What Happened To Taking Things Slow? 15 Signs You’re Moving Too Fast
There’s nothing more beautiful than the start of a new relationship. Things are fresh and you have the chance to get to know someone on a more intimate level. Hopefully, you take things slowly, as moving too fast in a relationship can cost you emotional and financial pain.
Give up the “cookie”
Now, it’s one thing if you don’t mind swerving and shaking in the beginning of a relationship. However, sex early on doesn’t equal commitment. In some cases, it can end a potential romance, particularly if that’s all the person you liked, really wanted.
Overshare the relationship
“Girl let me change my relationship status on Facebook now that I have a man.” Do you really think a few dates equates to an official relationship? Hopefully, it does as you would hate to go from “in a relationship” to “single” in the matter of weeks. Spend time testing the waters first.
Demand a marriage timeline
Um, can we get through the appetizers first before you start making seating charts for our wedding? Even if your potential forever candidate sounds awesome, please give it some time. It’s so easy to jump into things head first.
Meet your children
Where is Ciara?
This is a personal choice every parent has to make. You should realize that introducing your child to a lover is a very serious step that deserves time. After all, who wants to have just anybody near their pride and joy?
Want to meet the entire family
Don’t forget the pets!
While it’s great you want to see where your new boo thang comes from, work on solidifying your relationship before you take such a serious step. Then again, some families are so nosy they demand to meet any and all potential suitors.
Move in together
Wait and back up that moving truck. Y’all just met and you already want to share the same address? Can’t you be happy with some free address labels and call it a day? Moving in together is a very, very serious decision that people who are just now dating shouldn’t make.
Open up a joint account
Here’s another no-no that has potential to turn really ugly, really fast. Coupling your coins together this early in the game is very dangerous.
Pay each other’s bills
Finances are extremely personal and should be kept hush until you thoroughly get to know someone — like their Social Security number and how much they make (kidding, but kind of serious). That might be extreme but scams are real. Don’t get caught up.
Lend each other money
Stop. Pause. Wait a minute.
I just met you and you’re already trying to bum $200 off me? Now, let’s think about this. Do you believe this sends the right message to someone you just started seeing? Why couldn’t you get it elsewhere, and more importantly, why are you short? Yes, we all experience highs and lows but this might be the precursor to something you don’t want any part of.
Make a big purchase together
“I know we’ve only been dating for three months and all, but let’s go ahead and get this house.”
Don’t be so quick to attach your name (and credit score) to someone else.
Make a life-changing decision
Things like quitting your job and moving across the country to be in a relationship are very tough choices, especially for those in a new relationship.
This shouldn’t be too big of a problem so long as you two take your time to get to know each other. There’s nothing wrong with taking a long engagement if it works in your favor. Just know this is still a pretty big step.
Didn’t you just hear that a decision like this is too big to make so fast?! No matter how many Kardashians get married, it’s a very big deal and shouldn’t be entered into lightly. Pump your breaks.
Have a baby
Being a single parent is no joke. Hopefully, you and your partner can work together for the sake of your child; but jumping into having a baby, is not fair to the pending bundle of joy.
Ditching everyone for the sake of love
Put it to you this way, you better be darn certain this person is worth sacrificing your other relationships. Too many people isolate themselves from friends and family for the sake of love.