Breaking “The Code”: Is It Ever Okay To Date Your Friend’s Ex?

5. Is Your Friendship Strong Enough?

You may have decided that your friend’s ex, your new man, is the one you’re meant to be with ad that’s fine.  But have you stopped to think if your friendship is strong enough to handle what she could see as a betrayal? Now, if you two have talked about boundaries or if exes are off limits and she has said that she couldn’t care less, then you probably already know that your girl won’t have a problem with it. After all, she didn’t want him, and she wants you to be happy –which is a very mature way to look at it. But if this is something you two have never discussed or she just assumes that all women know the “Code,” then you have to determine if she’s a friend that you want to risk losing her forever. Like I said before, if she’s just an acquaintance and there will be no love lost, go for yours. But if she’s a dear friend who you don’t want to hurt, really ask yourself if the friendship you think you have is strong enough to get through this.