The Hard Truth: Bitter Black Women Do Exist

The answer is never simple.  For some women it can be from heartbreak, for others it can be from abuse. For some it is growing up in tough situations, for others it is having a good life yanked away.  The scary thing about bitterness is that it is not based on demographics.  There are bitter women of all shades, all incomes and all faiths.  And while that fact makes fodder for fighting the stereotype, it is also a sharp reminder of how close we all can come to being the woman we dread.

After dealing with uneven love, unfair actions and unbelievable hurt, I still believe bitterness, like contentment is a choice.  If anything, I believe it more fiercely than I did before.  Because going though it, I am amazed at my own resiliency, my ability to grow stronger without building up another wall. Being content seems to be the choice that takes the most work, I would like to have enough believe in the power of all women to say that bitterness does not come naturally to us.

I think this week we should choose to explore how a woman can let her situation overtake her spirit.  I think we should discuss it even if it hurts.  Because unless we as women are open about the brokenness around us, we could all miss our chance to be whole.