Love On Your Terms: Are Your Expectations Too High?

Do You Base Your Idea of Love on Chick Flicks?

Some women have an idea of love and relationships that are based on fantasy, not real life. They feel their level of passion should match the intensity of Love Jones’ Nina and Darius or Sex and The City’s Carrie and Big – and if it falls short, it must not be true love. So we hold out for that deep, romantic love where our hero chases us through a train station or flies to Paris to sweep us off our feet, not realizing that such nonsense is strictly for the movies. We blow off the nice guy who doesn’t make our heart stop, but is caring and reliable. We decide that it would be “settling” if we forego the intense fireworks of a kiss in the rain for the stable companionship of a man who would make a great husband and father one day. It’s not until we’re 45 years old with 6 cats that we realize long-term love isn’t a passion-fest – it’s a commitment. Love is what you make it, and who you make it with.