This is certainly a topic we’ve discussed before: women deciding to go natural, only to find that their husbands find the look less than appealing. It’s a sad topic and hot button issue but one Steve Harvey wasn’t scared to tackle on his talk show. He interviewed newlyweds, McClea and Love. Love said that once she decided to get rid of her long, silky weave her husband didn’t find her natural hair attractive. McClea agreed that his wife is a beautiful woman but that didn’t stop his extreme reaction.
Love on her husband’s initial reaction to her natural hair
“We’ve been together nine years. About two, three years ago I decided to go natural. Not on purpose but I had this weave in my hair and the weave went bad. After I cut it all off I had not choice but to wear this. The first time he saw it, he ran out the house and then he came back in and asked if it was a wig, and if so to take it off. He wasn’t very supportive of it actually.”
McClea defends himself.
“My wife’s a very beautiful woman as you can see, but when I first met her she had the Brazilian weave down her booty and that’s all she ever wore. When she first took it out it was just shocking to me. I was surprised she looked like a different person…
Well I’m over the shock. I understand that natural hair takes time. It takes time to grow out. And like I said, it’s not something that I’m used to, but I just wish there was more styles she could do with it so it could be more appealing. Something different because there’s not many styles she can with her hair like this so I just tell her that.”
Then Steve finally decided to step in.
“Let me move this stuff out the way. You’re about to get your skull opened up. McClea, what’s wrong with this whole thing is you can’t be any more wrong with your approach. You cannot at no point, in the relationship with a woman, say or make them feel unattractive. You’ve got to find another way to express yourself because the idea behind staying happy, the big thing behind it, a lot of times is support. You’ve got to find another way to say what you’re saying. You can’t run out the house. You can’t sit on the edge of the bed and look at her like she stay down the street somewhere. You can’t have that much gap between y’all on the couch. You’ve got to be a little bit more understanding that this is who you married and at the bottom line, they have a choice. It’s theirs. It ain’t your damn head. All you did is put a ring on that finger. This ain’t yours. You don’t get her head. And plus I want you to be able to get out of here safely. Because right now, the way they’re (the audience) looking at you, I’m assuming there are at least 4-5 attempts on your life.”
Check out the video to see what advice Curly Nikki had to offer and the style options she presented to Love and McClea.
What do you think about Steve and Nikki’s advice to McClea?
