He Wants That Old Thing Back: Signs Your Ex Is Still Stuck On You

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Breaking up is never an enjoyable experience, and in the end both sides are left hurt and probably even a little frustrated. But, things can become even worse when you have an ex who is throwing you mixed signals left and right. Even though he said he was over you, he’s still trying to find ways to keep himself in your life. Here are 14 signs that your ex is still stuck on you.

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He still tries to contact you

You two have been broken up for weeks now but looking at his attempts to contact you, one would think that you two never broke up at all. He randomly sends you texts and he sends you messages on Facebook while also posting comments on your Instagram. This is a glaring sign that your ex is still stuck on you.

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He hasn’t found someone new

So it’s been months since you two have broken up and while it can take some time for people to move on and to heal from a breakup, your ex has yet to even go on a date with someone new. If a man isn’t over you, it’s unlikely that he will make plans to go on dates with new women. Of course, this all depends on the man. Some people rebound and some don’t.

He acts a lot warmer towards you

When you two are at the same place.

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e at the same time, you notice that your ex acts loving and caring, and his actions are warmer than they ever were in the past. If your ex is still stuck on you, it’s likely that he’ll act loving and caring in efforts to try to win you back. These warm efforts are signs he wants you back.

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He talks about the relationship a lot

Whether it’s with you or with other people, a good sign that your ex is still stuck on you is when he continues to talk about the relationship long after it’s over. When a man lingers and dwells on something, he probably isn’t fully over it just yet. If he talks about how good the relationship was or how good of a connection you two had, he’s clearly having some regret.

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He’s itching to tie loose ends

When you and your ex talk, he often hits on topics that will allow him to tie lose ends. Maybe he talks about the mistakes he’s made and he talks about how things could have been and ended differently. A man who is loking to tie loose ends is still stuck on you, big time.

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He gets jealous when another man is in the picture

From harmless flirting to actually dating a guy, no matter the situation, when your ex realizes that you’re with or interested in another man, his jealousy, anger, and frustration become highly evident. When your ex becomes jealous and maybe even a little mad, he’s obviously still stuck on you.


He clings on to old memories

Your ex is still stuck on you when he dwells on the old memories of you two. Maybe he still reminds you of your anniversary date or maybe he talks about how you two used to have date night at the movies every Friday. When a man just can’t let things go, he’s clearly still wishing and hoping for the past to become reality again.


He’s drunk dialed you

We all know that the truth tends to come out when we’ve had a little too much to drink. If your ex has drunk dialed you or drunk texted you, explaining his feelings and thoughts, it’s more likely than not that he wants you back. An ex who is still stuck on you may not always admit it outright, but alcohol tends to make one speak the truth.



He makes his presence known

Despite the breakup your ex has insisted that you two remain friends on all of your social networks. But, instead of keeping a low profile and going about his own business, he tends to put a lot of effort and time into making sure that you notice him. He likes all of your pictures, comments on your status, and quotes you in things that he posts.

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He still calls you by your pet names and nicknames

Instead of calling you your real name, your ex still prefers to call you “babe” or “girl” or some other nickname that he called you throughout the relationship. When a man still calls you his pet names, even though the relationship is over, it’s a definite sign that he hasn’t let go of you or the relationship completely. He’s doing anything he can to keep a grip on what once was.


He can be touchy-feely

While he doesn’t do it to be disrespectful, when you and your ex are together at some function, he’s pretty touchy-feely, especially for being just a friend. When a man is still interested and still cares about you, it’s not uncommon for him to show these emotions by touching you. Maybe he goes in for long hugs or maybe he touches your back, arm, or face. Whatever he does, when physical contact is in the picture, he’s definitely not over you.

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He runs into you a lot

Have you ran into your ex at the mall or at the grocery store a few times? As creepy as it may sound and seem, sometimes those coincidences of you two being in the same place at the same time aren’t just coincidences. Walking into your ex often may be a sign that he’s trying his hardest to find ways to run into it, even if it’s just a few minutes.

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He’s flat out said “I miss you”

When a man speaks his emotions, he definitely means it. If your ex has said that he misses you or that he wishes you two were still together, there’s nothing more obvious. If your ex is still stuck on you and he isn’t ashamed of it, he’ll probably tell you.

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He seems down and out

It’s plenty normal to be down and out after a breakup, but these feelings should start to diminish over time. If your ex is making it known that he’s sad, angry, and frustrated, especially publicly, it’s clear that he’s missing you. Things are even clearer when he posts statuses about feeling like he’s missing something. Social media posts will always reveal whether or not your ex is still stuck on you.

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