10 Signs You’re The “Token” & Not Actually A Part Of The Team

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5. You find yourself always second-guessing your friends’ intentions when they make references to race.

I remember going out to dinner once with my college roommates whom  I hadn’t lived with for very long.  During appetizers and casual conversation one of them blurted out, “You’re nice for a black girl,” and immediately realizing the indirect insult try to recover with, “Well, not like that.  You know what I mean.”  Did I think she was racist?  Not necessarily.  Did I look at her a little differently from that day forward? Yes.  I guess what she meant is that most of her experiences with black girls had been neck-rolling and finger-snapping.  We all have stereo-types that we’ve repeatedly witnessed proved true, but you shouldn’t have to inspect everything your friends say for hidden racism.

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