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If you’re a woman who isn’t afraid to tell a man you like him, or that he’s driving you up the wall, or that he has a flaw: good for you. But, of course, under that big mouth is also a big heart that can be broken. And there are men who will make you feel ashamed of being honest. So watch out for these types of guys.
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Men who want to chase
You might meet a man who is so into you—calling you several times a day, telling you how much he adores you, making plans with you whenever he can—but the moment you say to him, “I’m into you” he gets skittish, and ends things.
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Why they do it
Some guys believe a woman is only worth pursuing if she plays a game—that if she gives up her emotions or her affection, maybe she’s not worth pursuing. It’s a totally BS way of thinking, but unfortunately, it’s a myth that weak-minded men have been passing down to weak-minded men for generations. Be proud of yourself for speaking your feelings and just go find a man who can handle them.
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Delicate egos
You’ve been on a few dates with a guy, and he has a great sense of humor. He teases you a lot which you like, so you feel totally safe teasing him—maybe you tease the way he orders at restaurants or how he dresses. And he goes dead silent, and suddenly needs to end the date.
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Why they do it
There are plenty of insecure people out there! That guy might have been taught by other guys that women like to be teased—which is why he did it to you—but he was not prepared for anyone to point out his flaws. Forget him: it’s no fun hanging out with someone who can’t make fun of himself.
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Men who need to do the seducing
You might be in the great beginnings of a relationship with a man, and having incredible sex. He can’t get enough of you. So one night, you plan a surprise for him. Maybe there are handcuffs involved. Maybe you surprise him at his office naked under a trench coat. And he gets weird…
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Why they do it
It takes a strong man to be comfortable with a woman with a strong sex drive. Some men are insecure in the bedroom and need to be the one to initiate things. It’s too much pressure if you initiate things because then there are expectations and there’s pressure. Well, that guy can go and find himself a demure, proper little lady who pretends she’s never heard of an orgasm. And you can go find yourself a man who’s ready for the challenge.
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Being called the B-word
It’s the 21st century, but there are still some men mentally stuck in the 18th century—men who think they can make any sleazy remark at you, or who can insult your intelligence, and you’re just supposed to giggle like a schoolgirl. But you don’t—you stand up for yourself, you tell the guy why he is totally out of line. And what do you get? Typically, you get called a b***h. Right…because you’re the one who started this…NOT!
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Why they do it
A lot of men live their lives in environments where nobody ever challenges what they say! Their friends, family and coworkers tell them they’re rock stars every day, and they have a crew of minions who follow their lead. They’ve never had to figure out what to do if somebody challenged them so when you do, all they have is their raw emotions, insecurities and anger bubbling up and it bursts out in the B-word.
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Men who just want to be agreed with
You go on a date with a man, and he’s very intelligent. He goes on a 20-minute, impassioned speech about something. And you like his passion! You like his knowledge! And guess what? You know a thing or two about the subject too, so you eagerly go on your rant when he’s done. And he becomes quiet. His only response is, “Yeah…that’s nice…” and you feel like you’ve done something wrong.
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Why they do it
Plenty of men are looking for women they can “teach” and be “mentors” to—they want a woman they always feel smarter than or ahead of in life. They’re not looking for an equal: they’re looking for a subordinate. If you don’t drool over the guy’s every word like he’s a genius, you’re not giving him what he wants.
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Men who need to make the plans
You’ve been dating a guy for a while—perhaps you’ve been on three dates—and he has planned every date. He calls you saying he’s made reservations at such and such restaurant, and that he’s bought tickets for such and such show. You point out that that restaurant can be too noisy on that night, and suggest something else. And he sulks as if you just slapped his wrist.
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Why they do it
Just like some men are looking for a subordinate or someone they can mentor, some are looking for a woman who has no life without them—a woman who is thrilled with anything they suggest because otherwise, they’d just be home alone on a Friday eating candy. So when you have an opinion about a place he picked and your own suggestion, he realizes you don’t jump for joy just because he’s called you. And dealing with your opinions is too much pressure.
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Men who don’t take responsibility
So a guy you’re seeing cancels on you at the last minute because his friends invited him to some really cool party. And you’re pissed. And you tell him as much. And he looks shocked, as if you just spoke profanities.
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Why they do it
There are a lot of women out there who never get mad at their guy! For fear of scaring him away, they’ll tolerate any behavior. This guy has probably only dated women like that, and has never had to face the consequences of his actions. He’s a little dumbfounded: he doesn’t even know if you’re allowed to get mad at him! (Of course you are.)
