“We’re Not Lesbians” Erica Mena and Cyn Santana Discuss Their Relationship On Hot 97

January 16, 2014  |  

If you’ve been watching this season of  “Love and Hip Hop New York,” you’ve seen that Erica Mena has (kind of) moved on from Rich Dollaz and is in a relationship with Cyn Santana. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, as much as I don’t want to watch and don’t want to like the show, LHHNY is my favorite soap opera. And by that I mean, with the exception of Joe and Tahiry and Yandy and Mendeecees everything else is completely fabricated. But entertaining nonetheless. To me, the relationship that seemed to be the most staged, aside from Peter Gunz and Amina’s is the relationship between Erica Mena and Cyn Santana.

Not that it’s so hard for me to believe that Erica would be bisexual. But it’s hard for me to believe that her relationship with Cyn is not just a ploy to have a juicy storyline on the show and shock a few people along the way. And apparently, I’m not the only one who feels that way. Recently, Erica and Cyn stopped by Hot 97 to basically defend their relationship as Ebro and Peter Rosenberg asked a slew of sexually explicit questions. The conversation was mostly about the quickest way to get to hetero men off but there was at least one thought-provoking nugget. Check out the highlights see if you can find it. We’ll discuss later.

Is their relationship real?

Rosenberg: I don’t know. I don’t know if I believe it fully. Erica I know you love yourself so you found someone who looks like you to make out with.

Cyn: That’s not what it is. We just happen to look a like.

Erica: I think it’s just because we’re always around each other. And I think it’s because you become what you eat. You know that saying.


Their sex life

Cyn: She’s very experienced.

Erica: I’m passionate I take my time.

Cyn: I’m very passionate too! She’s just way more experienced and I’m still stuck in my comfort zone

**Fun Fact** Did ya’ll know that Erica Mena is only 26 and Cyn is only 21 years old! That kind of explains a few things right?


The Labels 

Cyn: We’re not lesbians. We love d*ck too.

Cyn: I’ve like kissed girls before, I’ve never been in a relationship with a girl. She basically harassed me. I was pinned to the wall and I had no other f*cking choice.

Erica: I had to put in a lot of man hours for her.

Ebro: Would you get married?

Erica: Yes, in Jersey.

Cyn: It has to be legal.

Rosenberg: You’re not going to tell us you’re not lesbians and then consider marriage, come on.

Erica: See you guys are putting a label on it. I hate that.

Ebro: So is it fear of the label?

Cyn: If I cared, I would have never ever ever have done the show.

Erica: Once they put you in like a label category it just haunts you. Yo Ebro. You’re sounding… you’re thinking about it too much. You sound mad old.

Ebro: Most people who fall in love with each other and when it’s same sex, it’s a gay relationship or lesbian whatever.

Erica: So you’re in love with your baby mom’s right?

Ebro: I love her.

Erica: So you wouldn’t sit up here and be like ‘Oh, I’m a straight man’ and run with that. ‘I’m a straight man, I’m going to get married.’ It’s the same thing.

Peter: It’s an interesting point. I hear what she’s saying. It’s not a part of labeling unless it’s same sex.

Erica: You only get labelled when it’s like the same and that’s so annoying.

Did you catch it? That last little bit is the interesting part right?! After watching Erica and Cyn’s interview, I’m not any more convinced that they are indeed in a relationship. And I really could care less at this point. Erica gets on my nerves. What I find so interesting is the point they made about the labels placed on same-sex couples.

She didn’t do the best job of explaining it but the sentiment holds up. If two women get married they must be labelled lesbians. Sadly, I know a few people who think identifying as bi-sexual is a farce. Smh… But, as Erica mentioned, we don’t place those same restrictions on heterosexual couples. You don’t get married simply because you’re hetero. The assumption is you get married because you’re in love with a single person. When we talk about homosexual relationships, rarely–very rarely– is the focus on love. It’s more about who sticks which parts where and what folks do in the bedroom. This conversation, whether it intended to go this deep or not, really did point to yet another way homosexual relationships and then marriages are marginalized in our society.

Didn’t think I’d get that from an Erica Mena interview. But there it is.

You can watch the full, sexually explicit NSFW interview on the next page. 

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