Matchmaking 101: How To Set Your Friends Up Successfully - Page 2

Even though Valentine’s Day has passed, who says that love still isn’t in the air? Do you have two friends that you think are absolutely made for each other? Are you ready to take on the challenge of introducing these two and getting them closer? If you are, now’s the time to put on your best Cupid face and grab your bow and arrow. If you want to play cupid successfully, here are 14 tips you’ll definitely need to follow.

Know about your friends’ past relationships

You can’t play cupid blindly. Instead, you’ll need to have a pretty good understanding of each of your friends’ previous relationships: what they liked, what they didn’t like, etc. If your friend is looking for someone who is well-educated and values family, then you’ll want to make sure you’re matching her up with a man who has these same values.

Determine if the time is right

Is your friend looking to go on the rebound? Are you looking to match up your friend because you want to try to change his mind about the type of woman he’s attracted to? Time is important when it comes to playing cupid successfully. You can’t be successful if you’re matching two people together at the wrong time.

Make sure they’re both interested

Of course, there are some baseline questions you’ll want to answer before you go forth with playing cupid. First make sure that both of your friends are active in the dating scene. If your girl isn’t looking to have a boyfriend right now, there really is no need for you to play cupid, no matter how much you think she’d get along with this guy friend of yours.

Use social media

If you’re looking for a way to introduce your two friends subtly and without meeting in person just yet, social media is one of the best tools available to you. Convince one of your friends to add the other on Facebook or on Instagram and see how things progress from there. Social media is a good way for your friends to at least become familiar with each other.

Be creative

Cupid can’t be boring, so think of some creative ways to get your two friends together without making it seem obvious — or awkward for them. Nobody likes feeling set up, you have to plan a socially-friendly group activity they can both attend for this to go over well.

Give faith a chance

If you really believe that your two friends will really hit it off, let faith and chance play a role here. Invite them to the same party you’re hosting at your home or invite them to a night out with a big group of friends. This is a good test to see if these two can catch each others’ eyes and spark some vibes without you meddling (well completely).

Know what information you can reveal

When playing cupid, you can’t talk to each of your friends and tell them everything about the other friend you want to set them up with. That ruins the interest of meeting someone new and the mystery behind it all. At the same time, your friends may not want you to tell your other friend certain information about them. Be sure you don’t cross any boundaries when telling your friend about the other person.

Don’t tell everyone

While you may be excited that you’re setting up two of your friends in hopes of starting a great relationship between the two, don’t go out and tell everyone else. No matter how anxious and excited you are, you don’t want to tell everyone what you’re doing or else everyone will have their eyes on these two friends. Be natural about it and talk about how you played cupid once things have settled down.

Don’t hesitate to flatter your friends

A big part of being successful while you play cupid is to be able to talk up your friends to the other. While you don’t need to be overly flattering or gloat too much, it’s important that you’re able to talk up your friends and speak to the amazing-ness that each of them is. Flattering your friends is a good way to be very convincing.

Don’t make excuses

If you can’t talk about one of your friends without using the words “but” or “its because of,” then you’re not doing anyone a favor. If your friend has an odd sense of humor, there’s no need to tell your friend that. Or if your friend can be overly chatty, there’s no need to talk about it. The whole part of being a matchmaker is setting two people up and letting them learn about and understand each other.

Don’t be overly nosy

Once you’ve set up the first date, don’t pester your friends about updates the same night as the date or the day after. Instead, let your friends come to you. No matter how things went, it’s likely that you’ll get updates as soon as your friends are ready to give them. Hopefully there’s good news to be heard. If you get super desperate, try checking social media sites for updates.

Give it a second-go

So the first time these two met things didn’t go as you expected. While they were in the same room, they didn’t get a chance to give each other a lot of attention. Don’t give up just yet! Set up another occasion where these two can be together in close proximity. Have a friend’s night out at a local restaurant or host another party and make sure these two are on the guest list.

Make sure there are no emotional ties

Though it seems silly, there are some women who do it. Never decide to play cupid with a friend who you have a history with or one that you have feelings for. Even if your feelings are slight and very minor, don’t set this friend up with anyone if you can see it causing jealousy and friendship problems in the future. It’s not worth it.