A writer by the name of Andrea Michelle published an article in UPTOWN magazine titled, “Why White Women Are Winning.” As you can imagine, black women (if not already) will soon be up in arms defending their “choice” to remain single.
Whether or not (most likely not) they will admit to it, black women generally struggle with admitting to falling short in areas that have proven to be strengths in other groups of women. White women, in particular, marry in far greater percentages than black women; and, more and more of them are marrying black men. Thus, black women who want to get married need to understand that they have to step up their game. Statistics and unbiased observation show that, when it comes to the wives club white women make up the Winners’ Circle. According to the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention):
While 17% of Hispanic and 12% of non-Hispanic white women have not married by age 35, 42% of non-Hispanic black women have not married by this age.
Among the first things the author lists as a roadblock for black women is our perception of marriage:
With the odds in their favor and a societal veneration of marriage, white women will more than likely find who and what they want in partnership. Therefore, they have the luxury of approaching their dating life with a more optimistic attitude and more discerning requirements for potential mates. Do communities of color hold the same hallowed respect or feel the same societal pressures to form the ultimate union? Precipitous erosion of the black nuclear family and generational, single-parent households suggest a different perception of marriage. Equally as troubling is a potential systemic shift in the psyche of young black children regarding marriage. A 2006 account of one Washington Post journalist’s visit to a DC-area middle school unveiled that some among our future generations already believe that marriage is for white people.