8. They might be willing to self-reflect
The breakdown of the black family is not solely the fault of the black man. There’s usually a woman in every relationship. Also, if your kids don’t have their father, remember that you may have played a role in pushing the man out of their lives. If you grow up in a home without the male present, you may be tempted to see the man as an accessory rather than a necessity. So, when things get rough, you tell him to hit the road or choose to make life miserable for him. Also, the give and take of relationships is typically learned from watching our parents, so the single parent homes in black America don’t provide a very good incubator for good relationship choices. This goes for both men and women, not just us men.
To conclude, I must apologize to all the good black women across America. But for the bitter, nasty, judgmental, angry, arrogant women on the block, I refuse to apologize. If you were reading the other “8 Reasons” article about black men and finding this to be a justification for your own inability to make a man want to be with you, then you’ll only find yourself perpetually frustrated. You can change the complexion of your love interest, but the consistent variable in your tortured love life is always going to be you.