5. You find yourself always second-guessing your friends’ intentions when they make references to race.
I remember going out to dinner once with my college roommates whom I hadn’t lived with for very long. During appetizers and casual conversation one of them blurted out, “You’re nice for a black girl,” and immediately realizing the indirect insult try to recover with, “Well, not like that. You know what I mean.” Did I think she was racist? Not necessarily. Did I look at her a little differently from that day forward? Yes. I guess what she meant is that most of her experiences with black girls had been neck-rolling and finger-snapping. We all have stereo-types that we’ve repeatedly witnessed proved true, but you shouldn’t have to inspect everything your friends say for hidden racism.