Breaking “The Code”: Is It Ever Okay To Date Your Friend’s Ex?

1. Why Do You Want to Date Him?

It could be that you crossed paths with her ex, had no idea who he was, and the stars aligned so that you two could be together. But if she’s a long-time friend of yours, chances are you know all about her men, old and new. However, if she’s a “new” friend of yours, a colleague at work or social acquaintance, you may feel that the bond between you and your “friend” is not as strong and therefore, he’s fair game. Either way, examine your motives for even considering dating a friend’s ex. Are you secretly jealous of her and want to take what she has? Do you two have a healthy – or not so healthy – competition with each other and dating her ex is a way to “win”? If you want to date him for reasons that really have nothing to do with him, and more to do with causing her hurt, anger or embarrassment, you’re not a real friend and karma will be a b–ch!