ask, since Get Em has been away for so long, is she allowed to see other men? We prefaced this question by mentioning the 8 hall passes Toya bestowed on her husband Memphitz. Before speaking about her own situation, Supa reacted to a married couple with those type of allowances.

“Girl, no indeed. Girl, what?! First of all, I’ve heard of women giving their companions hall passes. Even now, with me and Get Em, it’s understood that he’s incarcerated and I’m home. He not dumb. I’m not about to sit up here and fake the funk like I’m not going to talk to, communicate and do anything with anybody else. Get Em has two years left. So come on, let’s be real. He’s not no fool. I’m not even going to sit up here and lie to him and make it seem like… But I would never put a man before him. I would never post any other man on my page. I would never go that deep with another man. When somebody has your heart, you’re not even focused on another man like that.

By him being incarcerated, I can’t control what he do. But while you’re in jail, nobody [other women] can’t come see you. For what?! It’s purposeless.

But I’m not going to say ‘Oh, you can’t talk to nobody.’ Because I’d be a fool to make it seem like he got a whole cell phone and he’s not going to talk to nobody.

But it’s different when you come home! Hall passes?!

Gurrrrrlll

That’s why they’re [Memphitz and Toya] not working now!

It had to be his [idea] and she agreed. Y’all relationship is not healthy enough for that. You ain’t been with him long enough.

For one thing, 8 is too many! You can catch AIDS in 8 days. A man could have sex with two women in one day, that’s 16 hoes, girl.

She just made New Orleans look bad because that is too stupid.

It’s this type of hilarious honesty that’s skyrocketed Supa into social media fame. We asked what does Get Em think about her newfound “celebrity.”

He says all the time that he don’t deal with Supa. He deal with Reynell. He’s like ‘Let Supa do her and I just want to deal with Reynell.’ The only thing he said that’s much different is I’m always busy. He’s used to me coming to see him twice a month and it’s different now, cuz I be out of town. I be working. And for the last three months, I’ve been booked out of town on his visiting days. And that’s the only thing he has to try to cope with. But other than that, he cool with it. His biggest thing is that he doesn’t ever want to feel disrespected because of social media.”

You would think that a couple who’s not in each other’s faces day in and day out might not have much to argue about. But that’s not so with Supa and Get Em. 

“Yes, a lot. We argue mainly about if we don’t communicate a certain amount during the day, he feels like something’s wrong. When I break down, I don’t tell him about that. I don’t want him to think that it’s overwhelming and I’m getting skeptical and I’m going to back out. I don’t even tell him about the situation because I don’t want him to think I’m unsure about what we really have. So we’ll fuss about that.

Then we argue about him on social media. If I even see anything that I don’t like, then I’m going to fuss about it, like who is this?!

We do argue but I’m just not ready for the real arguments like ‘You ain’t put the toilet seat down.’ I’m not ready for it but I feel like at the same time, I’m going to laugh it because ‘I’m just so happy you’re here.'”

Speaking of plans for their future once Get Em is free, a huge smile spread across Supa’s face.

“Girl, only plans I got right now are sexual plans. I’m kind of happy that he has–because he was supposed to come home in January but we had a little difficulty so he has two more years left. Everybody thought I was upset or mad but I wasn’t because it gives me time to prepare. Harsh reality is, it’s going to be all me, especially financially. In the beginning it’s going to be all me. And I’m looking to buy a house. I’m looking to do so much stuff. I’m financially safe right now but in two years I’ll be so much better off. I’ll have so much to make the situation easier. We all know that when you’re broke, it just makes your problems so much worse. And I feel like two years give me enough time to prepare so the only thing he has to worry about is finding work. And that’s the risk I have to take because I know that’s not going to be easy.

I want to travel but I know once he comes home, we can’t even do that too much. Because even though he’s not doing the whole 17 years in jail, he will have to do 17 years on paper, on parole. He cant go out the country and that’s everything I want to present to him because I was never able to travel until I got into social media. He’s been overseas, he’s traveled the world because his mom was in the military; but it’s different now, because now you’re older and it would be like vacation instead of moving trying to settle. So it’s so much stuff that I want to introduce to him because he lost his entire twenties to jail. So I just have to pace myself and save up so we could at least live comfortable.”

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